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Summary: Unfulfilled
Review: After reading 40 or so pages of this book it seems the author's major advice is to see a sex therapist ASAP! This plug comes up repeatedly and infuriates me!
I have heard the phrase "I want to sleep!" beyond count. Do the authors of this book understand the word "avoidance"? I'm sure many of you lost lovers out there know were I'm coming from - we don't have a prayer in getting our spouse to get in to see a sex therapist, period.
I keep reading, looking for some good words of wisdom, but if you were looking for this I would recommend David Schnarch's books. At least, he gives the intelligent reader the benefit of a doubt; they have the power to change the dynamics of their love life (without the sex therapist)
After 80 pages, I've tossed it.
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Summary: My highest recommendation
Review: Barry and Emily McCarthy have written THE book for couples who are mired in a sea of sexual avoidiance. If you still love your partner, but you somehow just can't make the sexual connection, read this book. It is a treasure trove of practical, realistic
strategies to revive your love.Here, finally, is the comprehensive, thoughtful, down to earlth, un-gimicky guide and roadmap I needed to have to give to the many, varied low and no sex couples who I see for sex therapy. There is no simplistic, woman's-magazine advice to be found in the pages of Rekindling Desire. I can't think of anything I wish the authors had said that they omitted. The discussions and the cases have depth, and as a reader struggling with the problem of a low sex relationship, you will find yourself in its pages. As the reader, you can hear the authors' seasoned clinical voices cheering you on, giving you sage advice. A major strength of this book: you get concrete, healing suggestions for rethinking, reframing, and constructively talking to eachother about this important, joint problem. You also get the chance to give up some long-held myths that are ruining your chances to reawaken love. I admire the McCarthys' discussion of normal sexuality and their counseling on realistic sexual expectations. Just reading through Rekindling Desire will be educational for all couples. Low and no sex relationships are complicated. Rekindling Desire does't promise instant cures, it doesn't hype the "latest advances." To make deep changes, readers will need to be committed to change, to grab hold of the techniques provided. But by adopting the "intimate team" approach, a loving couple who each intend to reclaim their due share of physical and emotional connection and sexual desire will surely succeed.
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Summary: "A wonderful book"
Review: Finally, an empathetic, informative, non-judgmental approach to understanding and resolving what felt like an overwhelming problem. I was impressed that the book offered such kind, practical advice without assuming a clinical tone. It was clearly written and by following their suggested techniques, my husband and I are truly emerging as an "intimate team". Our thanks to the McCarthy's for their sensitive and sage advice. This book is not for those who wish to take a TV commercial pharmaceutical approach to their sexual issues; however, I would highly recommend it to couples who seek to understand and strengthen all aspects of their intimate relationship.
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Summary: Not for Me
Review: I am a sex educator teaching in a Michigan college town. A graduate student told me about Rekindling Desire and how it helped both she and her partner have a much better sex life. I bought Rekindling Desire on her recommendation, read it, and now recommend it to couples of all ages. If a couple want to work on being an `intimate team'-a term that is creatively used in the book-to change their sexual life for the better, they'll find this book honest and clear, explaining lots of common sexuality concerns and making suggestions for how to move forward and solve problems. The book doesn't just cover sex, it really helps couples deepen their relationship and strengthen their intimacy. The McCarthys' have written other good books about sex, and are known for their conversational, non-textbook way of writing. Since Barry McCarthy is a sex therapist, he understands real people and real people's problems. No time is wasted on blaming; instead there are understandable and doable steps outlining a path to change. Great information, clearly written. For people who want to work together realistically to bring out the best in themselves, this is a wonderful book.
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Summary: This is a wonderful couples book!
Review: I am a sex educator teaching in a Michigan college town. A graduate student told me about Rekindling Desire and how it helped both she and her partner have a much better sex life. I bought Rekindling Desire on her recommendation, read it, and now recommend it to couples of all ages. If a couple want to work on being an 'intimate team'-a term that is creatively used in the book-to change their sexual life for the better, they'll find this book honest and clear, explaining lots of common sexuality concerns and making suggestions for how to move forward and solve problems. The book doesn't just cover sex, it really helps couples deepen their relationship and strengthen their intimacy. The McCarthys' have written other good books about sex, and are known for their conversational, non-textbook way of writing. Since Barry McCarthy is a sex therapist, he understands real people and real people's problems. No time is wasted on blaming; instead there are understandable and doable steps outlining a path to change. Great information, clearly written. For people who want to work together realistically to bring out the best in themselves, this is a wonderful book.
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Summary: Rekindling Desire:A Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex
Review: I am a sex therapist with over 20 years of experience in the field. This is a book that I was eagerly awaiting and am using on a daily basis as an adjunct to my work with couples. It is clear, repetitive enough to "make the point," and gives couples clear steps that they can read and evaluate on their own, as well as in the therapy sessions. I fell very positive about recommending this book.
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Summary: A Homerun!
Review: I had only heard of Dr. McCarthy from reading a few articles. But when I was introduced to his book, Rekindle... I was amazed. This guy knows everthing there is to know about sex. I think this is the kind of book that would definitely strengthen a marriage.
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Summary: Read Passionate Marriage instead
Review: I had read sex-starved marriage prior and there was very little new information that I learned in this book. The author definitely takes a much more clinical approach than Sex Starved Marriage but in the end he is basically saying the same thing - increase desire through more physical arousal. It's not a bad "introduction" to the subject and it (along with Sex Starved Marriage) will help couples when the low-desire partner is motivated to work on the problem. This is rarely the case. It wasn't until, I read Dr. Schnarch's Passionate Marriage that I discovered the "real" dynamics at play in our relationship. Passionate Marriage has a completely different approach to it. If you could only buy one book, I would recommend Passionate Marriage instead.
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Summary: Wholistic Approach to Fulfilling Sexual Relationship
Review: I particularly liked this book because it approaches the problem of rekindling sexual fulfillment in marriage from the viewpoint of the whole person. That is, it deals with the range of mental and emotional elements which contribute to real sexual fulfillment. This permits the reader to identify the elements applicable to his or her relationship and also to recognize that remedial action may require a range of actions.
I also liked the authors' thesis that sexual fulfillment, even in a good marriage, is something which should be viewed as an objective to be tended to, requiring a certain amount of ongoing attention.
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Summary: Not for Me
Review: I thought this book had good information and was quite helpful for the subject overall but a wee bit too clinical for what I was needing. What we really needed was a way to get out of the rut we were in which frankly made sex boring. We would both rather masturbate than just go through the motions. Fortunately a friend recommended 500 Lovemaking Tips which gave some creative and juicy tips that gave me the boost I needed.
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