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Summary: Finally, the Truth About Affairs...
Review: I am currently in an affair with a much older, married man. This affair has not been easy on me...keeping secrets from my parents, hiding the truest love I've ever known from co-workers and friends, not being able to spend time with the man I love. It's not easy being the other woman and finally I've found a book that makes me feel that I am not alone. That all the effort I'm putting into this relationship may well be worth it. It doesn't make me feel guilty for being the other woman, like so much of society would. Ours is a loving, caring, passionate love affair. I couldn't ask for more. I'm glad to see that the author of this book acknowledges that affairs are not only normal, but healthy as well. A must read for any woman who is in an affair and has no one to talk to.
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Summary: Good book to leave on the shelf.
Review: I read a few other books about this and then I read this one. This book helped me change my mind about what I was going to do. It was something thoughtless and it probably would have done a lot of damage to my self and my spouse who I don't want to lose. I'm on to some healthy stuff.
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Summary: a biased book, a dangerous message
Review: This book is missing a lot of critical information! 'How to have a successful affair' is one chapter that I could do without. 'Be prepared for the betrayed spouse to find out'? How do you prepare for a possible nuclear blast? You may be prusuing your own happiness through an affair at the extreme expense of others including children. Much information points to adultery as a transgenerational problem. Did your parents do it? What was that like? It's an unfortunate legacy to pass on to your children. Sneaky underhanded behavior frought with lies such as adultery is never ok. Let that 'secret' out so that the betrayed is given the basic human dignity to make his/her own desicions....especially when VD and AIDS can come their way. Conducting a secret affair, and then enjoying the everyday comforts of home with the unknowing spouse, (who may be devastated by this truth), is a form of rape.
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Summary: coping begins with facing what you're doing
Review: This book is missing a lot of critical information! 'How to have a successful affair' is one chapter that I could do without. 'Be prepared for the betrayed spouse to find out'? How do you prepare for a possible nuclear blast? You may be prusuing your own happiness through an affair at the extreme expense of others including children. Much information points to adultery as a transgenerational problem. Did your parents do it? What was that like? It's an unfortunate legacy to pass on to your children. Sneaky underhanded behavior frought with lies such as adultery is never ok. Let that 'secret' out so that the betrayed is given the basic human dignity to make his/her own desicions....especially when VD and AIDS can come their way. Conducting a secret affair, and then enjoying the everyday comforts of home with the unknowing spouse, (who may be devastated by this truth), is a form of rape.
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Summary: a biased book, a dangerous message
Review: This book scares me because of the damage it can do to women contemplating or having an affair. It points out a lot of "facts" about affairs and it gives examples of women who have gained a positive experience through affairs. However, it only shows examples of women who claim to have had a good experience with affairs. It doesn't mention the millions of women who have suffered devastating effects of getting involved with married men. It down plays the 'sadness' when an affair ends. This is not mere 'sadness', this is devastation and often the affair is a manifestation of a much larger personal issue within a woman. I beg to differ with the assumptions and suggestions within this book which indicate that a significant number of women don't want the affair to lead to marriage. It cannot be proved, however, I highly doubt that it is common within the female pysche to be very ok with having a deep and connected love affair end. It's like having a part of yourself ripped from you without painkillers. And the women who claim to be ok with having an affair end clearly are detached from themselves in some manner. If a woman wants an affair, give her ALL the facts....and ask her what form of distraction she'll use to alleviate the pain of an affair. Will she drink it away? Shop it away? Find another man to alleviate it? And ask her if she's willing to be part of the decline of a marriage. Because women contemplating having affairs are in a position to satify her desires or push the man back. Perhaps the man rejected will instead work on his marriage. Maybe his marriage is DOOMED and better off done. But, if indeed the marriage ends and whether the affair ends or not, the aftermath is a long hurt for all involved. And people can deny this, but denial doesn't make it not true. The author is biased and irresponsible. I got an ice cold feeling reading this book. Society and the human spirit doesn't need more of this hogwash.
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