Repairing Your Marriage After His Affair : A Guide for Healing and Rebuilding Trust

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Summary: Advice guidebook
Review: An easy read. The advice is well intended and good. However, I didn't like the overall feel of this book no matter how many times I picked it up. I saw its value, but it continually rubbed me the wrong way.

In my situation, the truth about the affair came out slowly, horribly, over months and months. It included not only betrayal by my spouse, cold-hearted arrogance by the other adulterer, but the discovery of aiders and abettors who were 'supposed' long-term friends of the family. It was so hellish, that when I finally came out of fight or flight mode, settled enough to begin reading recovery books such as 'Repairing Your Marriage', the worst was over. What happened already happened.

This book has a lot of 'you must do this', and 'you must never do that' (while in the throes of it). I couldn't relate to the idea of a 'proper' way to conduct your self after being violently flayed open. Every situation is so very different. There is no real blanket advice. I just couldn't plug the rawness of what happened in my life into the 'clinical experiences', which this book is based upon, and end it all with meditations and visualizations. Couldn't get my teeth into it, even though I appreciated the work that went into creating this book.