Orgasms for Two : The Joy of Partnersex

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Summary: Not a good book for improving your love life
Review: Betty Dodson begins "Orgasms for Two" with a straight-forward introduction, and by page two, you'll find drawings for new positions. But by page three, you'll find out that Dodson is NOT a supporter of monogamy or heterosexuality, and that she feels that women have been oppressed by men - they're being FORCED to have sex in the missionary position. By the end of the first chapter, you'll learn that she feels the Vagina Monologues were politically incorrect and misleading, and she'll have told you that most men have extramarital affairs, and that this is ok. Well, we were just looking for a book that would help us improve our sex life, not an oppressed feminist's diatribe. If you want a feminist's ranting commentary on sex-in-general, this is the book for you. If you and your partner are looking for new ideas to try in bed, look somewhere else.

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Summary: Bitter old Sexologist goes off on the world
Review: Having followed Betty and her writing for nearly twenty years, I found this to be her most concise and mature writing to date. She is never one to shy away from difficult, controversial, or Politically Correct topics. In Orgasms for Two, Betty tackles the still difficult issues of masturbation, romantic love, relationships, and Politically Correct sexual behavior with her usual no-nonsense, practical approach. Her ideas are based on decades of actual experience, both hers and those with whom she has worked, in addition to current research in sexuality. While not an encyclopedic tour de force of human sexuality, Orgasms for Two speaks to the core issues of sexuality today. Her refusal to blindly adhere to any party line, feminist or otherwise, lends tremendous credibility to what she has to say. She is critical of the Vagina Monologues and G-Spot orgasm fads, but the criticism is thoughtful and intelligent, not vicious or dismissive. Her criticism of "romance," one of my pet peeves, is concise and clear. As usual, she makes one stop and think. (Painful, I know, but good for you, nonetheless.) The description of her relationship with a considerably younger man is an honest and important story for every woman who plans to live past thirty. Having studied Tantric, Taoist, and Sex Magick practices, I agree with her that masturbation and understanding one's own orgasmic nature are vital ingredients to becoming an independent, liberated being. If more people had happier sex lives and a stronger sexual/spiritual connection, the world would be a much better place. Betty's outrageous frankness about sex and her sex life can be very healing for anyone with pain or insecurity connected with their sexuality. I heartily recommend all of Betty's works, and if you are unfamiliar with her work, this book is a great place to start. Good job, Betty Ann.

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Summary: Sexual pleasure information without the right wing slant
Review: In today's America, sexual pleasure that takes any form besides the accepted heterosexual-monogamous/religious model is mercilessly persecuted. I read the review posted on Dec 26th by the person in Sausalito bashing Betty. I got an excited glow in my heart and knew I'd found the right book! I bought it instantly!

While reading it I found myself cheering out loud over and over again, "You go girl, say it like it is!"

After reading this book I can testify that Betty does not consider monogamous heterosexuality to be an "invalid life choice", but rather there are real breakdowns within the model (that never gets any press until now) and there are other sexual lifestyles that are just as valid. She has nothing to be bitter about! She's just got the truth that's hard to take. I saw V-Day in Madison Square Garden and read the book. And if the V-Girls can't handle criticism, then get out da' kitchen!

Orgasms For Two is both socio-sexual commentary and Betty's guide to creating sexual pleasure. And what she taught me has revolutionized the sex with my boyfriend. Before, we were resigned to never having orgasms during intercourse. Not anymore!

Nuff' said! We love you, Betty! Peace! --Claire

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Summary: Thank You Betty!!
Review: Let me say I agree with the review that Claire Johnson from New York, NY gave where she notes that Betty 'does not consider monogamous heterosexuality to be an "invalid life choice", but rather there are real breakdowns within the model (that never gets any press until now) and there are other sexual lifestyles that are just as valid'. And that 'Orgasms For Two is both socio-sexual commentary and Betty's guide to creating sexual pleasure'. My husband who died in February loved her books because they free men as well as women from the bondage of conservative, boring sex. I like her writing because she challenges the reader to think outside the box. This book is more commentary and she makes that clear, in my opinion, from the get go.And I agree with her that celebrating human sexuality has a serious healing force that we are only now coming to appreciate and understand. Lastly, I like the book because as a woman over age 50 its nice to see a peer writing so powerfully about the right of older adults to a sexually satisfying life.

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Summary: Thank You Betty!!
Review: Let me say I agree with the review that Claire Johnson from New York, NY gave where she notes that Betty 'does not consider monogamous heterosexuality to be an "invalid life choice", but rather there are real breakdowns within the model (that never gets any press until now) and there are other sexual lifestyles that are just as valid'. And that 'Orgasms For Two is both socio-sexual commentary and Betty's guide to creating sexual pleasure'. My husband who died in February loved her books because they free men as well as women from the bondage of conservative, boring sex. I like her writing because she challenges the reader to think outside the box. This book is more commentary and she makes that clear, in my opinion, from the get go. And I agree with her that celebrating human sexuality has a serious healing force that we are only now coming to appreciate and understand. Lastly, I like the book because as a woman over age 50 its nice to see a peer writing so powerfully about the right of older adults to a sexually satisfying life.