Death without Denial, Grief without Apology: A Guide for Facing Death and Loss

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Summary: Gives you an idea of what to expect
Review: I found this book right when it was starting to look unavoidable that I would lose my 29-year-old husband to cancer. He is still here for the moment, and we've started hospice. Barbara Roberts gives you a good idea of what to expect from hospice, and the experience of having your loved one die at home through hospice. It is not easy to read in the emotional sense, but it's a quick read - I read most of it in a night. It is difficult to read, but gives you hope that you can find comfort and support from hospice whether you are the terminally ill person or their caregiver. I would recommend it to anyone who has a loved one or friend who is either trying to make the choice whether or not to do hospice, or is already on hospice and you want/need an idea of what to expect. The book also makes a strong argument for thinking hard about whether or not chemo (or other similarly strong treatment for other conditions) is really a good idea, based on what will be gained - or lost - by seeking or foregoing treatment. She also makes a good argument for making all possible arrangements for the death ahead of time - memorial service, funeral, whom to notify, personal messages, etc.

If you are in this horrible situation, this is a good book to give you a basic idea of what to expect and some hope that you can find support and guidance during this terrible time.

Rating:
Summary: Powerful and Real
Review: This incredible work reflects from a spouse's perspective the real journey of grief and provides permission for those who struggle with how to grieve the "right" way... as if there is such a thing...

Great work