What Men Really Want

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Summary: How men show their love and affection
Review: ...and ask them anything you want, you will probably find it here. This is next to the best thing. You will read things like: understanding him in a relationship, why sometimes he likes to be alone and why you can't change him and what happens if you try. For more of a deeper understanding about men, this is the one to read. It's a, "ahhh, now I know" kind of a book.

Perry Rose, author of I Love You...Will You Marry Me?!

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Summary: Buy a spare copy for a friend
Review: I bought this book because I was on the point of losing a man I was very much interested in keeping around. It made me realize right away several things I was doing to push him away and I was able to turn the relationship around. This is a general book about what men want and not only useful in dealing with romantic relationships but also gives women a better understanding of men in general. It helped me at work with men I work with, and I passed my old copy (which I had read several times) on to a girlfriend. I miss being able to refer to it, so I am back online buying another copy. Goldberg's style is a little more intellectual (but not lofty) than John Gray and so if you find Gray a little "flowery" this might be a better reference for you.

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Summary: WHAT I LEARNED ABOUT MYSELF AS A MAN AND HUSBAND
Review: I FOUND THIS BOOK WHEN I WAS LOOKING FOR FALUDI'S BOOK "STIFFED" IN THE "MEN'S STUDIES" SECTION (ABOUT TWO SMALL SHELVES) AT BORDERS. I GENERALLY DON'T READ POP PSHCHOLOGY OR SELF HELP BOOKS BECAUSE I DIDN'T THINK THERE WAS ANY HOPE FOR ME. I THOUGHT CIRCUMSTANCES IN MY LIFE HAD TURNED ME INTO A COLD, DISTANT, SELFISH, ABUSIVE, MEAN SPIRITED, UNLOVING, INSENSITIVE, UNFEELING, ETC. MAN. HOW COULD ANYONE LOVE ME! I NEVER FELT THAT I WAS ANY OF THOSE DESCRIPTIVE WORDS AND BECAME VERY DEFENSIVE AFTER HEARING THEM FOR TWENTYFIVE YEARS. ALL THOSE WORDS DID WAS HARDEN ME EVEN MORE. NOW AFTER READING ABOUT MYSELF IN THIS BOOK AND RECOGNIZING BOTH MY BEHAVIOR AND MY WIFE'S BEHAVIOR AS TYPICAL, THE NORM RATHER THAN THE ABBERANT, I FEEL THAT THERE IS HOPE FOR ME AND FOR US. I RECOMMEND THIS BOOK FOR MEN AS WELL AS WOMEN IN ORDER TO BRING SOME PEACE TO THE DYNAMICS OF MALE,HUSBAND/FEMALE,WIFE RELATIONSHIPS.

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Summary: Redundant
Review: I got bored reading the first chapter or so. I just went to the last part of the book and read the summaries. Useful and concise.

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Summary: long and drawn out
Review: This book is hard to keep focused on. I ended up going to the last pages in a matter of minutes. I've read better.

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Summary: Great Content, But A Tough Read!
Review: This classic relationship book is still selling well because of the insane popularity of new television shows like Sex and the City, The Bachelor, Joe Millionaire, and The Bachelorette.

Why are people buying these relationship books?

The answer for most women is because of the necessity to understand how men think and behave. Additionally woman need to appreciate men for who they really are because in today's popular culture, men can act very mysteriously.

Herb Goldberg's book is pre-Mars & Venus which I think is a more readable book than this one. But I got my start in studying relationships by reading Dr. Goldberg's other great work titled, "The New Male."

I read this book the other day because I'm doing research for my third book which addresses typical women's questions about today's reality romance shows.

In reading this book I found two parts that I think are very valuable. One is the section titled, "Men's Blind Spots: How He Distorts His Relationships" which has 12 specific behavior patterns described in detail (very right on). The other section I like is titled, "Loving Him As He Wants To Be Loved" which I think are very true and can help women create a more secure emotional attachment.

As a writer in this subject matter, this is one of those books that I like to have in my library so that I can refer to it from time to time on core relationship principles. This is not a book for entertainment, but one for reference.

I can't disagree with any of the other reviewers for this book. Some will find it redundant, others will find it informative, and many will think it's boring. But for a few dollars, you get some valuable information from a highly credible source.

If you're a woman who is confused by the mixed signals that men give off in love relationships, this book may offer you some clues. Just don't expect to be entertained or amused. This is serious stuff that is written in a more formal tone. But knowing men's love blind spots may be worth your while. (It was for me!)