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Summary: La Bomba
Review: I found this book about a month ago at a used book store for
$5.00. I've read the whole thing except for one chapter about
raising kids because I don't have any.Granted, there is a lot of the same material covered as you'll find in any of the dozen or so codependence books I've either read all or part of. But there is also some unique material covered from the male angle. So much of the codependence material seems targeted to women and I'm not knocking that but
I think the male thing needs coverage as well. I think Dr. Ackerman did a good job. But I beleive very much
in the theory which he writes about here....that so much of the
crazy things we do as adults are triggered by something that
happened when we were kids and that we'll be better off if we
can unravel those triggers and thus, defuse them. Good read. Paul Bottoms
Rating: 
Summary: I liked it
Review: I found this book about a month ago at a used book store for
$5.00. I've read the whole thing except for one chapter about
raising kids because I don't have any. Granted, there is a lot of the same material covered as you'll find in any of the dozen or so codependence books I've either read all or part of. But there is also some unique material covered from the male angle. So much of the codependence material seems targeted to women and I'm not knocking that but
I think the male thing needs coverage as well. I think Dr. Ackerman did a good job. But I beleive very much
in the theory which he writes about here....that so much of the
crazy things we do as adults are triggered by something that
happened when we were kids and that we'll be better off if we
can unravel those triggers and thus, defuse them. Good read. Paul Bottoms
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Summary: Ackerman offers only one view on a very opinionated subject.
Review: In the beginning of the book a general definition of a "Silent Son" is offered. Being a boy who has been abused in any way and keeps his feelings in. Keeping in these feelings causes the boys to have tough times dealing with real life relationships. Many characteristics are given to support this theory. The body goes into great depth of these relationships. However I found that this depth might have been the reason I often felt discouraged to finish the paragraph. At the end of this manual a life lesson is given, but how can a living soul offer something they have not encounter yet. Through out the book many lessons are offered, but only those of the male persuasion may gain what is offered. After all this is a book "...for and about men..."
If you love Psychology and want to learn more about the feelings of a child who has been abused, I would suggest purchasing this book. But if your looking for a leisure reading that you wont put down, this book is not for you. In fact there were times when I couldn't even open it because I dreaded the next line. I also found that Dr. Robert J. Ackerman would often contradict his thoughts, this would cause me to get frustrated and offered no reassurance to finish the sentence. I was not a fan of "Silent Sons," but that just my opinion.
Rating:
Summary: Ackerman offers only one view on a very opinionated subject.
Review: In the beginning of the book a general definition of a "Silent Son" is offered. Being a boy who has been abused in any way and keeps his feelings in. Keeping in these feelings causes the boys to have tough times dealing with real life relationships. Many characteristics are given to support this theory. The body goes into great depth of these relationships. However I found that this depth might have been the reason I often felt discouraged to finish the paragraph. At the end of this manual a life lesson is given, but how can a living soul offer something they have not encounter yet. Through out the book many lessons are offered, but only those of the male persuasion may gain what is offered. After all this is a book "...for and about men..."
If you love Psychology and want to learn more about the feelings of a child who has been abused, I would suggest purchasing this book. But if your looking for a leisure reading that you wont put down, this book is not for you. In fact there were times when I couldn't even open it because I dreaded the next line. I also found that Dr. Robert J. Ackerman would often contradict his thoughts, this would cause me to get frustrated and offered no reassurance to finish the sentence. I was not a fan of "Silent Sons," but that just my opinion.
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Summary: La Bomba
Review: Silent Sons
by Robert J. Ackerman
There is no doubt that Ackerman approaches the subject from a compassionate and well intentioned position, and I would even concede that some of the specific concepts and anecdotes contained his book may be of benefit to some people. As genuine as the author's approach and concern for readers, for those with a history of stressful family environments or perhaps even considerable stress and dysfunction in current relationships, the book offers little if any constructive advice and but little discrete or well founded information regarding the subject of those who may exhibit the emotional, or physical problems which have come to be associated with individuals experiencing depression, anxiety, or problematic behaviors. Ackerman's writings are based on a narrow spectrum of popular psychological myth and ambiguous metaphor for which he offers no substantiation or historical background. In addition, the style is one of condescension, what might even be characterized as juvenile and overly simplistic. I would strongly recommend that anyone interested in enlightening themselves or acquiring practical information regarding current physical problems of an emotional or psychological nature, search for another, better informed, possibly even more scientifically founded book. Ackerman promulgates popular misconceptions regarding the natural emotional condition, behavior, and roles of men in Western cultures, discounts or even discourages the positive human dimension of individuality, and implies that spirituality is a mandatory characteristic of psychological 'normalcy' and emotional health. Though I admit my criticisms are hardly qualified here, in that I have not been more specific, let it suffice to say that if you run across a copy of Ackerman's book, indeed, give it a chance and see what you think. Perhaps some of the few testimonials and stories offered, from individuals with stressful and 'dysfunctional' family histories will resonate with you? Will reading this be of benefit? Well, at least you won't feel alone. Before you consider buying the book though, I would suggest brief examination of some alternative works on the same subject before making your decision as to whether it might be worth the time it would take to scan through the contents of this particular book. My rating is no stars though I have indicated one, since the choice of no stars is not offered. :-)
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