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Summary: Opposites Don't Always Attract
Review: Even though a popular belief among relationship watchers is that opposites attract, in this book I learned that for some types - and I'm one of them - similarity makes for greater compatibility. For example, I remember a special date. It was a once-in-a lifetime concert by a famous violinist & I invited my boyfriend - an opposite type - to accompany me. I was transported by the music; meanwhile, he was fussing & fuming about the comfort of the seats. He never once commented on the music. I couldn't believe it! I'm tired of trying to make such differences "work". I've read some good relationship books, including John Gray and another about personality types ("16 Ways to Love Your Lover"), but this is the only one to use the Jungian Typeology for help with finding a compatible partner. This book gives me new courage and hope of finding a soulmate instead of just gaining dating experience.
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Summary: Extremely Accurate!
Review: I have been reading many advice-books on finding the right partner. Almost all of them would suggest that I become someone that I'm not. I'm an introvert, and I have stop going to bars pretending to be an extravert. It is just too taxing on me. Instead, I have looked at dating in a new way with this book. According to LoveType, I would find my potential mates in more traditional and quiet settings, like Churches and PTA. Those are definitely more comfortable for me. And yes, I have been quite happy after realizing this. I have a much easier time with people in those settings than in a bar. There are several notes to mention. This is a book that generalize people. And like everything else in life, there are exceptions. Some people may disagree with the concepts in this book, and there are people who change. So try to read this book with a grain of salt. Another theme about this book is that it is geared toward long-term relationship. Because of this, there may be contradictions with other books. In "Please Understand Me," Keirsey and Bates say that opposite attracts. Whereas in this book, opposites get on each other nerves over time. This book deserves high praises because of the numerous examples to clarify the Jungian lovetype. The MBTI nomenclature is a little arcane, but Avila has done a good job. Also, there are interesting tidbits, like example of good movies that portray the temperament, places to meet potentials, and scenarios to illustrate compatibility. I think temperment-style is a great topic to discuss on dates. It's an easy way to bring out the personalities of each individual. This is a new way to look at finding a suitable partner. I'm keeping this one.
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Summary: A VERY unique approach. It makes A LOT of sense!
Review: I heard the author in a workshop that he gave and it really whet my appetite to read the book and try out what he suggests. I have read countless books on dating, trying to figure out what I have been doing wrong, how/why I keeping picking/attracting the wrong partners, why there has been so much resentment, conflict and bitterness in my past relationships, etc. After I read the book it all became crystal clear to me. I had been considering personality compatibility, but only in a general way. Neither my partners nor I were "bad" people, we were just the "wrong" people for each other. Dr. Avila's book enables you to "type" yourself, how to quickly size up others for their "type" and my favorite features, WHERE to meet others of your compatible type and HOW to attract and build relationships with them. These techniques apply to BOTH opposite AND same sex friendships. Very targeted, specific information, very rare in dating books. I realize now that by following the advice in other dating books, I was hanging out in the wrong places to meet MY best type. His theories sound rock solid both from a psychological and common sense point of view. I think that his book settles once and for all the opposites attract, but do they stay together debate. Lastly, I commend Dr. Avila for going beyond the theory, and putting the principles into practice by actually encouraging/helping set up LoveType social groups. In fact, I am going to his book signing tonight, to be followed by mingling and discussion of starting up a social group in the Los Angeles area. I'm REALLY looking forward to what might come of it! Feel free to contact me with questions or comments .
