Surviving Betrayal : Hope and Help for Women Whose Partners Have Been Unfaithful * 365 Daily Meditations

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Summary: Just OK for me
Review: I am 25 years old. I've been married to my husband for two and a half years only, but we've been best friends for 11 years now. Just recently, I discovered that my husband is having an affair with a married woman- a friend from college. Upon learning, I have endured a succession of emotional blows from my husband. My husband was my guardian angel but now he's the catastrophe who ruined my life and stripped me off of my self respect and dignity. I was appalled by my husband's reaction when I caught his affair. He had so much pride that he did not apologize. He wanted to protect his concubine that he sent me away infront of her and made her stay instead. He had so much hatred for me that his words insulted me and wounded me more. He had a very deep emotional attachement to her that he had written her that she was more important, he love her more and he would prove that because he would leave me for her. I could not comprehend how he could have betrayed me and wounded me so badly in spite of the years we've been together. I have been his partner, best friend, sister and wife, so was he to me. Now it all shattered. When I read Alice May's Surviving Betrayal, I got all the assurance that I needed... that the affair was never my fault. I got affirmations regarding my emotions. I discovered that, though I have lost myself in placing my husband above everything else in my life, I could still pick up the shattered pieces in my life with courage and with faith in God. It is not an easy task. I think I will forever be trapped in the process of healing, but with the guidance of the Lord,the support of my loving mother and faith in my husband that he would change, I will survive. In God's time I will heal. Though my husband has not shown any signs of concrete repentance and remorse for what he did, I am not angry with him. With his betrayal I learned that there's nothing my husband could do that could make me love him less; not even if it is at the expense of loosing myself.

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Summary: Just OK for me
Review: I have to disagree with the previous ratings, I didn't find this book that helpful. "Alice May" advocates that one is able to get through and heal from adultery without the help of God and it's only been by God's grace and provision that I am making it through. Also, her suggestions are pretty short and limited. She basically tells you where to go but gives little direction as to how to get there. I would suggest going with a Christian author who focuses on God and His healing grace and not on our own abilitys. God bless all who are going through this I know it's a very trying time!

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Summary: Excellent book!
Review: I would not have made it without this book. After 23 years of marriage, the revelation of infidelity almost killed me. No matter what I was feeling or thinking on any given day, I could find hope that I would make it. I did. And this book has been my "bible".

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Summary: some peace during the chaos
Review: The aim of this book is not to solve your partner's betrayal but to validate and offer solace for those caught in it's web. It's a comfort book and I highly recommend it -especially during the early, crazy days when your life is spinning out of control and your mind is on overdrive. I carried it around with me and whenever I had a meltdown, I found reassurance that my new, unfamiliar (terrifying) emotions and thoughts were normal. I found the meditations calming and surely, this author has been there, done that. This book does not dispense advice but correctly places the focus on the betrayed's healing.