What Really Works With Men: Solve 95% of Your Relationship Problems (And Cope With the Rest)

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Summary: Subservience is the Answer?
Review: According to Justin Sterling, yes, subservience is the key to a healthy relationship.

As the son of a man who has been a nearly 6-year member of sterling, and a boy was raised from age 10 by a father who followed the teachings of Justin Sterling and expected his wife to as well, I urge you to reconsider this book. I read it for research purposes, because I wanted to know what could drive a man to alienate an ex and a current wife, two of his brothers, and both his sons, and I finally learned what it is upon reading this.

I have attended the weekends and for a time believed what my father taught me, and the weekends, and what my father's Sterling friends taught me.

But to the book:

Justin Sterling intends to solve relationships by taking the responsibility of it completely out of the hands of men. He insists that men are fundamentally jerks who are incapable of relationships, and that women are solely responsible for making relationships work by pleasing the man, making him feel dominant, and "stroking his ego".

That is not a relationship; that is volunteered slavery. A relationship where anyone is completely subservient, or one where one person is doing all the work, is not a relationship.

Justin Sterling preys on the laziness and insecurity of men, and the loneliness of women. Please don't allow yourselves to buy into his philosophies. They will just breed lazy, self-important men and dominated, suppressed women, as they've been doing since he began spouting this tripe.

This book and the ideas espoused in it are destructive, dominating, manipulative, and fundamentally paradoxical. Furthermore, though a sociologist, Sterling obviously has no idea what the Ego actually is.

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Summary: What a great book!...
Review: Having never written a review for Amazon before, I guess this was an important enough book for me to do so. I am a woman who took his Weekend and read the book (about 10 times, reading it, that is). Powerful. He is honest, he tells you right up front you will hate it. The most successful relationships in my life have been when I remembered 95% of what he wrote. It's only when I forgot, when I put my ego before my man's, that I got into trouble. You may not like what you read, but it gives such clear clues into the minds of men ... in fact, more than clues, he tells you right up front what & who men are. Definitely worth reading. Reserve judgment until the end of the book. He wants your success, truly.

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Summary: I rewrote review as the first one is inappropriate
Review: I have read the book. I also had friends whom are FOW ( amily of Women). Very intresting outlook I must say. The book give very helpful advise. However, you must filter through it as any other advise you get. There is no bible on relationships other than the real biblical one. This book was a very frustating at times because it had some very truthful comments in it about the way we are as women. What I noticed is that Justin want women to except the disfunction in men, stroke there egos and allow you to be a door mat. He often used men as an example in his stories that were raised disfunctionally. You see, thats when the man needs to seek therapy. Not want his women to except his behavior, stroke his ego so that he'll feel superior over her as the head of the household. On the contrary, what men need is a fully supportive women that will be the neck and he be the head. When the head needs to focused elsewhere, she can turn it. That's teamwork in my book.

The women that I know that attended the weekend were turned into brainwashed, overworked submissive women. Very critical of other women whom did not want to pay 600.00 to be brainwashed. You come witha sponsor/ so-called good friend that tells ALL you business. And you are confronted on why you are not a good woman. One went back home to her husband and the other is STILL looking for love. You have to read it and filter through the bs. Be a strong women, and he'll love you for it. If not, find someone who will.

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Summary: It teachs you how to give meaning to your life.
Review: Read the book, apply the book, and pratice what it teaches. See for yourself. Every person (100's) that ive met who follwed these principles, well there life (including mine) grew more meaninful and powerful. Its just makes sense. It doesnt make "weak" woman, quite the opposite. I would never mess with these women. They are smart and know "whats up." Humans have been following these principles for 1000's of years. They are time tested, not opinion tested. Try it for yourself.

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Summary: The Power to Choose
Review: The biggest thing from this book, the "weekends" and organization is Self Esteem! This is on the woman's part. I question why we never talk about women today and their never ending low self esteem?! A woman in high self esteem can take on the responsibility of having successful relationships and marriage. It is up to her to choose the right man for HER- this book gets you on that path. It is up to HER to steer the realtionship where she wants it to go. I like the line from "my Big Fat Greek Wedding" The man is the head of the family and the woman is the neck- she can turn it wherever she goes.
A lot of the reviews are about women being doormats and I love the stepford wife thing-heard that before. For me this is not true. My husband and I have done the weekends and it has helped us. Rather it has helped me to keep the relationship viable. I can have pitfalls of low self esteem, but I don't end up sabbotaging my marriage. I am not a mat, I have never denied my self in my marriage or dating. To boot, my husband knows and tells me I am the reason he is so successful. I enjoy my work, it has paid off!
I am an independent, powerful, successful woman-these kudos are well deserved! Other women need to praise and acknowledge themselves, we are all so alike.
So get this book, I have to get it again- I let someone borrow it and can't remember who. Women- find women who have what you want and listen to them!

