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Summary: This book is wonderful!
Review: Buy this book. There are no platitudes here. I read this book straight through over about two weeks -- there's too much to think about to read it straight through -- and I underlined passages that seemed particularly meaningful or insightful. Several times I cried. My next step is to go over the underlined parts and think about them. And then I'll read the book again, but slowly. Each chapter starts with a poem written by somebody like "us." Poetry so perfectly puts emotions into words and I found pieces of myself and my feelings over and over again. I found out why some things have worked so well for me, things that I did intuitively. Others have done similar things. I've made some mistakes. Others have made the same mistakes. I'm uniquely myself, but so much like everyone else. I'm very grateful to Mr. Levy. I'm very grateful that this book was waiting for me. I'm very grateful that I found it.
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Summary: A "MUST READ" for every parentless adult...
Review: By the time you finish reading this deeply personal book (the first time through) you will think that Dr. Levy wrote it just for you. You will understand why you feel so bad, why you STILL feel so bad, and why that's OK. It is beautifuly written, and its prose is deceptively simple and straightforward. I have purchased about 10 copies and given them, as the need arises, to friends with the suggestion that they pass the book along to others. I am buying more today. I may not know what to say to someone when a parent dies, but Dr. Levy does.
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Summary: Thanks for permission to grieve the loss of a parent.
Review: I can't thank Dr. Levy enough for putting into words the various thoughts that run through my head each day, and the feelings that I'm experiencing since the loss of my mother (and last parent) 3 months ago. He helped me understand and communicate to others the deep sense of loss that I'm experiencing, and the feeling of abandonment. A feeling that I didn't think I was allowed to have at the age of 43. Or one that we (orphaned adults) seem to be cheated out of because it was a parent (most likely elderly; the one next in line to die) and not a spouse, sibling or child. I cried through the first half of the book, feeling as if he had been able to read my mind. Page after page, I found myself thinking or talking aloud, saying 'yes, that's exactly how I feel.' Or thinking, that's exactly the way I'm behaving, or that's just how people are acting towards me. My heart still feels an ache over the loss of my loving dad, 19 years ago. But the sense of loss and pain that I'm feeling over the death of my best buddy (my mom) seem overwhelming. His words have helped me to realize that I'm o.k., I'm not going crazy, and I'm not going to feel like this forever. I've already recommended it to several friends. And I've purchased a copy for the sisters and brothers to read. I plan on keeping his book close by and to continue to use it as a source of strengh and security. But mostly I'll use it as a 'permission slip' to grieve.
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Summary: Book for people with old age parents dying
Review: I didn't find the book very helpful. I think it is intended for middle aged people with families of their own who lose OLD age parents. It was mostly one mans view of losing his parents. I lost both my parents when they were middle aged and I was in my 20s and 30s, and I wasn't married and didn't have children. Thus the feelings are different than losing old parents which is more of a natural trangression. I have read other books which are more helpful and give the viewpoint of other people, especially those losing parents before they had lived a full life
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Summary: Thank You!
Review: I whole heartedly agree with most of the other reviewers. I am not one to read too many self help books as I try not to feel sorry for myself; (or as my mother would say, 'be in the pity pot') but instead count my blessings on a daily basis. This book found me one day and I feel doubly blessed that it did. I have recommended it to my sister and my sister's in law and any one else who will listen. Thanks Dr. Levy.
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Summary: This is a wonderful book.
Review: If you think you need "something," you do. You should definitely buy this book. You'll find no platitudes here. I read it over about two weeks -- there's too much to think about to read it straight through -- and I underlined passages that seemed particularly meaningful or insightful. Several times I cried. My next step is to go over the underlined parts and think about them. And then I'll read the book again, but slowly. Each chapter starts with a poem written by somebody like "us." Poetry so perfectly puts emotions into words and I found pieces of myself and my feelings over and over again. I found out why some things have worked so well for me, things that I did intuitively. Others have done similar things. I've made some mistakes. Others have made the same mistakes. I'm uniquely myself, but so much like everyone else. I'm very grateful to Mr. Levy. I'm very grateful that this book was waiting for me. I'm very grateful that I found it.
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Summary: This is simply a wonderful book.
Review: If you think you need "something," you need this book. I found no platitudes here. I read straight through over about two weeks -- there's too much to think about to read it in one or two sittings -- and I underlined passages that seemed particularly meaningful or insightful. Several times I cried. Now I'll go over the underlined parts and think about them. And then I'll read the book again, but slowly. Each chapter starts with a poem written by somebody like "us." Poetry so perfectly puts emotions into words and I found pieces of myself and my feelings over and over again. I found out why some things have worked so well for me, things that I did intuitively. Others have done similar things. I've made some mistakes. Others have made the same mistakes. I'm uniquely myself, but so much like everyone else. I'm very grateful to Mr. Levy. I'm very grateful that this book was waiting for me. I'm very grateful that I found it. And it's a keeper.
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Summary: A wonderful, thoughtful book
Review: This book I bought after my father died, my mom died a few
years before my father. Anyone who has lost a Mom or Dad or both
please read this book.
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Summary: a book on orphaned adults written by an orphaned adult
Review: This book is a gift. I was orphaned as an adult 4 years ago when I lost my parents within 3 months of each other. I picked myself up, dusted myself off and went on with my life. Why? Because that is what society expected me to do. Because mourning for a parent shouldn't last over 2 weeks...after all everyone's parents die, so what's your problem. Well my problem was that I lost the two people in the world who loved me more than life. The two people who were always there. The two people who called me their daughter and now....I'm no one's daughter. Part of my own existence died when they did. Dr Levy's book puts in perspective my pain. Even though life does go on there isn't a day that passes without mourning for what is lost. This book made me realize that grief doesn't just go away nor should it. I now understand that my longing for my parents is healthy and okay. And for this understanding I am very grateful. Thank you again, Dr. Levy
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Summary: Just for adults
Review: What about a book for non-adults? Children and teens also experience the loss of one or both parents, with the exceptional exception of 'Motherless Daughters' there is a lack of books addressing the issues of people like me.
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