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Summary: I would have given this no stars....
Review: After breaking up with a guy I was with for 2 years because I finally accepted that "he just wasn't into me" (sound familiar?? yes, buy THAT book!) I began a journey to read any books that would help motivate me and help me not make the same mistakes. I found this book by Mr. Molloy in my library and after skimming through the introduction, I hit this as one of the "Six Findings on the path to marrying men"....it said "Women who are slender have an easier time meeting men and better odds of getting married". Well isn't THAT special. So I should just stop right there and lose weight so men will be attracted to me enough to approach me, this is the basic message conveyed here.....I DO find it funny how a few parapgraphs before, one of the findings stated "Women who married loved themselves more then they loved any man"...SO what happens to me and I assume MANY other women, who do love themselves more then any man and may not be slender?? Looks like Mr. Molloy would conclude we are destined to be single. Sorry, I didn't read any further then the introduction and put it back on the shelf. I do love myself more then any man, I am not the stereotypical slender, and I do believe I will find true love without having to lose weight.
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Summary: Interesting research regarding marrying vs. non-marrying men
Review: Although I don't think this book will with all certainty help you find the man of your dreams; it does contain some excellent tips and information to assist you. This book is based on research findings Mr. Molloy and his team came up with through interviews and focus groups with engaged couples, single men, single women, men and women of different ages and education levels and married couples. I found the book easy to read and insightful. If finding the man you want to marry is one of your goals in life this book will give you some of the tools for your journey to his side.
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Summary: Good but Humorless
Review: Contrary to what many believe, the trip to the altar is a dance that the woman must lead. Molloy's guide to leading that dance is based on research rather than pop psychology or the lives of a few people. The results are impressive: more than half of the single female researchers involved in the studies were married within three years. Many of them had given up on finding a mate.
The book contains findings that repeat what your grandmother might have told you (but run contrary to popular belief). Molloy all but comes out and states that living together isn't a step toward marriage. Also, men may date sexpots, but marry respectable types. An obvious finding: don't waste your time on a married man. I had pictured mistresses as immoral but beautiful, spoiled young women who eventually wrecked someone's home and lived a life of comfort. In reality, the researchers came away calling these women the world's biggest fools. What some of the "other women" did during the study may surprise you.
Other facts surprised me as well. Men look for different qualities, and react to women differently, at different stages of life. And I was shocked that so many women would even consider cleaning their boyfriend's apartment.
The book was disappointing in some ways, though. Having spent many years as an image consultant, he gives a lot of advice on improving your appearance. I doubt that many women will go to the lengths he suggests. Although many women could stand some improvement in this slovenly era we live in, I don't think that's the main reason so many women can't find husbands. To paraphrase Sam Cooke, if we could meet `em, we could get `em. Molloy says that men get married only after they leave the "singles scene." He then suggests women look for a husband no later than around age 28, while they can still circulate comfortably in...the singles scene. He really doesn't say where men go after they leave the singles scene, except that the gym is the best place to meet men over 40, women should network with friends, etc.
While this book has some useful information, it was difficult to read without getting depressed. It treats marriage like the Holy Grail, and presents the findings with little humor. Nevertheless, it has given me some ideas to try. And if they don't work, I'll still be happily single.
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Summary: Don't bother if you are a woman over 35
Review: I bought this book because I thought that I would learn some special insight into why I was still a single woman over 40. I don't recommend this book if you are older. The author states the obvious: 1) Men want younger women 2) If you are an over 40 woman, who is single, you better be attractive and thin more so than your younger counterparts. 3) You should marry unattractive men who get passed over by other women. 4) You should join an athelic group of some sort, go out on Singles outings etc..etc... Nothing new here to me. I have done all of the things the author suggests and I am still single going on four years. I am thin- if I get any thinner my doctor will get ticked, attractive, take care of myself and participate in many sporting activities. Anyhow-there is no special formula here, maybe I should write a book and tell women the following:
1) Date divorced men - they are easier to get along with -
2) Stay away from players and guys who have NEVER settled down or who have a history of breaking women's hearts.
3) Love yourself enough to take care of yourself on the inside and out. No brainers here ladies...I am done reading these dating books. Finding the love of your life is either meant to be ie, luck or it is not.
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Summary: Hard but True: Straight Talk About Who Gets Married
Review: I have been married for seven months, but had to pick this book up to see how to help my single girlfriends and how much my husband and I matched the book's theories. Ladies, this book is the real deal. None of the info on how to meet men is new, but he gives you stats backing up these strategies as effective. It also goes into common paths, to the altar or into oblivion, relationships take after the first year.
Unlike what the negative reviewer suggests, Molloy does say that marriage is NOT for everyone, male or female, nor that you should change yourself for a man. Don't do things you loathe, but do be open to trying new things. There's a difference. Obviously, your current activities haven't swerved "Mr. Right" into your path.
I'll now be a good Married Friend and invite more singles to parties so my single friends have more opportunities, AND I'll understand when they need to spend more time out on the town w/ other single women instead of watching DVDs with me and hubby. The book also wakes you up to how, cruel as it may be, the clock is ticking. Not the baby clock, the marriage one. I was right to get serious abt getting married when I turned 25 instead of waiting for 35, esp as an overweight woman. I was right to commit my time and resources just as I would to my career or anything else I value. Be proactive.
What meant the most to me, though, was learning how NORMAL my path to the altar was! I had no idea that fully 3 out of 4 women had to flat out tell their bfs how important marriage (in the near future!) was to their happiness before the man committed. I asked my hubby tonight, and he confirmed Molloy's ideas on how most men need broad hints. I had been convinced of the romantic "ideal" we're fed where men just fall down in love and propose w/o prodding, but our series of discussions and even arguments are more typical before we reached agreement. These are not games; they are real talks abt what our future would be like and how much marriage and children mattered to my future happiness--making him realize how much those things, along with having me by his side, mattered to him.
