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Summary: amazing, revelatory, empowering
Review: as a survivor of rape and sexual abuse, i have read a bunch of books on the aftereffects of assault, being a survivor, et cetera, but most of the stuff out there is pretty dry and basic and i just didn't find it very helpful. this book is direct, incredibly right-on, it gives you hands on techniques for staying present in your body, it includes an amazing discussion of triggering. it also uses down to earth language and is not too self-help-y, and it acknowledges that certain terms might be alienating and medicalizing for some people.
FYI: although it is targetted at female survivors of child sexual abuse, i myself am not a woman, and the sexual assault/abuse i experienced occured during my teenage years, not my childhood. i still found the book very useful. there is also a great chapter aimed at partners of survivors.
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Summary: A very important book for survivors
Review: At some point in their healing, all survivors of childhood sexual abuse should read this book. It is straightforward and to the point, and this style helps the survivor feel that sexual feelings and actions are not something to be ashamed of. Many books for survivors tend to coddle the survivor because of the terrible ordeal she underwent, but this one presents a no-holds-barred discussion of sex and provides exercises to become more comfortable with sex. Very important book for the sexual healing process.
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Summary: A one of it's kind handbook on how to say yes, to yourself!
Review: Finally! A book about sexual power for survivors of sexual abuse. A far reaching, fun, and accessable look at sexual healing and reclaiming by a gentle and astute teacher. Staci Haines speaks from the soul of the issue, emphasizing self care and adventure. Most importantly, her reccomended exercises help you get the message into your muscles. Not just your head. Which is where too many of us have lived for too long. Brava to you, Staci. A must read for everyone, survivors or not.
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Summary: This book is dangerous !
Review: For the past eight years, I have been slowly, painstakingly discovering for myself many of the techniques that Staci Haines details in this book. As far as I am aware, I am not a survivor of child sexual abuse, but I have many of the same difficulties - lack of trust, unclear boundaries, easily triggered, difficulty being sexually present.I looked at books on recovery; they seemed only to tell me that it was OK to not have sex. I looked at TONS of books on sex and none addressed my difficulties - until The Survivor's Guide to Sex. I can say from my own experience that it's not easy to put Staci's suggestions into practice, nor do the rewards necessarily come quickly. But for some of us, this is the only way we're going to reclaim our sexuality. I highly recommend this book if you feel numb, shut-down, or angry during sex, whether or not you are a "survivor". Chances are you have some deep healing work to do, and this book is the only guide I've seen for doing it.
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Summary: I've been waiting for someone to write a book like this
Review: For the past eight years, I have been slowly, painstakingly discovering for myself many of the techniques that Staci Haines details in this book. As far as I am aware, I am not a survivor of child sexual abuse, but I have many of the same difficulties - lack of trust, unclear boundaries, easily triggered, difficulty being sexually present. I looked at books on recovery; they seemed only to tell me that it was OK to not have sex. I looked at TONS of books on sex and none addressed my difficulties - until The Survivor's Guide to Sex. I can say from my own experience that it's not easy to put Staci's suggestions into practice, nor do the rewards necessarily come quickly. But for some of us, this is the only way we're going to reclaim our sexuality. I highly recommend this book if you feel numb, shut-down, or angry during sex, whether or not you are a "survivor". Chances are you have some deep healing work to do, and this book is the only guide I've seen for doing it.
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Summary: Bring assertiveness and knowledge to your sex life!
Review: I purchased this book for my wife who is a survivor of sexual abuse as a child, and of rape as an adult. She said it best, "I need to work on the issue, but not with this book." We felt that there was too much emphasis in "alternative" sex practices, and nothing Judeo-Christian. We want a healthy sexual relatonship as an extension of our love for one another, not S/M, multi-partners, lesbian, etc. Mind you, from the book's back cover, the author was "a former manager of Good Vibrations, the "clean well-lighted place to buy sex toys."" Contents: 1 Safety, somantics, and Sexual Healing 2 Desire and Pleasure 3 Disassociation 4 Self Denial 5 Sexual Response and Anatomy: Information is Power. 6 Masturbation and Self-Healing 7 Consent and Boundaries 8 Partner Sex 9 Oral Sex 10 Penetration 11 Embracing Triggers 12 The Emotions of Healing 13 S/M, Role Playing, and Fantasy 14 Sex Toys and Accoutrements 15 Spiritual Sexuality [Tantra, Yoni massage, Sacred Masturbation; absolutely nothing Judeo-Christian] 16 Intimacy and Self-Forgiveness 17 Partnering with Survivors of Sexual Abuse 18 Your Powerful Sexual Self 19 Bibliography [42 pages; books, videos, centers]
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Summary: Bring assertiveness and knowledge to your sex life!
Review: The tone of this book keeps the reader interested and not overwhelmed. Sometimes self-help book activities can be so emotionally taxing that you leave it behind. The Survivor's Guide to Sex slowly eased the reader through exploration of sexual views while providing clear and thorough explanations of all aspects of sex. It was an eye opening to read all of the details I had always been afraid to ask! After finishing the book, I felt much more comfortable with MY views on sex, and not the pain or negativeness I used to associate with it. This book is great for any survivor of sexual abuse, with it's strength being detailed information.
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Summary: amazing, revelatory, empowering
Review: THIS BOOK WAS DELIVERED IN A TIMELY MANNER,BOOK IS EXCELLENT FROM WHAT I HAVE READ SO FAR. VERY PLEASED WITH DOING BUSINESS WITH YOU ALL.
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Summary: wonderfully helpful
Review: This book was so helpful to me. As a victim or molestation when i had just started adolescence, this book helped me understand my bad feelings towards ex, and how to make a relationship sex-positive. I have never felt more alive or more aware about myself. As a pansexual adult I also felt that the author had all the bases covered. This book is a must have for any survivor who feels alone about their sex life.
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Summary: This book will change your life. Read it!
Review: This is a truly extraordinary book. It picks up where other books leave off by helping survivors move beyond the abuse into a fully satisfying life -- a life that re-incorporates sex without the painful associations of the abuse. This book really has it all. It addresses the systemic problems of sexual abuse and sexism in our society and focuses on the particular intersection of these two forces in our sex lives. Haines provides both the context for understanding why it is so difficult for survivors to have an empowered sex life, and the tools to help create that life. And all this in Haines' caring and empathetic voice. This is also a very practical guidebook designed to help survivors in a real way. I particularly liked the exercises Haines has developed, as well as the quotes from survivors. No woman will feel alone in her experience after reading this book. Haines is an extraordinary woman. All survivors are lucky she is there to help us. I definitely recommend you read this book. Right now.
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