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Summary: A Forbidden Hobby
Review: "I expose and exploit that void for what it really is, and that is love for someone that once was, but has dimmed." ~Stephen Chatman It is rare for a book to capture my curiosity with such intensity. "Confessions of a Womanizer" is a reflection of men who like to bed and not wed. It is a story of men who live for lust. They would rather say: "I am so in lust with you," than "I am so in love with you." However, to delve into the mind of a womanizer was not an overly shocking experience. I've met men who had similar philosophies, desires and aspirations. Who are these men and could you be dating one? Is your wife involved with a man who only has the destruction of your relationship as his main intention? This man is prowling your city or perhaps online, in the hopes of finding a jilted woman who is looking for excitement and change, not to mention romance. She is the product of an insensitive man who has released her heart into the dark world of a womanizer's clutches. He only borrows women for a day, for an hour, for a few years. He is not interested in long-term commitment. "My needing her far less than she needs me, grants control over her senselessness and gives me rationale over any delicate feelings I may have had." ~Stephen Chatman Stephen Chatman claims to be a womanizer and even admits he is an "unusual replacement for a healthy relationship." He struggles with commitment, but even in the depths of his darkness seems to have a valid desire to eventually find the woman of his dreams. To me he seems more to be a lonely heart in search of his soul mate. Yet, he sacrifices the ultimate pleasure of finding this mysterious creature of his desires for short-term fulfillment with a series of one-night stands and short-term relationships. At first I imagined this book would offend or anger me. Here is a man who writes various devious entries in a diary fashion. Each entry focuses on a woman we could call a victim of his callous behavior. Yet, his metaphors overwhelmed me at times. I kept overlooking the facts of obvious abuse and abandonment and delving into the creative descriptions that made this story all too real. Frankly, I believe most of his appeal is cerebral. Stephen Chatman's writing has a ruthless precision and clarity that is stunning. The fact that he is willing to express his most devious thoughts, his most intimate contemplations and thought provoking observations about women was in itself exciting on the cerebral level. "I need to lash out and hurt. I need to see and hear her pain." ~Stephen Chatman He explains how he would leave relationships at the very hint of "stormy distress," or how he journeyed from a fear of matrimonial bondage to marriage and escape from commitment. This is a desperate search for comfort and stability in a world where your soul mate seems forever out of reach or nonexistent. This book provides insight into short-term relationships. It is also a portrait of a monster feeding off of lust, rage and anger. This book is however, not an instruction manual. It is more an exploration of a conscience dead to all morals and yet there are moments of regret and deep contemplation in regards to a change of behavior. The author is at times almost unaware of karma and seems shocked when a woman treats him in a similar fashion. I was almost pleased to read about the "female womanizer" as he had finally met his match. In her, he sees the selfish reflection of his own lusty desires. The reason he cannot find love is that he has not learned to sacrifice his own needs for the needs of a woman. He wants the security of having a lover, yet fails to see why a woman would want to hear "I love you" during sex, before sex, after sex and any other time in the day. He seems willing to live a lie and yet not tell one. I found this interesting and perhaps it represents a certain level of denial. Throughout the series of relationships the author fails to at times show true love. Although, there are moments when his heart peeks out from the darkness. The author also explains how he finds his way into woman's minds and then preys on them in their weakest moments. His fake chivalry brings momentary bliss and rescues women from their abusive mates. He presents himself as every woman's nightmare cloaked in a romantic dream. Although, at times he can be brazenly chilly after describing very erotic and romantic moments. He likes to use women for sex and move on to the next conquest. "Confessions of a Womanizer" contains confessions from a man wandering on a lonely planet. This authors search for love is often masked by the thoughts of a lusty predator. I hear the pain of searching for calm in the chaos. Men should read this book to protect their women from his clutches. Women should read this book to understand the callousness of this forbidden hobby. This is desire on the dark side. This book will leave you with compassion in your heart and an understanding of the struggles men endure on a daily basis. Most men seem to want sex to get love and women want love in order to open up to sex. The games continue and only those who know the rules seem to find true love. ~TheRebeccaReview.com P.S. If you enjoy this book, look for books by David Deida who knows the heart of a woman, but has different intentions in regards to sex and intimacy.
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Summary: Title to be revised
Review: Confessions of a Womanizer is a compilation of journal entries by a "womanizer." The nameless writer takes you on his journey to sometimes unintentionally prey upon the hearts of unsuspecting women. I say sometimes because that's not always his intent.
"Crushed under the weight of my own ideals, I can say that I have truly lost my faith in love." An excerpt from the entry titled, "trapped on a sofa, house party, Sat 9pm." Just when he thinks he's found the "right" one, the tables are turned and karma comes and kicks him in his womanizing behind. The writer takes the reader through a gamut of emotions. He tells of almost every scenario imaginable and does it in an eloquent, straightforward manner. Stephen Chatman's writing flows and is easy to follow. Even though the emotions range from low down to deeply in love, when all is said and done, he goes back to his old ways and back into the beds of women. The impending question in my mind, "Will he ever revoke his player's card?"
Confessions of a Womanizer is an interesting read. I wasn't taken by it at first. I didn't fully understand the purpose of composing a book that merely contained what appeared to be journal entries. As I read more I began to appreciate his candor. I especially appreciated the fact that although he was reckless with the hearts of women, he was not when it came to practicing safe sex. He actually advocated it in many instances; however, there were a few times when the mood took over the mind.