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Summary: Great book for changing your love life
Review: If you're tired of attracting or being attracted to the wrong people for you, this is a good book to not only show you what you've been doing wrong, but what to look for, and where to find Mr. or Ms. right. If you haven't been introduced to personality typing, there is much more to understand about this fascinating and often life-changing subject that will be useful to you. I'd start with "Please Understand Me" by Kiersey, and strongly recommend "Survival Games Personalities Play" by Eve Delunas to understand what people from each personality type do when things go bad, and most importantly, what you can do about it. Getting back to LoveTypes, one minor improvement I wish the author would make is in his "Where to find your mate" areas. I detected a strong preference towards upwardly mobile people. I mean, wine is great, but not everyone is going to find their perfect mate at a wine tasting event. Some of the other personality-type books are better rounded in this area. I don't want to sound like I'm slamming the book, however; I gave it 4 stars, after all. For those of you who are already committed to (stuck with?) a mate you are feeling incompatible with, please read "Survival Games", noted above. You just might find ways to improve your love life, and even learn to appreciate your partner's strengths.
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Summary: Eh... works
Review: Nice application of psychology, though it would have been nice if they'd put in a section on teen romance. While most of the readers are probably overweight middle-aged women unsatisfied with their marriages, the publishers need to realize that depressed GIfted and Talented youth ususally try to read these things too for whatever reasons. Oh well... minor flaw. I look forward to finding one of the 20 female "mystic writers" who attend my school... even though there are approximately 4 in my grade level.
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Summary: It's a good starting point for further research.
Review: Rather than review the book as a whole, I'd like to make one comment: if you have a rare personality type, and you know who you are, because you probably think you're a little odd, this book can be extremely helpful.
I'm an INTJ, which makes me approximately 2% of the population. That, I already knew. What I didn't know, is that I'm compatible with a personality type that I would reject outright based on first impressions. I won't say it's opened up a whole new world of dating for me, but it has, quite literally, doubled the number of people I would consider going out with. As an endorsement of this book, that statistic speaks for itself.
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Summary: Love Boat meets Briggs-Myers type classification
Review: The author introduces the ideas associated with Briggs-Myers personality traits classification to the area of romantic compatibility. He does a good job of explaining the adjustment patterns of all sixteen such types. The book is easy to read. With a few exception, his recommendations boil down to: (1) Stick to your own MBTI type, or (2) A female I, F, or P will also be compatible with the corresponding male E, T, or J. (And vice versa). I believe author's recommendations are undamentally sound. The book is aimed at singles who are still looking, not at couples working through their differences. Though the later group may also find the book interesting and useful. Weaknesses: (1) The author seems to borrow a lot from Keirsey and Bates' book "Please Understand Me: Character and Temperament Types" (There's a newer edition of this book). (2) It is not clear what additional/original research was supplied by the author; or the depth, breadth, and rigor of such "research". (3) The personality characteristics author describes are those of a well adjusted person of that Briggs-Myers type. There is no description of how these types behave in a relationship when they feel "under stress". (4) The personality test in the book is a McTest, useful for entertainment purposes only. (For a few bucks you can get a professional caliber test on the Web). Still, on the whole this is a good book. If you are interested in getting a better understanding of the mechanics of romantic compatibility, and you never looked at it from the point of view of MBTI classifications, this book is highly recommended.
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Summary: Great Group Book
Review: This book was great. We used it in a group setting...taking the test and then discussing each persons categorization and mate types. It was so fun and so hilarious! The categorizations were dead on, and the activity was a lot of fun. A great idea for parties or other group activities...
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Summary: Interesting Conversation Igniter For a Party
Review: This book was very enjoyable. The personality descriptions are dead-on. My girlfriend (an ENFJ) and myself (an INTJ) were shocked at how accurate they were. I especially liked the part where the author gives a list of movies that each personality would like. Some of my favorite movies were on the list for my type! Where this book goes seriously wrong is where it prescribes which type each type should marry. There is no rhyme or reason to it. For mine, it says to marry the scholar (iNTp). It makes little sense to marry someone with SO MUCH in common. I think that David Keirsey and the Quenks are right when they say that the NFs should marry the NTs, therefore making sure neither partner becomes too one-sided. This is a good book, but buy David Keirsey's Please Understand Me II or the Quenks' True Loves to get a more accurate idea on which type you should consider marrying.
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