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Summary: gray is old hat
Review: I cannot believe what Gray thinks about women.It's insulting
and sterotyical.How would he know,how would anyone know what
every woman and every man is thinking or wanting anyway!
Women are crockpots and men are blow torches he says.He never
gets to the truth of why this sometimes is so - it's called
socialisation.Socialisation influences us so much,we don't
sometimes know it's happening because it's so planted in our
minds.
Read Rudov,I just got done with his book and he has ideas which
will end all of your relationship problems.Some might be
shocked by his revolutionary and courageous ideas but sometimes
one has to be shocked into a new way of thinking in order to
change for the better.
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Summary: Great for laughs
Review: I got it,
and it has lots of great advice! I would recommend that it be read with a lard chunk of salt (in some sections).A couple of things made me LMAO and I had to share. 1. He devotes 1 1/2 pages in telling a man how to deliver oral sex to a woman. And not very well either. He mentions the G-spot, but basically says "It would create preformance anxiety in the man if he kept trying to find it---so he won't get too technical" so he leaves it at that. Excuse me! I nearly dropped the book at this point (like, he could have devoted 10 pages to that alone). 2. HOWEVER, he devotes 5 plus pages!!! on giving oral to a guy! Going into extreme, intricate detail of every millimeter of area to be covered. In reading this, there is no doubt about Dr. Gray's gender. His justification? Men like it better than women (erm, excuse me?! Was I asked???) 3. He does this lingerie=mood chart that had me falling out of bed "If she is wearing black lace, it means she is in this kinda mood, if she is wearing white, it means she feels virginal, if she is in pink, it means she feels romantic." Again, WHAT? How about I look pretty dang good in black lack, the pink doesn't scratch and the white doesn't ride up. Maybe he is color blind. 4. Oy, and don't get me started in the section about Quickies (I do agree to some point, but the reciprocal part isn't fair, balanced). Cuddles for a quickie? Where did he find these people! It came off as extremely cold blooded, with the woman lying there like a log being perfectly OK to the hubby (argh!) That alone would be a 'he needed a killin'' defense in a murder trial. All that aside, it does have some helpful pointers. Buy the book used....and cheap.
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Summary: Quick read, good advice, can't hurt!
Review: I got the book because there are some bedroom issues between Mars and Venus in my universe. Talking about the issues doesn't seem to help... especially when I am doing all of the talking.
After perusing the book at the book store, I recognized several situations described in the book that are EXACTLY what we are experiencing. It is encouraging to know that a) our issues are not unique, but common; b) this author has already seen and dealt with our exact issues in his work with other couples; and c) the solution could be simply communication and understanding each other better. Why would I NOT buy this book?!
There's nothing earth shattering here. Just reasonable insight and advice in a short, inexpensive book by a successful author of relationship books. At best, our sex-life improves dramatically and forever. At worst, the advice doesn't work for us. Either way, I think I've learned a few things from this book.
Hey, it's all about understanding and communication. If you don't want that in your relationship, don't buy the book. Otherwise, check it out.
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Summary: Educational
Review: I think the purpose of reading a book like this is for education and discussion. I believe it is a good book that brings up many insights into Male and Female behaviour. The book should best be shared with a partner. By expressing extremes of male and female sexuality it gives lots of scope for discussion whereby a couple can find their balance.
I don't agree that the book presents women as sex objects for use by men. I believe it is one of the few books that actually admits and explains male sexuality so that men and women can *both* be fulfilled within a loving relationship.
If you love your partner, male or female, then this is a good book with which to discuss sex.
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Summary: Mars and Venus in the Bedroom: You Have to Have This Book!
Review: I've been married to the same person for 28 years and always thought our sex life was great, but when we read this book (yes, we both read it) we realised how much we still didn't know, hadn't tried, and hadn't communicated about. This book has enhanced an already great relationship - just think what it could do for one in trouble! This is written plainly, interestingly, and is very accurate - from both the woman's and the man's point of view. There were a couple of things that seemed corny to me, but may not seem that way to someone who is 20 years younger than me (I'm 48). Buy this book! I guarantee you will get at least one insight into sex that will help your love life, no matter how wise you think you already are!
