The Real Rules : How to Find the Right Man for the Real You

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Summary: The REAL rules finally!!
Review: "The real rules" or "the Rules" neither books give wrong or right advice.Every man & woman is differant when it comes to dating & getting into a committent relationship but to say one book is better then the other is crazy. What works for you won't work for me.Both books will work if you use them right.
I do think the real rules is better suited for strong minded women who are tired of hearing from men & rules girl how they appoarch dating is needy & demanding.Why should strong minded women play mind games.I've appoarch men & men appoarch me.The bottom line if the man is confident in himself.Women wouldn't need to play the games in "the rules" book.People need to read both books.Strong minded women like myself read "The rules" because i'm one of those aggressive ,domineering women & i wanted to keep from scaring off men.I wasn't myself reading "The rules.I am myself reading"The REAL rules".What i learn was i was with the wrong men who weren't confident in themselves now i know how to find a real man who is confident in themselves.Real rules men don't scare off easy but rules men do.
The Real rules book is right if calling a man first on the phone,talking to him first & asking about his relationship baggage in less then 3 months going to drive/scare a man away.This man is not going to be the right man when i need him for support,loyality,trust,a healthy commitmented relationship & during the bad times.How do we keep a man from scaring off.You look for a confident man who's not afraid to be appoarch first & not afraid to have a conversation about his past,present & future from the first day you meet him til 3 months.You should know something about his baggage by 3 month.Thats what the book about.
The only problem i have is i wish Barbara could have went into meeting men online & long distance.A "Online Real rules" version.
The hard part finding confident The real rules men.There are so many "The rules men" out there.Thats why strong minded women doult themselves & start doing "the rules book".When you keep experiences bad.It's hard to believe there is good men out there.

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Summary: "THE REAL RULES" Book is Liberating!
Review: After having read "The Rules" and feeling I had to be deceptive and not myself, I read "The Real Rules." I am an honest up front person and the rule of being myself and treating others the way I want to be treated was and is liberating. Currently I have a couple of men "friends" that have responded more to the real rules and each of of them appreciates my not wanting to play games. Being open with them has produced more positive results than any game I may have tried to play. I have recommended "THE REAL RULES" to several of my friends. I think this is a great book and at least every woman, including married women should read it.

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Summary: THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH..REAL ADVICE IF YOU WANT A LASTING LOVE
Review: Barbara De Angelis is the best writer on the topic of relationships.This book clarified everything for me.I was so confused reading the old rules and john gray's book.A relationship that exist over time will be based on equality.That's how a relationship survives.TWO PEOPLE RELATING.Not a fantasy with one party putting effort forth.She gives you the best advice.With her books you really don't need to look any futher.I have purchased many books on relationships.I always always come back to her books.She give the best information for lasting love.Period.Check out her other books on Passion and Real Moments for lovers.THE BEST!!!!

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Summary: Don't waste your money!
Review: I found this book insulting to my intelligence. I recently purchased this book, along with "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. "The Rules" gives women straightforward, traditional advice on how to be less emotionally needy, and basically how to be "hard to get."

Ms. De Angelis spends 90% of her book merely trying to debunk "The Rules" rather than giving any helpful information of her own. She says the book is about playing games and being hurtful and deceitful. While I found some of the reasoning behind "The Rules" a little silly, I could see why this system could and would work to help women.

It teaches women to stop focusing on finding a man but rather how to let them come to us. It doesn't preach not revealing the true you, as Ms. D would have us believe, but rather how to pace yourself to reveal your personality more slowly and not overwhelm a man and appear needy.

"The Real Rules" is full of reasons why women should be able to be aggressive, domineering and "ourselves" but gives no practical advice on how to keep from scaring off a man. Luckily, the paperback didn't cost me much, because if shipping costs would make it more feasible, I'd send Ms. D's book back to her!

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Summary: Useful but unrealistic
Review: I have read this book and at first was put off doing the old rules but later realised that the Real Rules DO NOT WORK in the early dating stages. It is possible to be yourself by following the old rules and they are not games. I have had many relationships based on the real rules and have always been hurt and treated badly by men in the long run and since following the old rules I have much more self esteem. Men who respond to the old rules are perfectly normal healthy men, not immature bozos as De Angelis put it. By following the real rules in the early dating stages you put yourself in a very vulnerable position for getting hurt. They may work in other aspects of life and for people in committed relationships and yes the book does have some very valid points. I struggled a lot with self esteem years ago with men by following the real rules as I became a nervous wreck. Also I do believe that Barbara De Angelis did the old rules on her husband subconsciously to a certain extent. It appears that she was not all that interested romantically in him at first so applied all the old rules, ie not calling him, or pursuing him or opening up too much. I believe that most women who believe the real rules and are happily married to the right man probably subconsciously followed some of the old rules in the early dating stages. What I can summarise about this book is that it was interesting and had some valid points but do not read it if you are struggling with relationships and have had problems with self-esteem as the Real Rules do not work in the early dating stages.

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Summary: Getting REAL So You Can Sustain a Healthy Relationship
Review: If you're looking to "get" "capture" or manipulate a man with false tactics, games, and pretenses, then this book will help you discover HOW and WHY to be REAL so you can have and sustain a healthy, genuine and authentic relationship.
Games don't work, at all! This is a fantastic book that will help you honor yourself, honor the person you're with, and will help you bring out more of who you truly are, which is the foundation of any real and lasting relationship.
HIGHLY recommended for its truth, authenticity, and the freeing and lasting effect it will bring to your relationship. Be real, and he will feel safe to be real with you. Deserves 10 Stars!

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Summary: *SIGH* Having read the original...
Review: It makes me sad to read all these bad reviews. You poor, poor ladies. You take Barbara's advice and look what happens. "Oh, the agony! I got real and I got rejected. I suffer so!" Hogwash! Men suffer "rejection" all the time. Isn't it time women took the initiative once in a while? If you are feeling all hurt and rejected because one man turned you down, you need to get some self-esteem. Or you could go back to going around acting light and breezy and running your hand through your hair slowly, hoping someone will notice. I don't care--if you want a shallow relationship, it's none of my business. For the rest of you, this is a good book, a real reality check for those of us tempted to try those silly Rules but feeling sick at the thought. If you want to be taken seriously in the world, practice the Real Rules. This may be some New Age Utopian fantasy she is selling, but if some of us don't start practicing it, nothing will change and we may as well return to the dark ages. Stop acting so goshdarned helpless. "But the world just isn't that way." Phooey. Start changing it. Start now.

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Summary: Excellent Rules to Live By
Review: This book taught me a great deal about being authentic in a relationship, and how important it is to not play mind games with someone, but to be honest, even if it's hard to do.
I really learned that self honesty has to come first, before we can be honest with another person.
If you want to be able to be in a relationship that you can count on, and that can grow, get this book, because it will teach you a lot about the games we think we have to play, and why they are so wrong.
This is an Excellent Book!!