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Summary: Depression Fallout Makes it Clear
Review: Anne Sheffield has once again proven she's an expert in the field of depression and the impact on those living within its' clutches. Based on the website developed from her first book, How You Can Survive When They Are Depressed, this book describes the real-life trials and tribulations families suffer through. It offers practical ideas to cope and find happiness when relationships are strained by various manifestations of depression. She has pieced together stories and advice from the website, thus creating a masterpiece that offers hope and optimism. It's an excellent resource for anyone living with a depressed family member.
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Summary: A book devoted to the other half
Review: I am reviewing this book:this is a final,revised review:I have found that yes,it has helped me so much. Anne's sensitively and compassionate book,have a lot to say on the subject of depression fallout. I am writing this review,in order to correct some rather hasty and poor judgements of both Anne,and members (including Lisa) of the board,"Depression Fallout". I ask forgiveness for my harsh words. Being not only a diabetic,a depression fallout sufferer who has suffered unending pain and trauma,over 15 years (since my father's death) along with extreme bereavement trauma. My only constructive critique of Anne's book:has to do with this aspect of depression fallout:my situation is different from others. Living with my mother,(crippled by not merely depression,but arthritus,and extreme bereavement trauma) I have to try to live with and through my own depression,plus my depression fallout-the board has been there for me,and I am truly thankful. If in her future books,the aspect of depression fallout,along with family ill health,being the son and brother of depressives,along with bereavement trauma which affects this even more/worse,if this subject were to be discussed,it might help those like myself,who are living through fire. I hope that when this final and newly revised review appears,that it will help people. Thank you,Anne,and Thank You:Goldenheart. Marc Bernstein.
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Summary: This book was a life saver
Review: I have re-read Anne's book many times,my mother,and my sister all have been helped by it. But,I find it lacking in one regard: how about the sons/brothers of depressives who have to live with them,can't leave,feel they are needed by their families,for morale support,etc..I am a living example of this. I used to post on the depression fallout board,Goldenheart's advice helped me,as did Anne's,Mollestad's,Linda's (from South Africa) many others. Only one unsympathetic poster:Lisa Lonewolf. Then,there have been the arguments and nasty exchanges on the board,foul language,by SAD,and fake or questionable posts trying (as Lisa's was to me) other posters on the board. Keith was an offender,the fake "Joel" was another. This turned me off,so I left the board,feeling that I no longer belonged. Anne,Grey Owl,Goldenheart,if you read this,I'm a real person,I have done my best in a situation where I am unable (lack of free will) to leave my mother. I have my own life,I make the most of everything. Anne:your books are valuable,but I would like to see more input from posters such as myself,who are sons/brothers of depressed mothers and sisters,and have to stay,can not leave. There is a fine line of balance here,I do my best. Again,sorry if I offended Lisa Lonewolf,Anne,Goldenheart,SAD,etc..I felt unwanted. Anyone from depression fallout board reading this review,you are welcome to e-mail me,or post concerning me on depression fallout. Marc Bernstein.
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Summary: This book hits the mark!
Review: I was looking specifically for a relationship book on how to deal with depression. This book specifically targets marriages when one partner is depressed. It hits the mark perfectly! I wish I had read the book as soon as I suspected my husband was depressed. it would have saved months of fighting and misunderstandings. It offers practical advice for real life situations. A must read manual for getting through the worst.