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Summary: Fascinating research made practical
Review: I read some of Molloy's other books in the distant past, and was impressed, so I checked this out. If the topic of how men proceed or don't proceed toward the altar interests you, this book will open your eyes up. A lot of research went into the book, and it was guided a lot by women who were among Molloy's researchers who themselves wanted to get married. Some guys, according to Molloy, become interested in marriage when they no longer fit comfortably into the singles scene. Because they have matured beyond the girls who are still in the singles scene, or the girls in the singles scene start to look at those guys as outsiders who no longer belong in the singles scene. In this book he destroys the notion that women over 40 have a better chance of being killed by a terrorist than married, when he relates that he thought the statement was absurd, and looked at the statistics, and saw that nine percent of women who got married in 1980 were forty or older. Molloy sees men being ready for marriage or not being ready for marriage. When a guy is fresh out of college, he may well want to enjoy his freedom for a couple of years. So he will not be ready to settle down for a while. A woman who wants to get married will concentrate on guys who are ready to get married. Most men proposed only after pressure was applied by the prospective bride, and Molloy argues that if that pressure is not applied that many of the women would not have gotten married. It seems that there is a natural readiness period, and if the proposal doesn't take place in that period, then it won't happen. And it is up to the woman to push it along in many cases, if it is to happen. Molloy suggests that some pressuring is good, and other pressuring is bad. E.g., "I will find someone else if you don't marry me," seems to make the man defensive and uncooperative. I am a straight unmarried guy, and read this because I find the topic interesting. But there is a lot of material that would be useful for women who want to land a husband. There is nothing that focuses specifically on getting a husband of your dreams, per se, but there is material to help you assess whether a current "Mr. Right" is a waste of time (and time destroys mate-finding opportunities!). Or how to proceed with a Mr. Right to optimize your chances of a marriage him. A great book.
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Summary: How to find a husband
Review: I was really disturbed by the woman who wrote that every night was a blockbuster night with cats. All I can say is, "Girl, get a webcam and got to the BBW rooms at Yahoo!" Not ALL men want a thin woman. (BBW = Big Beautiful Woman) Yes, you will have to follow all the caveats about online relationships. Yes, there are trolls, but that is the case with a sports bar or any other place where men gather. At the very least you will be interacting with other ppl and not sitting at home watching a movie for the umpteenth time.
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Summary: Best FACTUAL dating book- IGNORE BAD REVIEWS- WHY?
Review: Look. Have you ever had a friend who wants your advice but is definitely gunning for you to tell them exactly what they want to hear? They ingore your advice and blame you, right? That's because they don't want the truth; they want you to validate their fondest wishes. Well nearly all those who gave this book a negative review seems to not like what they read because it wasn't what they wanted to hear.
Molloy is dealing in facts. They may not be what you wanted to hear but after reading this book you will come away with a very clear understanding of each and every dating/relationship situation and whether it is a winning or losing prospect.
It smacks of common sense and the FACTS harvested from dozens of interviews and studies provide an excellent relationship litmus test. I read more than a dozen relationship books in the last couple of years and this is the ONLY one I recommend.
BTW, The author doesn't suggest you HAVE to be slender to marry, just that it helps and I don't know who could possibly think that being overweight doesn't hurt a girl's prospects? Get real. Oops! Is that NOT what you wanted to hear?
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Summary: Unnecessary
Review: Molloy has written a pretty decent, although entirely unncecessary book. Old Hops will give you the same information in the brief span of this review and at no cost: Men marry women who are physically attractive, physically active, and smell good. Those who are fat, lazy, and stink don't score high in the marriagability scorebook. I've married five times so I am somewhat of an expert and it's all pretty much common sense. A better book would be "Why Men Dump Their Wives for the Hotties Down at the Local Bar".
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Summary: Fascinating Book that Hits Close to Home
Review: My single girlfriend recommended this book to me and I decided to scope it out. The thing I liked best about this book is that it isn't some pyscho author pouring out a bunch of advice based on a crystal ball's wisdom. This author actually interviewed 1,000 couples outside City Halls who were on their way out of obtaining their marriage licenses. The facts were a little scary at first since I am 28 and the author flat out states 'if you're 28 and not married and want to be, you need to make getting married the number one priority in your life. Make it every bit as important as your career advancement.' Wow, huh? That caught my attention. But, anyway, that's exactly it - if marriage isn't important to you, then, hey, that's fine too (But, if you're reading this book, I'm guessing that it is!)
I think this book is probably best if you are in a stable relationship and would truly like to see yourself spend the rest of your life with that person. The author gives some very strong, valuable advice of clearly telling your boyfriend that 'marriage is essential to your happiness and if you love you, you'll want to make you happy' (if that's the case).
I was very ready to get married and while my long-time boyfriend wanted us to get married, he wanted to still wait another year or so. During a long conversation, I said that marriage was essential to my happiness, blah blah blah , etc. etc. You get the drift. Anyway, two months later he surprised me with an engagement ring! I'm pretty sure we would have gotten engaged anyway (the author wouldn't agree, but whatever), but I think by talking about how important marriage is to you, it helps to get your boyfriend focused. The book also talks about how if you are in a dead-end relationship and if marriage is important to you, you need to get out now. This book gave some good insight into couples' paths to getting engaged. Again, I liked the fact that it was based on statistics and gave examples and stories of real couples.
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