Solution Talk: Hosting Therapeutic Conversations

Rating:
Summary: Problem? What Problem?
Review: Keep looking - you MUST have a problem!

As you can read in many books (including mine), people tend to get what they want. Unfortunately, most therapists want causes for problems, so ... the patient will get problems. Yet, using jobEQ.com's iWAM test, we consistently see that people prefer to achieve things, to be successful. As Ben Furman will ask you "can you imagine going home to your partner this evening and have a nice chap about your problems?"

"Solution Talk" is written as provocatively and with more humor than the paragraph above. It presents an alternative way to talk about "problems" and draws on the traditions of family and brief therapy. The book is very compatible with NLP, given the authors refer to many specialists well known to the NLP world, such as Gregory Bateson, Milton Erickson, Frank Farrelly, Jay Haley, ... Everyone who is thinking about visiting a therapist or coach in order to "analyze" what goes wrong should be obliged to read it and so should every therapist.

I met Ben Furman at a conference in May 2001 and was pleasantly surprised by his message. It motivated me to buy his book, and I'm glad to recommend it to you.

Patrick E.C. Merlevede, MSc - co-author of "7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence"

Rating:
Summary: Problem? What Problem?
Review: Keep looking - you MUST have a problem!

As you can read in many books (including mine), people tend to get what they want. Unfortunately, most therapists want causes for problems, so ... the patient will get problems. Yet, using jobEQ.com's iWAM test, we consistently see that people prefer to achieve things, to be successful. As Ben Furman will ask you "can you imagine going home to your partner this evening and have a nice chap about your problems?"

"Solution Talk" is written as provocatively and with more humor than the paragraph above. It presents an alternative way to talk about "problems" and draws on the traditions of family and brief therapy. The book is very compatible with NLP, given the authors refer to many specialists well known to the NLP world, such as Gregory Bateson, Milton Erickson, Frank Farrelly, Jay Haley, ... Everyone who is thinking about visiting a therapist or coach in order to "analyze" what goes wrong should be obliged to read it and so should every therapist.

I met Ben Furman at a conference in May 2001 and was pleasantly surprised by his message. It motivated me to buy his book, and I'm glad to recommend it to you.

Patrick E.C. Merlevede, MSc - co-author of "7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence"