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Summary: A must read for independent new brides
Review: I agree with other reviewers that this book targets only a narrow slice of bridedom -- the successful, independent, usually older bride, but as one of those, I found it invaluable. So many other books and magazines on the subject left me cold with their talk of "this is the day you have been dreaming of for your entire life." I had developed a healthy cynicism about those attitudes and a healthy love for myself as a single woman who did not need marriage to be happy. When the love of my life showed up, I was ecstatic, excited, and eager to continue the adventure with a partner, but a bit ashamed of the joy of finding love as I felt like a sell-out. So many of the issues Marg Stark addresses have helped him understand the issues that fight within me and helped me understand him better. Highly recommended. I bought it for 3 friends.
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Summary: Great book for Newlyweds & Nearly-weds -- Brides & Grooms!!
Review: I found this book shortly after I got married and couldn't put it down. I wish I had found it sooner! What it does so well is convince women (and men!) that it is OKAY at the "HAPPIEST TIME OF YOUR LIFE" to feel sad, confused, frustrated and even angry! Getting engaged, planning a wedding and being newly married are wonderful experiences but also wrought with emotion--every emotion, good AND bad. This book gives you permission to feel whatever it is you feel, and gives valuable insight into the many issues that might arise. How will getting married affect your finances, your friendships, even your self-identity...and how to DEAL with all of these changes. This book truly helped me to admit and express my fears, anxieties, stuggles, and to know that they were all normal issues for a new bride. I even read several sections to my new husband (this stuff isn't just good for brides!), and I sent a copy to my sister and her fiance as soon as they got engaged. Highly recommended for those on their way to the alter, as well as those who've already walked down!
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Summary: Not For Everyone
Review: I have found certain points of this book extremely helpful, but mostly, I have found that it has created doubts in myself and my relationship that were not there prior to reading this book, nor are they even founded-doubts. I have gotten way over being a swinging single, but Stark makes it seems like I should throw my single life a wake and kiss it goodbye because married life is so tedious compared to the days of living alone, having your own money, partying with your college friends, etc etc... I mean who in the world would ever want to spend time with other couples playing board games?
I found that this book was very good for a very small percentage of the female population, but anyone who is prepared to be married, happy to be getting married, or been in a relationship for more than a week before they got engaged will find more shallowness in this book than helpfulness.
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Summary: Awful! Horrible! Dreadful!
Review: I ran into this book when spending the afternoon in the bookstore, and it is horrible! I can get past most of the book's advice, even though it seems to be mainly that we should be driving our fiancés crazy by acting like brats. I can't get past her recommendation to engage in adultery. I mean, forget about whether or not you should take advice on marriage from someone who suggests that cheating is ok, it's just plain stupid to have a book in your house that your groom could find and either cause him to think perhaps you've cheated (and cause him to cheat in mistaken retaliation) or to give him a book of yours to point to saying that affairs are ok or even healthy!I also suggest that if you plan act even half as spoiled as Marg Stark encourages, you might want to buy "A Groom's Guide to Surviving a Wedding: One Groom's True Story" by Jim Cutter to help you get away with it. I got it for my fiancé and he started letting me get away with more after reading it.
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Summary: Awful! Horrible! Dreadful!
Review: I ran into this book when spending the afternoon in the bookstore, and it is horrible! I can get past most of the book's advice, even though it seems to be mainly that we should be driving our fiancés crazy by acting like brats. I can't get past her recommendation to engage in adultery. I mean, forget about whether or not you should take advice on marriage from someone who suggests that cheating is ok, it's just plain stupid to have a book in your house that your groom could find and either cause him to think perhaps you've cheated (and cause him to cheat in mistaken retaliation) or to give him a book of yours to point to saying that affairs are ok or even healthy! I also suggest that if you plan act even half as spoiled as Marg Stark encourages, you might want to buy "A Groom's Guide to Surviving a Wedding: One Groom's True Story" by Jim Cutter to help you get away with it. I got it for my fiancé and he started letting me get away with more after reading it.
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Summary: Forget Sexy Underware-My Honeymoon Needed This!
Review: I was married in 1995, began freaking out as soon as people began leaving the wedding reception. I then cried on and off through our entire honeymoon and the next six months of our marriage. I was totally freaked out by the idea of being a married woman! I have been married for 9 years and it is great - but what a transition! If only I'd had this book to reassure me that I was going to find a way to be a whole person and married at the same time! It would have saved me a lot of angst my first six months of marriage!
This book is great because it addresses all of the changing expectations that come with getting married - you see yourself differently, your spouse sees you differently, and our culture sees you differently once you are married. That is a lot to take on and this book does it with both humor and depth. As I read What No One Tells the Bride, I found myself reminiscing about my own early months as a new wife and laughing out loud! This author has captured the drama of this major life transitions so beautifully and now, looking back it is so great to see how far I have come. It is a great read right after the wedding and again 10 years later. I recommend it to all married women who want to think, laugh, cry, and stay connected to themselves-where they've been and where they are going. Thanks Marg for writing a book I am giving to all of my newly married friends!
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Summary: Perfect for all brides & newlyweds!
Review: I'm only about half way through this book, but so far it has offered many insights. I have recommended it to my newly married friend and I think it has let me in on quite a few "secrets" that will help me through my first year of marriage (I'm getting married in Dec. 2004). My favorite part about the book is that it really is a comfort to know that other brides feel this way and that it is normal!
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Summary: Smart, Funny, and Truly Inspiring
Review: Thank you, Marg Stark, for having the creativity and courage to write "What No One Tells The Bride"! I found this book both comforting and inspiring on many levels. Before reading it, I had thought that my concerns about love and marriage were unique. Boy, was I wrong! Now I see that most brides struggle somewhat with the transition from single girl to spouse. This book helped me understand that my conflicting thoughts and emotions during this time of tremendous change--the hope, grief, fear, doubt, and joy--are all normal. Stark's prose has a moving lyricism that makes it a pleasure to read. I got a lot from her advice, like what to do when your spouse swaggers with machismo, how to handle jealous single girlfriends, and how to hold on to your sense of self through it all. The book is filled with great stories, too--the Toyota Land Cruiser saga, the salmon-people road race, and the perilous horseback ride through the Canadian Rockies were some of my favorites. Pressed to sum up in a sentence how "What No One Tells The Bride" helped me, I'd say this: it facilitated an internal shift to a higher level of faith--in myself and in my relationship. Put another way, it helped me chill out a bit and enjoy this period of my life. I highly recommend it.
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Summary: So helpful!
Review: This book was amazing!! It addressed so many of the fears that have arisen in me since I got engaged! I will give this book to each and every friend of mine to get engaged from now on. The first person point of view and tales from other new brides really shed some light on the feelings to expect as a newlywed. Thank you Marg Stark!
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Summary: Thank God I'm not crazy!!!
Review: When I became engaged my life totally changed from the day I said yes to my fiancee. I thought all this feelings, doubts, fears and discussions were the expresions of a "non-prepared for marriage" bride to be. Marg totally tackles rocky subjects about getting married and how to survive the desition because it does't matter how well prepared you think you are or mature this big step takes you by surprise. Having an inside scoop at what other couples have gone throught in this period and early in their marriage helps you realize you are not an alien. And being able to read about things like, friends and money talk give me some piece of mind that, as crazy as all the things that happen to the newly engaged might be, I'm definitelly not alone. I'm a professional Latin american bride and this book is been as helpful to me at this stage of my relationship as if I was an all american girl, which proves how great this book is and also how common and universal the issues described in this book are for brides all around the globe. Unless of course you have an arranged marriage...
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