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Summary: And eye-opening and extremely helpful book
Review: I am an extremely jealous (delusionally/abnormally jealous) person, and it is something I really wanted to change about myself. I believe that psychological, cultural, psychoanalytic, and situational factors all contribute to one's jealousy or lack thereof, and the prospect of ridding myself of it seemed both desirable and daunting. But reading this book has given me the confidence that I can, if not completely overcome my jealousy, at least channel my feelings correctly, understand the roots of the jealousy, and react with a more appropriate response.This book has done an excellent job of both getting out on paper some of the thoughts I've been trying to convey both to myself and to my boyfriend, as well as providing me with some new ways to understand my jealous feelings and tactics for conquering them. Some reviewers have said that the book offers no "cure" for jealousy. Of course it doesn't--I don't think any book on jealousy, or any other issue, for that matter, has the power to cure. Rather, it has to come from within, with the book to guide you. I am certainly not "cured" of my jealousy--changes like that don't happen overnight from reading one book. But this book has given me the much-needed jumpstart to begin conquering it.
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Summary: Fascinating
Review: I came to this book after reading "Falling in Love," Pines' newest book. I LOVED "Falling in Love" (no pun intended!) so I decided to try this book out. Once again, I was totally shaken and amazed to discover how things she was writing about related to me and my life - they were things that made intuitive sense the minute I read them, but never occured to me before. Reading Pines' books is like one big "Eureka!!" experience. Highly recommended!!
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Summary: Offers Help for Just About Any Jealousy
Review: Jealousy is probably one of the most-asked-about situations on my website. Either guys are jealous of their girlfriends going and talking to other guys, or girls are jealous about the attention their guys get when they're out, or girls are trying to make their guys jealous so they start getting paid attention to ... the list goes on and on. What makes jealousy so powerful? How can it be such a destructive force in a relationship, when many times it's not even based on any 'real situation'? This book is a HUGE help when looking at jealousy. Whether you tend to be a bit too jealous yourself, or whether you're dealing with a partner who tends to be overjealous of you, the book gives real life examples of situations, and practical advice on how to deal with them. Just about every relationship has run into jealousy problems at one point or another. They CAN be worked through. I highly suggest this book as a great way to help improve your own relationship.
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Summary: Not useful to me
Review: This book seemed to be aimed more at other therapists than at average people. The language, though readable, was full of clinical terms that made the content seem less relavent to me. It gave numerous examples of how different people react to different situations, but never really specifies how to solve "abnormal jealousy". The book's sub-title says "Causes, Symptoms, Cures", but I found no cures for my situation. There was only stuff on how to deal with normal jealousy that is caused by situations that are likely to arouse that emotion in most people (like one person cheating on another). Yes jealousy is normal, I know that, it's a part of caring for someone. But how do you deal with someone who is very possessive? Who sees intimate relationships with others when there is none? This book doesn't deal with any of that. It's chock full of information about jealousy in general, but this book was of no use to me whatsoever.
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Summary: Not useful to me
Review: This book seemed to be aimed more at other therapists than at average people. The language, though readable, was full of clinical terms that made the content seem less relavent to me. It gave numerous examples of how different people react to different situations, but never really specifies how to solve "abnormal jealousy". The book's sub-title says "Causes, Symptoms, Cures", but I found no cures for my situation. There was only stuff on how to deal with normal jealousy that is caused by situations that are likely to arouse that emotion in most people (like one person cheating on another). Yes jealousy is normal, I know that, it's a part of caring for someone. But how do you deal with someone who is very possessive? Who sees intimate relationships with others when there is none? This book doesn't deal with any of that. It's chock full of information about jealousy in general, but this book was of no use to me whatsoever.
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