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Summary: an excellent treatise on the value of interpersonal process
Review: "The Intimate Edge" is a book that transcends the boundaries of psychoanalytic work and displays the power of genuine interpersonal engagement in the therapeutic endeavor - regardless of form or orientation. For those who liked books by other interpersonal or relational writers (Teyber, Kiesler, Mitchell) this book is a real gem.
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Summary: an excellent treatise on the value of interpersonal process
Review: Ms. Ehrenberg's basic concept is so simple, so compelling, and so true--desire is the root of all overt motivations, and self-denial is the source of all psychological pathologies. It's not a brain-chemistry imbalance of genetic origin, requiring life-long drug therapy--it's as simple as being hurt, denied, and abused, often in subtle ways. We aren't in some way--genetically, spiritually, intellectually, designed to be self-destructive--we are warped by early experience to devise clever, yet universally self-limiting strategies to protect our most intimate selves. Ms. Ehrenberg exposes this with insight, humor, and most importantly, freedom to expose herself, in a way that is unusually daring, and, as in her therapy, liberating to those who experience it. I was helped greatly by this book, and recommend it to anyone who feels in any way limited by their fears of being hurt.
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Summary: The Bottom-Line of Self
Review: Ms. Ehrenberg's basic concept is so simple, so compelling, and so true--desire is the root of all overt motivations, and self-denial is the source of all psychological pathologies. It's not a brain-chemistry imbalance of genetic origin, requiring life-long drug therapy--it's as simple as being hurt, denied, and abused, often in subtle ways. We aren't in some way--genetically, spiritually, intellectually, designed to be self-destructive--we are warped by early experience to devise clever, yet universally self-limiting strategies to protect our most intimate selves. Ms. Ehrenberg exposes this with insight, humor, and most importantly, freedom to expose herself, in a way that is unusually daring, and, as in her therapy, liberating to those who experience it. I was helped greatly by this book, and recommend it to anyone who feels in any way limited by their fears of being hurt.
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Summary: This book is so very human
Review: Whether you're in the therapy room, or out in the real world, you'll gain strength and compassion from this excellent book. How do you convince a terrified patient to endure therapy, she asks, and answers with Lacan's "with supply we create demands". To some degree or another, we've all been hurt, abused, neglected and she clarifies how to keep a relationship "grounded, so that it does not become ambiguous and terrifyingly open to unfounded assumptions" so that the relators do not lose touch with one another. The answer is in attending to the sublest interactions and clarifying the immediate moment -- in other words being fully present with the other and talking about what's going on. Easily said! How rarely put into practice! For those of us in the helping professions, this book in invaluable, but it probably would benefit anyone interested in the intricacies of human relationships. For someone as erudite as she, Dr. Ehrenberg writes very clearly. I will put much of this into use in my coaching practice and also my personal life.
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