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Summary: Use this book wisely the first time
Review: I actually tried this method for several months, keeping an emotional journal. I had little success, nothing like what the book promised, but I didn't have a thorough understanding of the basics of the book's methods.My emotions are responses to conditions that are important to me, and when they are not, then I decide that there's something wrong with the way my emotions are working. But whether my emotions work or not, I have to discover what they are a response to, and the book "The Emotional Hostage" tells a person how to do that. I didn't really consider that part of it when I starting using the models, I just assumed that I could decide what my emotions were made up of, and then control them. When that didn't work, I gave up on the book. If you do what I mistakenly did the first time I read through the book and tried out it's methods, you'll find that it's easier to say to yourself "I'm not changing my emotional tempo correctly" than it is to say "I'm not really appreciating what my emotion is signaling" or "I don't know what my emotion is signaling". The book describes a "generative" method of responding to one's own emotions. If there's one thing worth taking away from the book, that method is it. You need to learn how to respond to your emotions before you consider the details of your emotional elements, because you'll find that emotional elements are conceptually slippery. What the authors mean by them are actually obvious behaviors you notice are a part of your emotions. For me they were conceptual ??? whenever I thought of them, but I still told myself that I felt an emotional element ("I'm feeling an emotional element!") when I didn't even know how to identify them. So read the book thoroughly, and then decide for yourself what evidence of your emotions are ones you associate with a particular emotional element. Learning to change that element may then have an effect that you need to change your emotions, just like the book promises. Or you can fritter your time away like I did, wondering if what you're feeling is an "emotional element".
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Summary: Learn to recognize and manage your emotions
Review: Seen in retroperspective I should have dedicated my book "7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence" to Leslie-Cameron, given that reading her book helped me to write a reply to Goleman's book. Out of respect for her work, I keep refering people to this book. The biggest "mistake" of this book is that it appeared 10 years too early, long before Goleman made the term "emotional intelligence" popular. Yet it does a far better job than Goleman when it comes to helping people to increase their EQ. Leslie Cameron is one of the co-founders of NLP, even if she now has moved on and seems to be "lost" to the NLP community. I keep wondering where the field of emotional intelligence would have stood if Leslie would have kept up her work in this area. Conclusion: even now this remains one of the best books on the topic of emotional intelligence. I hope that readers of my book will feel that it's complementary. Patrick E.C. Merlevede, MSc -- co-author of "7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence"
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Summary: Learn to recognize and manage your emotions
Review: Seen in retroperspective I should have dedicated my book "7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence" to Leslie-Cameron, given that reading her book helped me to write a reply to Goleman's book. Out of respect for her work, I keep refering people to this book. The biggest "mistake" of this book is that it appeared 10 years too early, long before Goleman made the term "emotional intelligence" popular. Yet it does a far better job than Goleman when it comes to helping people to increase their EQ. Leslie Cameron is one of the co-founders of NLP, even if she now has moved on and seems to be "lost" to the NLP community. I keep wondering where the field of emotional intelligence would have stood if Leslie would have kept up her work in this area. Conclusion: even now this remains one of the best books on the topic of emotional intelligence. I hope that readers of my book will feel that it's complementary. Patrick E.C. Merlevede, MSc -- co-author of "7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence"
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Summary: essential
Review: The best book I've ever read on emotions. I refer back to it often. Worth studying and incorporating into your own life.
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