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Summary: An encouraging and informative read
Review: As a psychotherapist, I found this book an invaluable source of practical wisdom. The author has articulated something that often goes unheard in a extraverted, "more is more, and more is better" culture. HSP's have difficulty making a relationship to their healthy creative selves; they have often learned to pathologize their gifts of intuition and introspection, depth and empathy. Separated from self, it should be no surprise that they also often become alienated from their partners, but when they are in sync with themselves, they can be warm, compassionate, spontaneous and profoundly present in love relationships. It is gratifying to find a resource that offers concrete suggestions and a wealth of support to HSP's. They are among the more gifted among us, and they need and deserve to be encouraged.
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Summary: Reminds me of a research paper
Review: I was in great anticipation to get my hands on this book and get some self help insite into better ways to deal with my sensitivety. Unfortunately this book tries to target both the clinical psycologist as well as the layperson as its readers and it just doesn't work. I had to stop reading it after 50 pages. Too many HSP's, HSS's, non HSP's and non HSS's and every combination there of.
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Summary: Buy It. Save Yourself Some Work
Review: If you are a highly sensitive person with a non-HSP partner this book is very helpful. First of all, HSPs are often capable of delivering incredibly long explanations of their behavior to select quarters. When called on to explain themselves to a partner, they can speak in epics.
If you are in this position, save yourself some time. Someone has already written the epic.
I have sensed and/or mentioned -most- of the relationship problems in this book. However, my observations and intuitions were spread out over the course of the entire relationship. I'm sure that many of my observations did not penetrate the mind of my partner as being significant. Thus, they weren't as useful as they should have been.
This book lays it out bluntly and clearly, for all to see.
This is extremely important for both partners. The book affirms what the HSP already intuited, and it gives the non-HSP a reference. Non-HSPs seem to feel much happier when they are given a reference. They do not dwell in an intuitive world of twenty thousand grays supplemented by prior reading. If you're having trouble in your relationship and you're highly sensitive, give yourself some relief, give your partner a much-deserved break. Get this, read it together. S/he will be relieved, and so will you. Buy it. Save yourself some work.
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Summary: An encouraging and informative read
Review: In my annual Valentine's Day funk over being perpetually unattached, I bought this book. It was the perfect purchase. It has helped me discover ways (that aren't totally alien to my personality) that I can use for trying to meet somebody special, and what seems like a good guide to the types of things I'll feel and experience as I get into relationships.
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Summary: Sound Advice on Building Sensitive Relationships
Review: The Highly Sensitive Person in Love is Dr. Elaine N. Aron's "sequel" to her best-selling book "The Highly Sensitive Person." This second book builds on her previous research, this time taking on the topic of Relationships and along with it, possibly one of the most difficult issues facing Highly Sensitive People (HSPs): How to balance a strong need for "alone and quiet time" with the genuine desire to have an active and fulfilling intimate relationship. In addition to her research, Aron (an HSP) also draws on experiences from her own marriage to a non-HSP. As a starting point, the book includes a "Sensitivity Self Test" for both the reader and their mate or potential partner. Aron then goes on to explain how HSPs differ from the rest of the world in the way they fall in love, think about love, and their needs within a relationship. There are separate chapters covering the pluses and minuses of different types of relationships: Two HSPs together, and an HSP paired with a non-HSP, as well as the differing needs of highly sensitive men and women. Finally, there are sections on "Building Sensitive Partnerships" and HSP Sexuality. Except for a few vague and indirect references, "The Highly Sensitive Person in Love" deals strictly with heterosexual relationships. Whereas I enjoyed this book, and found much useful information within its pages, it didn't seem to offer quite the number of insights provided by "The Highly Sensitive Person." This perhaps goes to illustrate that whereas HSPs may have special needs, their relationship dynamics aren't AS different from anyone else's as one might think. Still, the book is well worth a read-- the sections on dating that "works" for an HSP, handling conflicts in a relationship, communication, and dividing "like" and "dislike" tasks in low-stress ways are highly recommended. Aron's writing style gets a little dry and "clinical" from time to time, but the book is still quite readable. I think it stands alone quite well, but I would still highly recommend also reading Dr. Aron's original book.
Overall rating: Recommended (7.2 bookmarks out of a possible 10), not only for the Highly Sensitive Person, but also for a less sensitive person with a Highly Sensitive partner who thoroughly mystifies them!
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Summary: Well worth reading - Go for it!
Review: This book reches out to a previously unnoticed population and the people that are in love with them. It explains many theories and gets fairly in depth. The book is a nice reference to look back at now and then as Dr. Arons explores alot of situations that come up between two HSP's in love as well as an HSP and a non HSP. The book is not an easy read as much of the language is quite profound. However, it does bring HSP's better in touch with themselves. Also, some of the explanations can cue non HSP's into the world HSP's face everyday. The same people who can cry at the slightest provocation can also deeply appreciate the inner beauties of art and music. Its good that Dr Arons is in touch with herself and recognizes that these people have a prominent role in our society.
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