Reviewed by Esther "Ess" Mays of Loose Leaves Book Review
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Summary: To commit or not
Review: Dare I say it...at first glimpse of this novel; I geared myself for some raunchy tales of a man's pursuit of lust and how he emotionally brutalized women in his quest for self-satisfaction. Well I admit it, I was wrong. In CONFESSIONS OF A WOMANIZER, I was wowed by Stephen E. Chatman's intense and often brutal assessment of his life as a womanizer. At one point he writes, "The curse of the womanizer is to have an attraction for what we can not have and a refusal to settle for whom we are with." He covers the full gamut of relationships from platonic to romantic and everything in between. He provides a lot of insight on what contributed to his life as a womanizer. I found myself amazed at his deep examination of self and secretly wondered if other men experienced relationships in the way he did. His account also provided me with a look at women and how we may contribute to a man's failure to make lasting commitments in relationships. CONFESSIONS OF A WOMANIZER reads like a journal as Chatman eloquently writes of his exploits in subtle, non-demeaning ways. In one relationship he describes the anguish of just coming together, "We had all the pieces to make a great couple, but neither of us knew how to complete this puzzle." The title of this book does not invoke sympathy, but within the pages, I began to sympathize with the man and how lonely he was in his life as a womanizer. It appears as if he cries out for commitment at times and runs for the hills at others. This book will make you uncomfortable as he steps on toes with truths about relationships and roles both men and women play in them. His stories are sometimes funny, enlightening, thought-provoking and heart wrenching. This is an excellent book and one to be savored by both men and women. Reviewed by Brenda M. Lisbon
of The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers
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Summary: To commit or not
Review: Dare I say it...at first glimpse of this novel; I geared myself for some raunchy tales of a man's pursuit of lust and how he emotionally brutalized women in his quest for self-satisfaction. Well I admit it, I was wrong. In CONFESSIONS OF A WOMANIZER, I was wowed by Stephen E. Chatman's intense and often brutal assessment of his life as a womanizer. At one point he writes, "The curse of the womanizer is to have an attraction for what we can not have and a refusal to settle for whom we are with." He covers the full gamut of relationships from platonic to romantic and everything in between. He provides a lot of insight on what contributed to his life as a womanizer. I found myself amazed at his deep examination of self and secretly wondered if other men experienced relationships in the way he did. His account also provided me with a look at women and how we may contribute to a man's failure to make lasting commitments in relationships. CONFESSIONS OF A WOMANIZER reads like a journal as Chatman eloquently writes of his exploits in subtle, non-demeaning ways. In one relationship he describes the anguish of just coming together, "We had all the pieces to make a great couple, but neither of us knew how to complete this puzzle." The title of this book does not invoke sympathy, but within the pages, I began to sympathize with the man and how lonely he was in his life as a womanizer. It appears as if he cries out for commitment at times and runs for the hills at others. This book will make you uncomfortable as he steps on toes with truths about relationships and roles both men and women play in them. His stories are sometimes funny, enlightening, thought-provoking and heart wrenching. This is an excellent book and one to be savored by both men and women. Reviewed by Brenda M. Lisbon
of The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers
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Summary: Womanizers? Bring 'em on!
Review: Forget all the analysis, ladies. Don't even bother wondering if he's still annoyed that Mom made him tidy his room or sent him to bed without any supper.
Isn't it great that you don't have to listen to their fears, which would be very dull indeed. Or cook them dinner. There's a good reason why these men get their reputations, and word gets around fast when they're fast. A great read!
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Summary: Thought-provoking chronicles of the male psyche!
Review: Forget Men Behaving Badly! Confessions of a Womanizer offers an insightful look into the male psyche with dark, thought provoking entries. Stephen Chatman floored me with this exquisite and intelligent book. As a viction of heartbreak, there are aspects that I know all too well -- however, Chatman still managed to surprise me with some rather profound thoughts and views on relationships. As I read the entries, I realized that this is more to do with general men's behavior than simple chronicles of a notorious philander. This book is an excellent gift to all women who've wondered why the men of their dreams haven't called them. It's an excellent source! Highly recommended...
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Summary: Thank you Stephen.
Review: I have been married to a womanizer for the past 10 years. Until I read this book, did I understand the root for his endless affairs and why my hope for happiness had been brutally destroyed again and again. Thanks to the author for sharing his thoughts. I am moving on.
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Summary: Save Your Money
Review: I read books quite often. In fact, I am also the president of a bookclub and love to support African American writers. In my entire reading experience, there has never been a book that I was unable to read until this book. I tried over and over again to read this book. I even went back and reread customer reviews. I would like to offer another perspective on this book. First this book is a waste of money. It has no content nor story. You are merely reading a journal, not a good one at that. I would definitely not recommend this book to anyone. This book was the book of the month for my bookclub. Not one member was able to get past page 15. In my opinion, this is one book in which I was TOTALLY disappointed.
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Summary: True Life Confessions
Review: I was shocked at how deep this book is. From the title it seems like a book full of erotic encounters. It isn't. What Confessions of a Womanizer is, Is true accounts of the relationships of Stephen Chatman a womanizer. The book reads like personal jounal entries. Full of deep thoughts and feelings about intimacy, love and relationships. This is true confessions and deep thoughts from the male psyche. I enjoyed this look into the mind and heart of a man. Dawn
Mahogany, Albany, N.Y.
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Summary: Save your money - worst book I couldn't read
Review: If I could enter a -100 rating I would. This was the dumbest book I've ever tried to read. Couldn't get into it to save my life, I tried about five times, still no luck. It was totally incoherent, what was the publisher thinking? Made a great fire starter however.
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