Rating:  Summary: Brainless... Review: What did I get from reading the book? A feeling that Gray fanatically believes men are the hunters and sex is a male domain,and woman are the prey and merely the sexless toys of men. Gray overemphasizes the importance of the woman's appearance and de emphasizes her sexual needs and also blow torch reaction to sex as opposed to his crock pot example of female sexuality. He gives pointers to men on the subject of 'getting her into bed' with words,flowers,gifts and candy.Never does he realize that if the woman is not attracted to the man,she will be a bee-line out the door. His pointers to women has nothing to do with her as an individual,but how to overcome her innate sexual shyness and slow arrousal time.He works with old myths,especially the one where women are believed to be as blind as batts and turned on by even the ugliest man if he gives her the right words and chocolates. In the real world,men and women could be reversed.Men needing more arousal time and women ready to go for it at the drop of a hat.But of course in Gray's world this is very rare. Gray gives me the feeling he thinks women are lacking in sexuality,or that it is some vague defused sexuality, only stimulated by words of love.In short,women don't have eyes or sex drive,and it has to be guided by the man into some kind of romantic fog in order for the woman to function. On the other hand,Gray believes men are the only visual creatures who have to hold back these animal sex drives which are only tamed by honorable gentlemenly controlls. This is where we get "he was a gentlemen,he didn't try anything" how many times have you heard that?Countless I bet. Men have to channel their powerful sex drive into romance and women have to channel their romantic needs into pleasing the males animal need for sex.Well this is what the book says loud and clear.Basically men want sex and women want love,this is the "fact" Gray is trying to pound into the reader. He's working off of myths and recycling them back into society as "scientific fact" What I find appauling is how he gives men and women very different attributes.How he boxes people into sterotypes of male don juan and female the prey.
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