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Summary: Very Informative Text
Review: John Gray's book is an excellent resource for people who are interested in improving their physical relationships. After reading each section thoroughly, I realized for the first time that there was more to the enjoyment of intimacy than I had imagined. Chapter 3, titled 'Once A Year Is Not Enough', made me re-think my schedule. I still only get it once a year, but at least Gray has made me aware. Another excellent piece of advice comes in Chapter 5, where Gray states controversially, 'Don't be afraid to experiment; try new things, like undressing. It may seem unnatural at first, but hey...we've all got wobbly bits.' This is also a valuable manual for those just starting a physical relationship. Topics for the 'nookie' novice include 'How Come You've Got THREE?', 'Batteries Are A Girl's Best Friend', 'No, Susan, Fellatio Wasn't That Italian Film Director Married to Sophia Loren' and 'Bob and Carol and Bill and Monica'. 'Mars and Venus in the Bedroom' is a 'must-read' book. I can't wait for Gray's next one, 'Mars and Venus in the Boardroom'. Coroprate America is already ducking for cover.
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Summary: By Far the best Mars/ Venus book
Review: Of any of the books.... this is the one to get if you are in a long term relationship. It touches on so many topics, and different perspectives that is is the only one that I went out and bought after I read it from the local library.
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Summary: By Far the best Mars/ Venus book
Review: Of any of the books.... this is the one to get if you are in a long term relationship. It touches on so many topics, and different perspectives that is is the only one that I went out and bought after I read it from the local library.
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Summary: Great for laughs
Review: Sex is a subject that is not often talked about among couples. Unfortunately, it is also an area that accounts for a large chunk of divorces. Women expect men to be mind-readers, intuitively knowing just what to do to bring them pleasure. Men assume that they should know what to do already, as if males are born as sex experts. (Not!) What often results is great expectations met with disppointment, and thwarted, hit-and-miss attempts at intimacy and sexual fulfillment. With this book by Dr. John Gray, sex doesn't have to be a frustrating and hurtful guessing game. Gray explores areas such as sexual versus emotional fulfillment, taking responsibility for your own pleasure, how to increase desire and rekindle passion, a women's need to relax, the joy of quickies, passionate monogamy, and home-cooked sex versus gourmet sex. Both men and women are given maps into the murky terrain of the other's attitudes and expectations about sex, which will no doubt result in a sigh of relief by many. At last, someone understands! While providing accurate maps, though, Gray acknowledges that every person (especially women!) are unique, and as such, have unique desires, likes, and dislikes. When discussing giving a man positive direction, Gray points out that some women do not realize a man's sensivitity in this area. Men want to please their women, so certain comments can feel like rejection to a man, which will bring an instant chill to intimacy. Here are 10 sexual turnoffs outlined by Gray: 1. "You're not doing it right."
2. "I don't like that."
3. "Ouch! That hurts!"
4. "Don't touch me like that."
5. "That tickles."
6. "Not like that."
7. "Not yet."
8. "Not there."
9. "I'm not ready."
10. "What are you doing?" Gray then goes on to explain why a man shuts down, how to give positive feedback and re-direction, and 20 sexual turn on phrases. The Chapter titled How To Drive a Women Wild With Pleasure provides men with some excellent practical advice on how a woman ticks, and how to rev up her engine. Gray advises: "A man needs to remember that to increase a woman's pleasure, he needs to delay direct stimulation. Certain ancient temples are dedicated to the female aspect of God. According to one ritual associated with these temples, you have to circumambulate the temple three times before entering it. This same principle to loving and adoring a woman during sex." One of the most practical parts of this book is that it contains drawings. Yes, drawings. How do you expect to know where to put what? Seriously, though, it's important to know about anatomy to understand what may bring a man or woman pleasure. Gray understands the pressures that many couples face, and explains why many are having less sex. He also explains why men are like the sun, and women are like the moon. (A very helpful analogy!) The "voice" of this book is very understanding and encouraging, coaxing men and women to re-discover the joy and pleasure of intimacy and sex. Rather than going without, or relegating yourself to frustration and disappointment with regards to sex, why not pick up this book (or something like it) and make the decision to enjoy your sexuality? It is my belief that we are given these bodies to enjoy, and the delight of sexual intimacy with our mate is a part of that. (I mean, if God didn't intend women to enjoy sex, then why give her a clitoris!) Ignorance is *not* bliss when it comes to mutual sexual fulfillment. If you're frustrated or have given up on a satisfying sex life, take heart: this book gives great information, encouragement, and hope.
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Summary: John Gray understands women too well sometimes
Review: This book was extremely helpful, I believe more so for men than from women. Men are often confused as to what a woman wants in a relationship, especially when it comes to sex, and as a result, the majority of men turn out be very poor lovers. This book is a godsend - it tells men exactly some of the things theyre doing wrong, what a woman really means when she says something, and says things that women have tried to say to men but are unable to articulate it well or are too embarrassed to express it. I dont necessarily agree with it 100 percent, nobody should, and it wont help heal every sexual dysfunction a person may have, but, for the average person, this book is great.
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