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Summary: Asking yourself questions...
Review: ...about him and the relationship is a great way to determine if he is right for you. It lets you think about all the things that he may have done wrong in the past that you never noticed because you were in love with him. Buy this book and you will get a better judgement of him by asking yourself compatibility questions. Perry Rose, author of I Love You...Will You Marry Me?!
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Summary: Useful and realistic guide to the dating world
Review: All my girlfriends have read this book and quote from it regularly. Lots of times we are in doubt about what to do and read excerpts from the book. It clarifies what is really happening. It isn't like the Rules book which (in my opinion) encourages games and lies. Instead this book helps women select someone right for them and keep their dignity along the way. I found this book to be extremely useful and insightful!
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Summary: Some good, and not so good
Review: Asking yourself questions about the man you are with is a very good idea, so this book should be read. But, some of the questions are either dumb, or are just common sense. One of the questions you should ask yourself about him that really irritated me is: How does he treat his mother. If he doesn't talk to her much, then that means he would make a lousy mate?! I don't think so! I have met some women who weren't very good mothers, so this question should be left out. This is a good book, but you should use your common sense with some of the questions. The author doesn't know men as much as she lets on. This should be treated as just a starter book.
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Summary: Misguided advice from a misguided author
Review: I am a guy; I have always been fascinated by what actually is going on in woman's mind. It seems that a different sexual orientation is the greatest forces that can diversify thinking between two members of the same species. This book can easily attest to that. After reading the Boyfriend Test I was rather sad to know that this author thinks of her experience as valuable and educational to her audience. Actually, they are educational in that they might tell women on how not to behave. The author is a good example of a person who knows little about the dynamics of intersexual interaction. It is not a surprise to see no PhD. following her name, which led me to speculate where whether she gathered most of her "valuable experience" at college frat parties. However, a beautiful anchor woman is rather a sought after mate by most men and I'm not surprised after all that Walsh developed scars from jumping between relationships. Anyway, what most irritated me about this book was a large number of generalities she states with outmost confidence of being correct. Is it really bad when a guy arrives early for a date? If a guy did not have a serious relationship until past 25 does that mean that something is terminally wrong with him? My happily married psychology professor went out on his first date when he was 24! Overall, Walsh's approach to dating was extremely superficial. Her advice would be valuable to those women who seem to have the same problems as her, attracting or looking for wrong men. I have many guy friends and I can tell a girl right away whether one of my friends will be a devoted boyfriend or someone who will break her heart. How do I know? I know because I knew my friends for a long time I and I have a good insight into their personalities. I have friends who are in teens but who had over 10 sexual partners. I have friends who are in twenties but never kissed a girl because they are too shy. It all boils down to one thing. When starting to date, do not hurry things. You have to get to know that person better! You have to understand whether you two are compatible. This is common sense and I know that women are intelligent enough to know it without needing a book to tell them this. There are no rules guidelines, there just needs to be time.
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Summary: Misguided advice from a misguided author
Review: I am a guy; I have always been fascinated by what actually is going on in woman's mind. It seems that a different sexual orientation is the greatest forces that can diversify thinking between two members of the same species. This book can easily attest to that. After reading the Boyfriend Test I was rather sad to know that this author thinks of her experience as valuable and educational to her audience. Actually, they are educational in that they might tell women on how not to behave. The author is a good example of a person who knows little about the dynamics of intersexual interaction. It is not a surprise to see no PhD. following her name, which led me to speculate where whether she gathered most of her "valuable experience" at college frat parties. However, a beautiful anchor woman is rather a sought after mate by most men and I'm not surprised after all that Walsh developed scars from jumping between relationships. Anyway, what most irritated me about this book was a large number of generalities she states with outmost confidence of being correct. Is it really bad when a guy arrives early for a date? If a guy did not have a serious relationship until past 25 does that mean that something is terminally wrong with him? My happily married psychology professor went out on his first date when he was 24! Overall, Walsh's approach to dating was extremely superficial. Her advice would be valuable to those women who seem to have the same problems as her, attracting or looking for wrong men. I have many guy friends and I can tell a girl right away whether one of my friends will be a devoted boyfriend or someone who will break her heart. How do I know? I know because I knew my friends for a long time I and I have a good insight into their personalities. I have friends who are in teens but who had over 10 sexual partners. I have friends who are in twenties but never kissed a girl because they are too shy. It all boils down to one thing. When starting to date, do not hurry things. You have to get to know that person better! You have to understand whether you two are compatible. This is common sense and I know that women are intelligent enough to know it without needing a book to tell them this. There are no rules guidelines, there just needs to be time.
