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Summary: This book is for a specific age group
Review: It seems that Lewis mainly addresses women who are at least in their 40's. If you're younger than that, you might not find a lot of this book relevant to you. In the chapter on "Grieving," she says that in your 20's and 30's you might still be determining what you have control over in your life, but by mid-life you've reached your "second adulthood" and are ready for this grieving step, etc. This tells me that she has aimed this book at women who are at least 40. I'm in my late 30's and found the "Grieving" chapter so depressing I have to tell myself it isn't for me. Yet.Specifically, she asks the question, if you had a crystal ball that told you you'd definitely never marry or partner again, what would you do? She describes women who say this would be awful, but also freeing since they could re-direct their energies in self-fulfilling ways instead of looking for a man. But I can feel myself becoming suicidal again when I consider such a crystal ball message. Maybe I'm not strong enough for this book.
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Summary: Unique
Review: This is such a good book. It's truly a unique find in the pool of books aimed at singles. I don't understand the couple of other negative reviews here for I came away with precisely the opposite impression: The author is motivating women NOT to be needy, dependent, or hardened and resigned to being single forever. Her whole aim is to get singles to step away from the emotions and screaming biological clocks while considering things that will make their lives better *whether or not* they ever marry. I thought I was well read on the subject of being happy as a single person, yet this author showed me things I didn't realize I was doing and attitudes I didn't realize I had. For example, I wonder how many other singles find themselves holding off on buying furniture they'd like or buying a house because of thoughts, even very subtle, that they should wait because they'll probably be married someday and "he'll" already have a house or furniture, or you can buy what you like together? I was surprised to realize how many of these little things I was doing - and in effect, how it's a sign of undervaluing the individual's life apart from another. The author also examines commonly held beliefs about singles and how we tend to try to dissect exactly why we're single. Karen Gail Lewis demonstrates how we women typically blame ourselves and try to come to some conclusion, such as we're "too choosy", "too independent", "too set in our ways", "too intelligent", "too intimidating", or whatever. She shows that sometimes there simply is NO reason other than not having met the right person yet: a certain amount of finding a compatible mate is chance. Valuing your life and living your dreams is what this book is all about. It's not about man-hating, being jaded or asexual. It's about taking responsibility for your happiness and your choices WHETHER OR NOT you marry. There are great suggestions that will be strengthening to you whether you remain single forever or do find someone to marry. Karen's book is about not putting your life on hold for "someday". It's all about empowerment.
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Summary: A little disappointing
Review: This isn't a kick a** book like I was hoping. It isn't a celebration of the single state; it seems more the the author was regretfully resigned to this delightful condition. Some of the adivce runs like "bla bla until you can find a man" or "it's not your fault you are single, you've tried long and hard to find a man". As if we were waiting with baited breath for prince charming. I guess it's okay for the needy types.
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Summary: A little disappointing
Review: This isn't a kick a** book like I was hoping. It isn't a celebration of the single state; it seems more the the author was regretfully resigned to this delightful condition. Some of the adivce runs like "bla bla until you can find a man" or "it's not your fault you are single, you've tried long and hard to find a man". As if we were waiting with baited breath for prince charming. I guess it's okay for the needy types.
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