Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them : When Loving Hurts And You Don't Know Why

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Summary: Doesn't blame the victim but gives her power
Review: Domestic, physical and emotional abuse is devastating. Those who say "why don't they just leave" miss the point. On the other hand, victims don't have to stay victims. This book could save someone's life, and more, their soul. Susan Forward is wonderful.

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Summary: Salvation for Self
Review: How do you treat someone you really love? What if your husband, the man who once adored you, increasingly belittles you, threatens you, and tries to control you? What happens when you have to hide your most joyous moments from your husband? What happens when you start to believe his attacks, blaming yourself unfairly, becoming more submissive and depriving yourself of the very goals that bring you pleasure? How do you break out of this vicious cycle?
Dr. Forward's book is a welcome eye-opener for any woman trapped in this situation. She shows how this destructive pattern in relationships develops, what its origins are from childhood experiences, and most importantly, how to regain your self-confidence and the courage to leave the relationship, physically and psychologically. She offers specific advice on how to deal with your own self-sabotage, how to set clear boundaries, how to get professional help and how to effectively end the relationship.

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Summary: Women Must Read and Know
Review: I first read this book a long time ago, and over the years have puschased it several times to give to girlfriends, women in abusive relationships, and women in general that I know are troubled by some man they don't understand. It's likely the best book available to show women what a healthy relationship should somewhat resemble, and it shows all the signs of a bad relationship with men who are abusers in the extreme. The books sets all the examples of typical abusive behavior in men, and how to handle it successfully or to leave it completely. It's so incredibly difficult for women to leave an abusive man, and the book provides new hope and new insight into a brand new life free from abuse.

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Summary: A Life Saver
Review: I read this book in 1989 while in an abusive marriage. This book gave me the self confidence to get out and move on with my life. I strongly suggest that anyone in the same situation reads this. It can probably help you too.

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Summary: The mysteries of the mysogynist explained...
Review: Like all of Susan Forwards books this one is very complete and helpful. I think this should be a must read for all women.
Most importantly Susan will explore what the "double blame" means. Men behave badly and the woman apoligises for it--just to shut him up. I found this one in my local library. She clearly explains why these women haters think like they do and what to do if you are in a relationship with one. The couples she writes about from the onset of their relationship to the end make the reading interesting and sometimes realistically painful.

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Summary: there's another name for this
Review: Misogynists--men who hate women--have borderline personality disorder. Dr. Forward doesn't mention this but a great deal has been written about men (and women) with borderline personality disorder since this book was first published. For those of you who have been helped by this book, I recommend that you also read books about BPD because it describes these men perfectly. Men who grew up hating their mothers and had ugly, confrontational relationships with them have BPD and uncontrollable, irrational anger. So do most men (and women) who were sexually and physically abused as children. This explains the hatred these men have for all women, especially their wives. They CAN be helped but it takes effort on THEIR part.

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Summary: A Life Saver
Review: That about sums it up. Get it if you even think you *might* need it.

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Summary: I HAD to reply to "Dangerous Lies" by reader from NJ
Review: This book has helped me through the darkest period of my life. I didn't know why or how I stayed. I tried everything to make it "right". How could an intelligent, attractive woman be involved in a relationship of physical and emotional abuse? Then, after finding this book, I began to realize the answers to those questions. I encourage any woman who has experienced physical violence at the hands of "their loving partner" to read this eye opening account of ourselves and our partners. Finally, it is over and I am moving on. As difficult as that may be...the alternative (staying) is worse! Thank you Dr. Forward for your insite and advise.

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Summary: One of the best books I've ever read
Review: This book is an inspiration for women who are in emotionally abusive relationships. The author tackles this sensitive topic in a compassionate and caring way. She never makes women feel stupid or wrong for what they've put up with in the past from their abusive husbands. Instead she explains why these women act the way they do and why he reacts the way he does.

She follows several women who were in therapy with her so the reader knows how the relationship started and continues through their therapy and their progress and finishes up with some uplifting results. She gives careful step by step advice to gradually change your patterns and is always sensitive to the danger of being involved in one of these relationships.

She explores the kind of childhood both the men and women have which eventually draw them to each other. It is an excellent book for men who are abusive to read also, as they will gain a better understanding as to why they treat the women they claim to love in this manner.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is even questioning whether they are involved with a misongynist, which is often hard to tell as they can be as charming and generous as they can be abusive.

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Summary: YES, HE DOES LOVE YOU!!!
Review: When I read this book my life was in emotional chaos. I tried reading Woman Who love to much by Robin Norwood (*****) but I could not get the message behind it because my self-esteem had been so underminded by the mysoginist that I was with. In order for me to start work on myself I had to first recognize that I was not damaged goods. My self-worth had almost been eradicated. I prayed to God fervently in tears for answers, and then he introduced me to Ms. Forwards book (it was quoted in The Pleasers, a book about women who cannot say no.) It was a shock to realize that this man really did love me and that there was nothing wrong we me, but something very wrong with him. You see, he had me convinced that I was in need of some serious overhauling. He used the bible as a club to hit me over the head with every time I tried to talk to him about his abusive behavior, and even though I was an intelligent, sensitive, giving woman, he had me convinced that I was an abusive, controlling, unspiritual, horrible person. Ms. Forward helped me get things in perspective, and I plan to sow the sees of self-love, confidence, respect and self-worth in my own daughter so that when she meets this kind of a man (and she will) she can tell him to take a flying leap off of a tall cliff!