The Tender Heart: Conquering Your Insecurity

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Summary: Nice Idea
Review: If only people were this concrete and would quit bothering others with their annoying complexities. In addition to the thoughts expressed in the other reviews I was confused by the author's idea that it is best to "get out" of a relationship with some one who is insecure (because they won't change) in a book that is supposed to help people who are insecure.

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Summary: Subtitle inacurate
Review: The author explains and reexplains *where* how a person may develop tender-heartedness but does little to fulfill the promise of conquering insecurity. The first few chapers were a good overview, but there was not much practical advice for how to deal with emotional predators in, say, the workplace. I'm eager to check out some of the books other users here have suggested instead...

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Summary: Interesting overview but not much application
Review: The author explains and reexplains *where* how a person may develop tender-heartedness but does little to fulfill the promise of conquering insecurity. The first few chapers were a good overview, but there was not much practical advice for how to deal with emotional predators in, say, the workplace. I'm eager to check out some of the books other users here have suggested instead...

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Summary: No Substance
Review: The subject matter of this book is one which deserves serious exploration. In fact, the subtitle "Conquering Your Insecurity" was a big enticement (if only...). Unfortunately, this book explores and recommends very little. Once the premise is set forth, that tenderheartedness or toughheartedness is a congenital predisposition, and how it comes about, and how it manifests itself in daily life, (career, relationship, etc.) the book goes no further - just keeps repeating and attempting to substantiate that premise. The "case studies" used to demonstrate these ideas are WAY too long and utterly lack substance. It's like when someone says "to make a long story short..." you know you're in for a long, drawn out nothing. If you're looking for concrete self-help, thought provoking substance and engaging reading, this ain't it. See Marcy Calhoun's "Are You Really Too Sensitive?" It's substantive, meaningful and useful on this subject. Best wishes to all who are searching.

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Summary: Great Analysis, Lacking Next Steps
Review: The Tender Heart focuses on sensitivity as a trait a person is born with. A person is either highly sensitive or hard hearted, most likely somewhere inbetween, as described in Joe Nowinski's new book. For the first time, I feel this is an understanding of human nature that has not been explored before. I feel it puts into perspective, why different people react differently to the same situations, just by their very natures they are born with. It addresses why some people can be so disturbed by a situation, while another is completely oblivious to it. Then added is a layer of security or insecurity, and how it interacts with the sensitive or hard hearted person. This explains a lot of the interpersonal interactions of people. Human emotions are very much multi-dimensional and complex. By understanding the layers in which a person perceives a situation, colored by their emotional make-up, helps shine a light on easing many problems that exist in many relationships. What makes this book such a valuable tool, is that Nowinski is able to help describe situations and give solutions, not only for adults dealing with troubling situations, but to recognize sensitivities in children and how it affects their development. I highly recommend this book.

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Summary: Subtitle inacurate
Review: Yes - this book did have a great start... I was flipping through the pages reading each one carefully waiting to see where the author gets to the "conquering your insecurites"... I was left with a one page- three step recipe to acomplish what the book claims. The title is misleading... maybe it was done so purposefully to write part II?