Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome: How to Stop Being Shy Without Becoming A Jerk

Rating:
Summary: One or two good points but misses the mark
Review: The aims of this book are truly admirable, but the more you analyse things the more you realise that the real issue is about learning to overcoming anxiety in iniating communicate with women, and to then take that communication to a higher more amorous level. Unfortunately, the authors are slightly limited in their understanding of the whole psychology of communication. Worse too they resort to overcome anxiety with a didactic lecture about how being boringly 'nice' is a 'bankrupt' tactic and that therefore you should just stop doing it! Admittedly, to their credit they do provide some useful information such as the classical breath control technique (unfortunately expressed as 'breath from your balls'!!) to overcome anxiety and how to initiate conversations, but compared to many other books on this sort of topic it all seems a little too simplistic. Other guides provide immeasurably more penetrating insights into the psychology of seduction, such as Leil Lowndes' "How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You" and "Make Every Girl Want You" by Fate and Reil. Overall despite the authors making one or two reasonable points, it fails to really hit the mark when it comes to what really matters.