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Summary: There really are good men to be had out there
Review: I was given an early copy of this book a couple of months ago... when I was in a very different space then I am now after reading it. Many of Wendy's past experiences mirrored mine, but I never had her insight on why relationships wouldn't work out as I thought they should have. This book brings to life why men and women react toward each other and relationships differently and suggests to women how and why we need to avoid repeating bad habits and learn to take care of our emotional selves better. The Boyfriend Test is the antithesis of The Rules. It's written for bright, thoughtful women, not for women willing to lower their standards and play head games in order to win a man. Since reading the book I have met a wonderful guy, who had to pass many of Wendy's tests before I gave him the thumbs up. I'm not saying that you'll find yourself in a committed relationship after reading The Boyfriend Test, but I will say that it speaks to the larger percentage of us, the bright women looking to treat and be treated respectfully and lovingly.
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Summary: Boyfriend & Girlfriend Tests: Good advice for stage 1
Review: Men don't usually read this type of book and I wouldn''t have except that I am also a "dating-relationship" author and like to read what others have to say on the subject. Wendy Walsh does a very good job of asking the key questions during the early stages of a romance. I also contend that most of the mistakes in romantic relationships are started in the beginning stages. Ms. Walsh also is very fair in assessing what it is that women have to do in order to attract and deserve love and I commend her on doing this. At first glance, one might think that this book is all about what's wrong with men. Her own story which she begins and ends her book with shows me a slight distortion of reality which has a lot to do with her being highly attractive, a well-known television personality, and a Beverly Hills-Hollywood-Santa Monica-Malibu lifestyle. It makes for interesting reading, great stories, but may not really apply to the masses. I recommend this book and think that readers will find value in this. Just remember to journal in the questions and remember that Wendy wanted you to use them to "weed out the losers," not jinx your love life by looking for faults. If women take this book in its properly context (stage 1 evaluations), and keep their optimism fresh, it is a real gem.
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Summary: Interesting, but not overwhelmed
Review: The book is a self-help guide for women in search of the "Dream Man". It can be helpful, I think, for both men and women who have the right mindset or who have reached the maturity level necessary for at least admitting to learn what it takes for building a meaningful, non-superficial relationship. Contains quite a bit of anecdotal stories from the author's own life as well as her friends' lifes. On the surface, the book appears to be a great resource. Lots of practical advice, step-by-step guidance, scorecards, etc, especially reinforced by negative examples, i.e. who is NOT the right one. On the second reading of some portions of the book, the advice appears to become bit commonsensical. There are a couple of things that I have to personally disagree around the "rules", and I think that many men out there would tend to agree with me. Well, Ms. Walsh strongly argues that the burden of starting the relationship should be on the male partner: get the phone number, setup the first, second, third dates, and more. Many partners-to-be, I would think, would find it fulfilling to work together towards this goal. There seems to be something very mechanical about the rules for dating and testing men. The element of romance is absent; women are advised to keep their radars on at least through the first so many weeks / months of dating. Perhaps the element of romance is assumed, and maybe it is easier for women to fall into a "false romance", hence they need more concrete, cold advice? The book reveals an interesting sub-context that is somewhat unfortunate. You see, to realize how to select a worthy mate, a very successful, maturing, intelligent, and attractive woman of our society had to go through ... how many? ... lets say not-so-successful relationships? Needless to say, that all those relationships took all the fun, prime years of her life. All in all, a good book. But I think you can get what you need from it by sitting in the local bookstore and browsing through for a couple of hours over a cup of coffee. You may even meet a "boyfriend candidate" :-)
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Summary: A much needed eye opener for both sexes