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Summary: An honest book
Review: It is an amazing concept, to realize there is a messageboard somewhere in cyberspace populated with people like me, not just people who love a depressed partner, but people who suffer the confusion, the hope, the anger, the torment, and the surreality of it all. Even more amazing is this book: Anne has packed a huge body of folk knowledge and professional knowledge into these pages, both from the messageboard the book was based on and from psychiatrists and the mental health community. And that's what really made this book ring true for me; in reading what other wives and husbands were going through, in their own words, I was suddenly able to believe that I was not alone. I've spent so much time telling my partner that he is not alone, that millions of people suffer from depression. It never occurred to me that I must, therefore, also not be alone; there must also be other people who are struggling to lead good lives in spite of trying to love a depressive.Anne's book offers a lot of practical suggestions about how you can do both: be fair and loving to your partner and also genuinely enjoy your own life. She doesn't sugarcoat it, and by being honest, she shows you how there is a way through, that by using your basic sense of fair play and a respect for your own well-being, you can once again create a world that makes sense. Without even telling my partner I've read this book, I have changed some of my interaction with him for the better, and I can see it having a positive effect not only on me, but on him. I am looking forward to future improvements, as I implement and practice more of Anne's advice.
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Summary: Anne Sheffield has done it again!!
Review: It seems that society forgets that depression not only has a major impact on the depressed person, but it also affects their family, significant others, and friends. This book, as well as Anne's other book, "How You Can Survive When They're Depressed: Living and Coping With Depression Fallout," are extremely helpful to those who love someone who is depressed. Many times we blame ourselves for our loved-ones' behaviors when, instead, many of the things they say and do are a result of their depression. "Depression Fallout..." helps the reader to better understand depression and how to deal with his or her own behaviors in response to the depressed loved-one. As the reader reads the stories shared by men and women who have loved a depressed person, the reader will see that he/she is not alone in what they are experiencing.
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Summary: helped me seperate the depression from my husband
Review: My husband got depression completely out of the blue a couple of years ago. He is 28 and we have been together for 7 years. Although I knew he 'had depression' it wasnt until reading this book that I really understood just how much of my husband's life and personality was affected by the disease. Reading this book helped me realise when it was the depression talking and how my husband was thinking. At the time, my husband had got into the routine of telling me I should leave him becasue he was worthless etc. It was breaking my heart. I was relieved and shocked to read about this exact scenario in Depression Fallout. Anne Sheffield has wriiten a remarkable book that will help the non-depressed spouse to understand what depression is doing, how not to take things so personally and how to communicate with the depressed partner in order to bring about change. It doesnt give false hope and isnt all doom and gloom either. This book really changed my life and has helped me to help my husband as well as myself. He is now well on the way to recovery and I really feel that this is in part due to my renewed understanding of his condition.
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Summary: Eye opener
Review: This book was an eye opener for me. My spouse was dealing with depression, I was dealing with the fallout, and thought I was the only person in the world having this experience. It never occurred to me that I was experiencing what many others were also going through. It never occurred to me that depression could take its toll on the entire family, not just the depressed. I stumbled onto "Depression Fallout" website purely by chance, and after reading the information there and reading so many of the posts on the Message Board I knew I'd found the support I needed. Once I started reading the book, I could not put it down. Anne described my emotions and situation to a T. Everything I felt and thought while going through this experience was recounted in her book and I felt as if she were telling my particular story. Ms. Sheffield was able to capture the true effects of depression from her own experiences and from the experiences of other fallout sufferers. She gave me tools and strategies to use while coping with my depressed spouse, and laid it out in plain-spoken format.This is a MUST read for anyone living with a depressed partner, and even for those with depressed persons in their family.
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Summary: The Key to Understanding Your Loved One's Depression
Review: This book was exactly what I needed to help me understand my husband's depression. My world was turned upside down when he suddenly began to act like a different person. After his hospitalization, I was left wondering what happened. Upon looking up depression on tons of websites and in loads of books, I was convinced he had been misdiagnosed. The "sad, empty, lonely" description didn't explain the hostile, angry, and seemingly emotionless person I was now living with. All of that was explained in Depression Fallout. The "Unofficial Symptoms" in the book described my husband's behavior to a T. I felt like I was reading about us. My husband also agreed that this book contained the most accurate description of the way he felt, but could not easily put into words. The real life accounts of people who have lived with and are still living with this are great. It creates a true picture of depression from the point of view of both the depressed person as well as their spouse.
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