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Summary: No secrets
Review: This is a very interesting book with an equally interesting title but the excitement stops right there. There were no secrets nor any extraordinary information or techniques that I haven't read in countless other books. What I found strange in this book, that supposedly was intended for men, was an over abundance of unnecessary lesbian advocacy and grand standing. The over generalization of men as bumbling, insensitive and unknowledgeable became very annoying early in this book. While this book does deliver basic knowledge and a necessary biology refresher, I wouldn't recommend it. The author is obviously condescending to its target audience, for reasons unknown but I do suspect that the authors of this book are secretly hoping that your wife/girl friend pick up this book and discover how inept that you are to a "sweet lesbian lover".
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Summary: The '...but TEACH a man to fish' of SEX books! WOW!
Review: This is a wonderfully frank and explicit text book written from a truly queer perspective. Having many lesbian friends, the thing I most liked about them was their open frank discussions of relationships and sexuality. Much more than gay men where I'm from, dykes where their sexualities far more explicitly. I always wondered at the thoughts, feelings and observations of these women with regards to the realm of sex. How do they think of women? How do they think of their bodies? What can they (should/will?) teach men? The authors have quite a lot of fun discussing the ins and outs of lesbian sex and how to apply the same theory for men. It works rather well. And I particularly enjoyed the text's committment to queerness and fluidity. I have two criticisms of this book. The first is - there are no pictures. Now I understand why this is, as the authors state, there is a lot of variety out there with regard to genitals. So fair enough, but even some generic photos (heck - even line drawing diagrams) of the various components would have helped round out the descriptions (but then again, I guess the focus is on getting out of your head and into the funk...). The second is that there is not a sustained discussion on penises. This is understandable, given the title and angle of the book. But more space could have been given to male physique. That said, there is always - "Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man", but I've not read that one yet... Criticisms noted, this is an excellent read and skilfully balances the importance of emotional and sexual relationships. The queer factor, combined with the fact the advice has come about through research with a number of different lesbian, bi, hetero and pansexual women (more on the conditions under which it was undertook would have been interesting and valuable) make this a rather wonderful "how to".
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