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Summary: This is a must read!
Review: From the very first sentence, I was awestruck, mesmerized. I could not put this book down. TJ's heartfelt candor brought me on a journey of soulful insight and greater appreciation of what my daughters experienced in the loss of their older sister, Jackie; an event, forever blemishing their cherished sisterhood. Surviving the Death of a Sibling has helped to soothe their wounds, leading them on a path of healing and peace. It is a must read.
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Summary: An excellent book to go for comfort
Review: I live far away from my family and had no one to share my grief with when my sister died. After reading this book I no longer felt so alone with my pain. It felt like the author took my hand and helped me understand all that I was feeling. Each page was a hug. The writing style is warm and conversational and the content is amazingly pertinent to every nuance of feeling. I wish this book had been available when I experienced the loss.
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Summary: Thank you, Ms. Wray - You are Saving me.
Review: I lost my older brother Jose in October of 2002 after a 3 month battle with a brain tumor. The shock that such a healthy, athletic, and fit man of 46, in the prime of his life would be so cruely taken away so quickly from his two girls and family was devestating. The realization that no one really comprehends the depth of this loss to his little brother (33) at the time, who looked up to him his whole life, was disheartening UNTIL Ms. Wray's book. I found this book spoke to my heart and understood my deep sense of loss. I found myself underlining passages upon passages where it felt that the personal stories in the book captured feelings that I've gone through during my brother's illness and since his passing. The comfort that this book has provided was most welcome. I know reading this book has helped to begin healing what is very much a recent and profound wound. Grief is a process they say -- with a "disenfranchised loss" of a dear brother or sister, this book is a wonderful aid on the road to healing and hopefully, one day, peace.
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Summary: Thank you, Ms. Wray - You are Saving me.
Review: On March 17, 2004 my younger and only sibling, lost her battle with the most vile, aggressive, and nasty cancer in medical books. I was her primary caregiver and we had made a pledge when she was diagnosed in June 2003 that we WOULD BEAT THIS. Through 5 rounds of chemotherapy, radiation, and even surgery, her doctors fought to save her life but her oncologist had also told us from the beginning that unless he could get her cancer under "control" - not remission - that she would get very sick, very fast. And she did.The morning my sister passed away I was with her and two of her treatment nurses came in the hospital room to offer condolences. Both also were sobbing, as the bond between my sister, me and the medical staff can, and DID become extremely close and intense. "Joan" insisted that *I* read Ms. Wray's book and also insisted that she, herself, would purchase it for me. She brought it to me during my sister's wake and I have been reading it for the last 3 weeks. It has been such a comfort.......Ms. Wray speaks as if she were in my home with me...... and most of all what Ms. Wray and every other person who has experienced an adult sibling loss is mentioned in this book say is exactly what I am now feeling. I also know what is to come, and yes, I HAVE been pushed aside as the grief of my elderly parents and my sister's only daughter seems more important to others than my grief as a sibling. Not so, with Ms. Wray, and I highly recommend this book to any surviving sibling. It is getting me through and while I know I have a long and lonely way to go, with Ms. Wray's help and those who also told of their own stories in Ms. Wray's book, I know I will.
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Summary: Sibling Loss
Review: T.J.Wray's book helped me in ways I couldn't begin to imagine. I had lost my brother in 1998, and felt I had no one to talk to who really understood what I was going through. I have a younger brother that I adore, but, he holds so much in, and always has, so I knew he wouldn't want to really have a deep discussion about our loss. I had one friend that I could talk to, but, she was going through her own battle with leukemia so I tried not to burden her anymore than possible. She was exceptionally kind, though, and I really don't know what I would have done without her. My father had already passed away, and my mother was dealing with the pain of her own loss. She was also ill at the time. I really felt quite alone.
Reading T.J.'s book, though, gave me hope. Had it not been for her straight forward, honest, down to earth writing, I might still be finding myself down in that dark hole. After reading what she had been through herself with the loss of her own brother, and the advice that she shared with us, as readers, I did begin to find solace. Thank goodness someone came forward to write about this overlooked issue of sibling grief. I purchased the book for a friend of mine who lost her brother last year. I haven't heard from her, but, I'm hoping in my heart that she took the time to read this excellent work by T.J.Wray. God Bless people like T.J. who take the time to help others by sharing what they, themselves, have been through so we don't feel so alone.
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Summary: So...I'm NOT crazy!
Review: Thank heavens I found TJ Wray's website and that it brought me to her book. After the loss of my 29 year old brother to cancer, I did the best I could to "deal with it". I was fortunate to have support, many do not. Unfortunately, when I started to feel more depressed about his death 2 years after, I was concerned that I was slipping into a clinical depression. The more I worried that I was "losing it", the sadder I became. Ms. Wray's observations about her own loss helped me to realize that my feelings were not unique. I was not going crazy and it allowed me the time to work through them. Grief sometimes comes in waves and this book is like a boat on top of those waves....you can still feel the rocking motion, but you no longer feel like you are drowning.
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Summary: So...I'm NOT crazy!
Review: Thank heavens I found TJ Wray's website and that it brought me to her book. After the loss of my 29 year old brother to cancer, I did the best I could to "deal with it". I was fortunate to have support, many do not. Unfortunately, when I started to feel more depressed about his death 2 years after, I was concerned that I was slipping into a clinical depression. The more I worried that I was "losing it", the sadder I became. Ms. Wray's observations about her own loss helped me to realize that my feelings were not unique. I was not going crazy and it allowed me the time to work through them. Grief sometimes comes in waves and this book is like a boat on top of those waves....you can still feel the rocking motion, but you no longer feel like you are drowning.
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Summary: Surviving Spiritually and Practically
Review: This book is outstanding in two ways: the first is that it offers concrete, practical advice on surviving the loss of a loved one in such an organized way that I, in the wake of losing my oldest sister, have clung to it as one would to a diet or exercise manual. The author's writing style is warm and personal yet direct and concise. I felt as if I knew her, as if she were counseling me and comforting me personally. The steps she advises in surviving grief are applicable to any loss of a loved one.
But the second stroke of genius in this book is that the author DOES specifically address the loss of an adult sibling. She labels this a "disenfranchised loss", one that is not recognized as a major loss by society and thus makes the griever feel confused or guilty by his or her inability to recover from the sibling's death. She adds the story of her own journey of grief over her brother's death to those of dozens of others who have lost siblings. I felt so comforted knowing that the pain I was in (and still am) is normal and should be recognized as something that will not pass quickly. I found myself saying, "That's just how I feel!" over and over. I am so glad that I bought this book, and I know that I will keep referring to it for a long time. I plan to buy a copy for three of my friends that have lost adult siblings, and I know that it is the greatest gift that I can give them.
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Summary: I Cried from Beginning To End
Review: This is an unbelievable book - I literally cried from the beginning to the end. The first-hand accounts from other people who have lost a sibling were heartfelt and their stories were all familiar. It was so helpful to hear that other people had similar experiences, especially one's that I thought only I had (for example, going to the doctor atleast 6 times in the months after my brother died for even the littlest thing). I would recommend this book to anyone - I'm even asking my husband to read it so that he can better understand what I went through. A DEFINITE MUST-READ FOR THOSE SUFFERING FROM THE DEATH OF AN ADULT SIBLING!
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