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Summary: Recommended for ones with relationship problems
Review: "Too Close Too Soon" teaches one some of the most common failures in a relationship. As the title implies, many go too fast at the beginning of a relationship. My summary: In ANY CLOSE relationship, one becomes vulnerable. Yet, trust *must* become before vulnerability, It takes time to build up trust. Therefore, one must be slow and patient at the beginning. I did NOT agree with EVERYTHING that Dr. Talley tried into his reader's minds . However, I have benefited greatly from his book. I recommend it to anyone who has trouble keeping a date. You may see yourself in some of his chapters.
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Summary: Very Good Book
Review: I read this book when it came out in 1990 and I often refer back to it. It is one of my favorites. While the authors try to provide a time line for time spent together prior to marriage or while dating, many will find it impossible to follow. But the key isn't to follow the time line, but use the book as a guideline. That's the key. They hit the nail on the head when they carefully and cautiously warn men and women that too much time will get you into much trouble. The other helpful piece of wisdom in the book is the relationship growth patterns and differences between men and women. I appreciate these authors and thier fine contribution to my Christian library.
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Summary: Excellent marriage guide
Review: This book is fantastic. My husband and I had both come out of a number of "too close" relationships before we met and we needed some guidance when we started dating. We each had our own copy of the book and followed it to the letter. It was extremely difficult, but it was the best thing we could have done for our relationship. It was because we followed the book to the letter that we are married and still together 8 years later. The book outlines a program that requires a lot of self-discipline which leads to a bonding between the couple. By following the guidelines in the book we were able to avoid too much physical contact and were able to really get to know one another mentally and emotionally. I highly recommend this to couples who are just beginning to date and want some help building a strong foundation on which to build their relationship.
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Summary: Excellent marriage guide
Review: This book is fantastic. My husband and I had both come out of a number of "too close" relationships before we met and we needed some guidance when we started dating. We each had our own copy of the book and followed it to the letter. It was extremely difficult, but it was the best thing we could have done for our relationship. It was because we followed the book to the letter that we are married and still together 8 years later. The book outlines a program that requires a lot of self-discipline which leads to a bonding between the couple. By following the guidelines in the book we were able to avoid too much physical contact and were able to really get to know one another mentally and emotionally. I highly recommend this to couples who are just beginning to date and want some help building a strong foundation on which to build their relationship.
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Summary: Recommended for ones with relationship problems
Review: What a riot! I gave it two stars, if only for the humor. There's this chart 3/4 of the way through that showcases how slowly a relationship should go to avoid 'unnecessary sexual contact before marriage.' According to the chart, a kiss is acceptable after a month or so, but anything more has to wait until the couple gets married...in SEVEN MONTHS. The hypocracy was hysterically funny. On the one hand you should wait until marriage until you have sex, take your time to establish a deep and meaningful relationship...but on the other hand, seven months is viewed as an appropriate timeframe for marriage. I'm sorry, but don't you think rushing into a marriage is a little bit more harmful in the longrun than rushing into sex? I had girlfriends in high school that lasted longer than seven months. Also on this chart is a squiggly line showing the steps to a harmful relationship--friends to sex in one month, with a little note that says "Too fast; seek professional help" or something like that. Gimme a break--that's not a 'relationship,' that's SEX FOR FUN, pure and simple. Relationships that progress that fast don't lead to marriage in the first place. It's called experimenting, and it's healthy. It teaches you what you like and don't like about partners (sexually or otherwise) before you make the mistake of marrying someone who you'll come to despise (again, sexually or otherwise) later. So as I said--I loved this book...until I found out it was completely serious. C'mon guys--you don't need a book to tell you this. Figure it out on your own, trust your own instincts. MAKE MISTAKES--you're allowed, you know.
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