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Summary: Don't bite the Bait!
Review: Unlike other books of this nature like John Gray's women and men differences..women are from venus, men are from mars, this book is a waste of money and time. It is just bait to get you intrigued to attend a Sterling Men or a Sterling Women's Weekend and solve all your relationship problems at $600 just for the weekend..He uses mind control and this is a destructive cult..we read the book and he got one of our family members and he destroyed not only a marriage but many families because if you both don't join..the marriage will end..it all started with the intrigue of a paperback book and turned into our worst family crisis and the most tragic events of our life..Stick with authors who are reputable and there are so many excellent books on amazon..A. JUSTIN STERLING'S BOOK IS WRITTEN BY A MAN THROWN OUT BY HIS WIFE WITH A RESTRAINING ORDER AFTER 8 YEARS OF MARRIAGE AND HIS DAUGHTER TOLD A COURT HE MOLESTED HER..WHATEVER..SAVE YOUR MONEY..it's bait..the book sounds logical but BEWARE..THIS MAN IS DESTROYING FAMILIES DAILY..AND HE'S A MULTIMILLIONARE..LAUGHING ALL THE WAY TO THE BANK..the book is about how a man and a woman are different and how only a woman is responsible if the relationship fails..men don't know how to do a relationship and never will..it's a joke..but not funny to anyone who went past the book onto his weekends..

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Summary: It tells you'll be angry, and you are....
Review: Yes, I was angry when I read this book. Why should women cater to men simply because they have a problem? Why can't they work on their problems just as much as women do? We go see therapists, we read books, we work on ourselves, why can't men do the same? I was angry reading this book. Basically it told me that there's no way to do anything about men because they won't seek help (even if it's available) and we, the women in their lives, have to deal with it, and the book goes one step further and TELL us HOW to deal with it, what it is WE have to do in order to have the relationship of our dreams. If we don't like it, well, don't get married, don't get into a relationship, don't have any children and most of all, do not relate to men. How crazy is this?

It's sad men do not read enough books to know they have a problem, it's sad they are not in touch with their feelings, it's sad they cannot feel their own emotions, and it's even sadder they don't want to seek help, but my question is: Why should women bear ALL the responsibility and the handling of the relationships? Look men! We ALL have problems in life, we are ALL here to learn lessons, become better people and hopefully live peaceful and loving lives. Don't just sit there and ignore your feelings because that's the way you've lived all your life. Find out what's wrong and GET IT FIXED!!!

Women should NOT have to read this book. It was written so we can have the relationships we want, but in the process, we are giving up our integrity. It's not fair.

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Summary: It tells you'll be angry, and you are....
Review: Yes, I was angry when I read this book. Why should women cater to men simply because they have a problem? Why can't they work on their problems just as much as women do? We go see therapists, we read books, we work on ourselves, why can't men do the same? I was angry reading this book. Basically it told me that there's no way to do anything about men because they won't seek help (even if it's available) and we, the women in their lives, have to deal with it, and the book goes one step further and TELL us HOW to deal with it, what it is WE have to do in order to have the relationship of our dreams. If we don't like it, well, don't get married, don't get into a relationship, don't have any children and most of all, do not relate to men. How crazy is this?

It's sad men do not read enough books to know they have a problem, it's sad they are not in touch with their feelings, it's sad they cannot feel their own emotions, and it's even sadder they don't want to seek help, but my question is: Why should women bear ALL the responsibility and the handling of the relationships? Look men! We ALL have problems in life, we are ALL here to learn lessons, become better people and hopefully live peaceful and loving lives. Don't just sit there and ignore your feelings because that's the way you've lived all your life. Find out what's wrong and GET IT FIXED!!!

Women should NOT have to read this book. It was written so we can have the relationships we want, but in the process, we are giving up our integrity. It's not fair.