Review: These days both men and women find choosing that special someone to give their heart to harder than ever -- and there's no indication things are getting any easier soon! Consider: What do your REALLY want in your life partner, and how will you know when you're looking at that person after dating countless losers? Would you like a method for answering these questions that was independent of your current mood or level of erotic stimulation? If so, this is the book you've been looking for -- if you're a woman, that is. You'll get tried and tested criteria to judge any man's potential to sustain and grow a longterm, committed relationship with you: his ability to see you as more than a sex object, "compassion quotient", level of anger management ability and much more. Drawn from the author's own experiences and laced with humourous straight "girlfriend wisdom" and clear, understandable rationales for each item, the test is designed to take the guesswork and indecissiveness out of your path on the road to declaring someone your boyfriend, and meaning it in the best sense. Where this book falls down is in what sometimes feel like man-hating generalizations and Ms. Walsh's stereotyped views of the sexes in general. There is a troubling contradiction between her progressive views of women and her insistance that men must play the dating game a certain way to be worthy of consideration. One feels she really DOES feel compassion and sympathy for men, but (as she readily admits) has made so many bad choices in the past that she's now too jaded to give them many breaks. If you're a woman frustrated by the many losers you've been going out with, this is exactly what you'll love about this book. If you're a man hoping to pass muster with a classy woman, it will seem just hurtful and discouraging. Overall, "The Boyfriend Test" delivers what it promises, and does so in a way any smart woman serious about changing her love life can benefit from. Its core is a set of fifty questions devided into five increasingly difficult sections to cover the various stages of getting intimate, from the first "Meet and Greet" to the final moment you utter the word "boyfriend", and see how he reacts. Just as in school, a man must score well toward a hundred (with letter grades to match) to continue on to the next level, and by the end must score a solid A+ to be worthy of the title "Boyfriend". But unlike in school, Walsh makes you meet him halfway, with fifty free points at the start of each test. The various possible ways he may behave are given certain point values, plus or minus, so the score he ends up with will reflect both his actual behavior and all the other things you like about him that aren't covered in the book. Of course not every possible way a man may behave or every conceiveable REASON for his behavior can be covered in a book, and that probably also has something to do with giving hikm fifty free points to start with. It would be much better if it didn't see all men as members of a single class, but overall "The Boyfriend Test" gets my approval as a man. In intent if not design, it's a fine way to pick a man.
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Summary: A much needed eye opener for both sexes
Review: These days both men and women find choosing that special someone to give their heart to harder than ever -- and there's no indication things are getting any easier soon! Consider: What do your REALLY want in your life partner, and how will you know when you're looking at that person after dating countless losers? Would you like a method for answering these questions that was independent of your current mood or level of erotic stimulation? If so, this is the book you've been looking for -- if you're a woman, that is. You'll get tried and tested criteria to judge any man's potential to sustain and grow a longterm, committed relationship with you: his ability to see you as more than a sex object, "compassion quotient", level of anger management ability and much more. Drawn from the author's own experiences and laced with humourous straight "girlfriend wisdom" and clear, understandable rationales for each item, the test is designed to take the guesswork and indecissiveness out of your path on the road to declaring someone your boyfriend, and meaning it in the best sense. Where this book falls down is in what sometimes feel like man-hating generalizations and Ms. Walsh's stereotyped views of the sexes in general. There is a troubling contradiction between her progressive views of women and her insistance that men must play the dating game a certain way to be worthy of consideration. One feels she really DOES feel compassion and sympathy for men, but (as she readily admits) has made so many bad choices in the past that she's now too jaded to give them many breaks. If you're a woman frustrated by the many losers you've been going out with, this is exactly what you'll love about this book. If you're a man hoping to pass muster with a classy woman, it will seem just hurtful and discouraging. Overall, "The Boyfriend Test" delivers what it promises, and does so in a way any smart woman serious about changing her love life can benefit from. Its core is a set of fifty questions devided into five increasingly difficult sections to cover the various stages of getting intimate, from the first "Meet and Greet" to the final moment you utter the word "boyfriend", and see how he reacts. Just as in school, a man must score well toward a hundred (with letter grades to match) to continue on to the next level, and by the end must score a solid A+ to be worthy of the title "Boyfriend". But unlike in school, Walsh makes you meet him halfway, with fifty free points at the start of each test. The various possible ways he may behave are given certain point values, plus or minus, so the score he ends up with will reflect both his actual behavior and all the other things you like about him that aren't covered in the book. Of course not every possible way a man may behave or every conceiveable REASON for his behavior can be covered in a book, and that probably also has something to do with giving hikm fifty free points to start with. It would be much better if it didn't see all men as members of a single class, but overall "The Boyfriend Test" gets my approval as a man. In intent if not design, it's a fine way to pick a man.
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