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Summary: Anyone going through this pain should read this book
Review: I have been going through the pain of infedility for several months before discovering this book. It is very easy to read. It gave me a lot of insight into why my husband had an affair and how he thinks and insight into my own feelings. After I read the book I asked my husband to read it. He even stated that the writers were right on the money and confirmed some of his ideas on how I was feeling and what I am going through. Now we both are talking more and moving to resolve things and make our marriage better. I would recommend this book to anyone going through this terrible ordeal. I just wish I had found this sooner so we could start healing sooner.
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Summary: Surviving Infidelity, Saving My Relationship
Review: I recently was informed by my spouse that she had a past 1 year affair. I remember being very numb and angry. It was recommended that I read Surviving Infidelity. What a true blessing this book provides. At a time when I felt my world was coming to an end this easy to read paperback has given me the strength to move forward and understand why people in general have affairs but more importantly than that the book affirmed the emotional feelings I am experiencing right now are NORMAL and thou I share some responsibitlity for our relationship I am not at fault for my wife deciding to have the affair. I have decided as a result of this reading that my relationship with my wife is worth saving and this book has given me valuable tools to move in that direction. Thank-you Rona and Gloria for giving me more insight and understanding.
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Summary: Don't Indulge the Pain
Review: Society has long cultivated the reaction of mostly women but also men to become outraged by the "affair," a sad and sorry mistake, because with so many going on, it is unrealistic to expect that they will stop, or that some magical cure is available. The sadness is that it is women who pay the price by sacrificing what they have been led to believe is their virtue while men ignore the whole problem and do what they want. No one must think in these overly confining straight jackets of the ill effects of monogamy that would isolate a couple in what most would suggest is an unrealistic, undesirable, prison of conscience. The deception and subsequent guilt is caused by society's attempt to place onto women the requirements of propriety while relaxing it upon males - a discriminatory plan, intent and effect. Women do not have to buy the garbage along with the marriage. What they must do is to alter the environment so that society, including their mates, do not attempt to force the price onto them of his infidelity, for example, or to prevent her rightful freedom of association that is a baseline critical element of freedom. Social constraints cannot create freedom, but they can modify it to create victims, and it is usually the weaker parties who get harmed. To prevent the "rages of man" who finds that his wife has been unfaithful, society sets up the obscene circumstance that it is only males who deserve the freedom or privilege of infidelity and the wife must carry the banner of fidelity as a show of her virtue. Nonsense! The syndrome is a religious perception that feeds from the Virgin Mary and the Madonna to create unrealistic attitudes from women, about women, and for women that males rarely are held accountable for. It also accomplishes the task of not having to prosecute males when they become enraged, and kill their spouses or the lovers, when infidelity occurs, a great convenience and cost-savings for the State and the nation. No betrayal is "done to a woman." In fact, males don't even think about their women to any great extent or they would not be doing it at all. The solution is to equalize the fidelity territory so that it is not only women who are supporting it, and force men to share in the benefits of monogamy, or not to have the assurance of it at all.
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Summary: Don't Indulge the Pain
Review: Society has long cultivated the reaction of mostly women but also men to become outraged by the "affair," a sad and sorry mistake, because with so many going on, it is unrealistic to expect that they will stop, or that some magical cure is available. The sadness is that it is women who pay the price by sacrificing what they have been led to believe is their virtue while men ignore the whole problem and do what they want. No one must think in these overly confining straight jackets of the ill effects of monogamy that would isolate a couple in what most would suggest is an unrealistic, undesirable, prison of conscience. The deception and subsequent guilt is caused by society's attempt to place onto women the requirements of propriety while relaxing it upon males - a discriminatory plan, intent and effect. Women do not have to buy the garbage along with the marriage. What they must do is to alter the environment so that society, including their mates, do not attempt to force the price onto them of his infidelity, for example, or to prevent her rightful freedom of association that is a baseline critical element of freedom. Social constraints cannot create freedom, but they can modify it to create victims, and it is usually the weaker parties who get harmed. To prevent the "rages of man" who finds that his wife has been unfaithful, society sets up the obscene circumstance that it is only males who deserve the freedom or privilege of infidelity and the wife must carry the banner of fidelity as a show of her virtue. Nonsense! The syndrome is a religious perception that feeds from the Virgin Mary and the Madonna to create unrealistic attitudes from women, about women, and for women that males rarely are held accountable for. It also accomplishes the task of not having to prosecute males when they become enraged, and kill their spouses or the lovers, when infidelity occurs, a great convenience and cost-savings for the State and the nation. No betrayal is "done to a woman." In fact, males don't even think about their women to any great extent or they would not be doing it at all. The solution is to equalize the fidelity territory so that it is not only women who are supporting it, and force men to share in the benefits of monogamy, or not to have the assurance of it at all.
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Summary: Surviving Infidelity, Saving My Relationship
Review: This book will help you over the rough spots of Infidelity. The authors let you know you are not alone and we all go through the same stages of Infidelity. Not all affairs are the same, but they are just as hurtful, nor do they all call for the same response, which does not make cheating right in any way. Surviving Infidelity will help you to understand what goes on in a cheaters mind. Here you will find answers to the many questions you have. I believe the hardest part to get over is the betrayal. Every one handles infidelity differently. Remember: we must never take it on ourselves, the cheater is wrong. Here is a list of subjects the authors explain to us: Why affairs happen Discovery and its impact Coping and healing Dealing with the martial crisis Repairing the relationship, if that is what you want The post affair marriage Increasing your self-esteem What it takes to be a survivor I noticed this book in a bookstore as I was searching for a book to improve on myself. Something told me to buy it because at the time it fit my life, boy was I glad I did. I realized that I did not need the fixing because I was the injured party. It is really strange but those of us cheated on seem to take the blame for something that is out of our control. Remember where the blame lies -- we are the hurt and damaged ones. Read the book it will really help you pick up the pieces of your life. It did me. This one earned High Marks from this reviewer.
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