The 5 Love Needs of Men & Women

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Summary: Finally, hope after 18 years
Review: After nine years of marriage and four kids, I really thought I had it all together. Reading this book showed me that my own issues can really contribute to my husband's issues. I think this is an awesome book if you're ready and willing to take responsibility for YOUR issues in a marriage -- and past the point of blaming your spouse. An easy read with some really thought-provoking topics. A great springboard for conversation, and a deeper relationship.

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Summary: A Must Read for Couples
Review: After nine years of marriage and four kids, I really thought I had it all together. Reading this book showed me that my own issues can really contribute to my husband's issues. I think this is an awesome book if you're ready and willing to take responsibility for YOUR issues in a marriage -- and past the point of blaming your spouse. An easy read with some really thought-provoking topics. A great springboard for conversation, and a deeper relationship.

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Summary: Finally, hope after 18 years
Review: After spending at least 15 years trying to convince my husband that he wasn't communicating with me, I checked this book out of the library. After he read the chapter on emotional intimacy--the only need on the women's list of needs that wasn't even on the men's list--a light bulb went off! Our relationship has improved dramatically already--and it's only been a week! Now, he is reading the whole book (as am I).

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Summary: Problem with phrasing
Review: I have a problem with a portion of the semantics of this book. I realize that some people do not feel that the semantics are all that important, but I think they are. For example, the very first 'love need' of men and women talks about 'Unconditional Love.' The phrase invokes the idea that, no matter what, a husband and wife should support and love each other. Although 'Unconditional Love' sounds better, to me what they actually mean is that men and women are looking for 'Grace' from their partners.

In my opinion this is a better term for what the Rosberg's are trying to say. The term involves the notion that we are forgiving of our partner's 'mistakes' and that we realize they are human beings. It means that we will not abandon them for their mistakes. It means that we will stick with our partner when problems arise and we will work through the difficulty and continue to offer love to our partner.

I feel that people can be graceful, but to say that human beings can offer Unconditional Love in our romantic relationships is a false presumption. We are not God or Jesus. We cannot offer that. However, I think both parties can and should work in a graceful way, before and after marriage, to avoid getting to a state where we no longer offer our partner the love they need.

My point is that the book's semantics are formulated to what sounds better. I think the world is full of books that do not say exactly what they mean, books that are written to sell and not communicate. I feel this is another one of those books. It does have some good material, but it could have been written much better.

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Summary: Great Book
Review: Men an women are different in how they are known they are loved. Understanding this is essential to having a good marriage. By surveying 700 couples, the top five love needs for men and women are identified.

The top need for both men and women is unacceptable love and acceptance. But the second need for both men and women are very different. For women it is communication and emotional intamacy (number eight for men). For men it is sexual intimacy (number 13 for women).

"Do you want a great marriage?"

"Meeting your spouses love needs will result in a great marriage."

This book is packed with stories about real couples and how understanding their spouses needs helped their marriage. If you want to be a better husband or wife, this book will help you to understand and appreciate your spouses differences.

Rating:
Summary: Great Book
Review: Men an women are different in how they are known they are loved. Understanding this is essential to having a good marriage. By surveying 700 couples, the top five love needs for men and women are identified.

The top need for both men and women is unacceptable love and acceptance. But the second need for both men and women are very different. For women it is communication and emotional intamacy (number eight for men). For men it is sexual intimacy (number 13 for women).

"Do you want a great marriage?"

"Meeting your spouses love needs will result in a great marriage."

This book is packed with stories about real couples and how understanding their spouses needs helped their marriage. If you want to be a better husband or wife, this book will help you to understand and appreciate your spouses differences.

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Summary: Good ideas to improve any marriage
Review: This is a well-written book about the differences between the genders. The Rosbergs may have let their egos get the best of them when they allowed themselves to be labeled "America's Family Coaches," but that ego isn't otherwise much in display on these pages. They have a humility that is refreshing in Christian books. Insightful and full of real-life examples that will help most readers understand how they can better understand their spouses.