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Summary: The Best Book
Review: As a mental health professional, who has read numerous books on the subject and worked with many male survivors, this is without question the single best and most comprehensive book written for male survivors of sexual abuse. Sadly, a previous reviewer of this book appears to place male circumcison in the same category as male sexual abuse, apparently, he did not appreciate this book as that topic was not discussed. Nor should it have been in the context of this book. I cannot recommend this book strongly enough.
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Summary: Best of All!
Review: I found this book disappointing. It leaves out male genital mutilation, the most violent and most common kind of violent sexual abuse of boys. In the US, the majority of men were victims of male genital mutilations, and many have the same kind of long term psychological problems described in the book. Men who were sexually mutilated as children also have maimed gentials for the rest of their lives that they have to get by with instead of normal healthy male genitals. It does not help the majority of American men to ignore their pain. It does not help to end the victimization of American men to pretend that the majority of sexually violeted boys are not now adult victims of violent sexual child abuse. This book is good as far as it goes, and the suggested understanding of male victims of child abuse can be applied to all men suffer, but it is a disservice to millions of men when it keeps up the pretending that abused boys don't matter. No, it does not live up to it's title, "Victims no longer."
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Summary: A must for every male who has been sexually victimized.
Review: There are not enough words to describe the extraordinary gains I've received from reading this book. This book was not the easiest to read given I could relate to so much of what I was viewing in print. I spent several evenings reading and marking up this book for future reference. I cried and remembered more than I cared to remember during the readings, but understood it was all part of the healing process. There were many times while reading this book I felt that this book was written specifically with my life's experiences used as a guided outline. Being a male victim of incestuous activity until I was seventeen by not only my birth-father, but also other adult male relatives, I found myself in my thirties increasingly unable to trust just about anyone; especially intimately. This book, along with the assistance of a fantastic psychologist, who specializes in Sexual Behavior Disorders, enabled me to not only realize but to also accept the fact that I never asked for any of the sexual activity that these men felt they had a right to force upon me. This book is explanatory, very well written, provides positive encouragement, invaluable insight, and more importantly provides the perspective that so many male victime are unable to receive from most of the adults in their lives. I now know that I will be able to allow others to become intimately close without feeling the need to push them away for "getting" too close, and have also observed that I am becoming more personable in the process. I consider the author to be a "friend" who helped me to say goodbye to the guilt and to the shame I've carried for so long since I was a small young boy - when it all began.
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Summary: Life changing read.
Review: This book changed my life. It touched me in a way that I've never been touched. I was very moved from the introduction and could not put the book down. Mike Lew writes as though he is speaking directly to you. ...I highly recommend this book for anybody going through the difficulties of healing from childhood sexual abuse. Your not alone and you will survive. I also recommend it for friends and family members of surviours of sexual abuse.
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Summary: Life changing read.
Review: This book changed my life. It touched me in a way that I've never been touched. I was very moved from the introduction and could not put the book down. Mike Lew writes as though he is speaking directly to you. ...I highly recommend this book for anybody going through the difficulties of healing from childhood sexual abuse. Your not alone and you will survive. I also recommend it for friends and family members of surviours of sexual abuse.
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Summary: Victims No Longer : Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sex
Review: This book helped me deal with my sexual abuse. I was able to get the answers to my questions. I have been working it out for about 10 years or so now but this is a must for all men to read.
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Summary: Best of All!
Review: This book is Excellent! Be sure to read this one!
Mike Lew's writing, born of experience, brings forth sharp, intense emotional reactions from men, including myself, who live with the abuses of their boyhood. It will be important for you to have ready access to a psychologist as you read this book. Visit a psychologist, if you don't already have one you are seeing, tell him or her that you'd like their help as you read this book. Take the time, if you can, to find a psychologist who is a specialist, experienced in male sexual abuse. If none is available in your area, get one who is at least experienced in childhood abuse and trauma. Don't try to read the book all at once; it will be too intense if you have been abused yourself. Take your time, read a chapter, deal with it, then read the next chapter when you feel ready to continue. This is the book to read before all others. See for yourself!
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