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Summary: Thank you, Pia Mellody, for writing this book!
Review: After being in personal and spiritual development work for over 19 years, I recently got into and then quickly ended one of the most tumultuos relationships I ever experienced. The pain of this experience led me to S-Annon, and there I was recommended to read Charlotte Kasl's Women, Sex and Addiction, and Pia Mellody's Facing Love Addiction. These two books are so amazing and are helping me so much! I can hardly wait to get home in the evening to read more! Being a member of a family that has experienced the ravages of alcoholism and horror of a murder/suicide of a relationship like the ones described in this book, I can truly say this book is a lifesaver for me. I now have hope, at age 47, that perhaps someday I will be mature and healthy enough to have a good relationship with someone.
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Summary: AMAZING AND A GIFT
Review: HELPED MY HEART FROME HURTING AND MY EYES FROM CRYING AFTER A BREAK-UP FROM TWO PEOPLE WHO LOVED EACH OTHER BUT WERE NOT RIGHT TOGETHER BUT AND ONE WHO WAS A TRUE LOVE ADDICT AND
CO DEPENDENT.I BEGAN TO GET MYSELF BACK AND Pia I THANK YOU FOR YOU BOOK.
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Summary: Gr8 for diagnosing your prob. Vague about recovery tools
Review: I am greatful to have found this book for diagnosis sake, but I don't feel equipped to conquer the problem based solely on the tools that Melody outlined. The book is essentially written in two parts. The first part describes the cycle of love addiction, what causes it, what we as love addicts need, and why what we're doing to meet these needs isn't working and will never work. As I read it, I thought "Finally someome understands me better than I understand myself! I've found help!" But the second half was a let-down. It suggested doing writing assignments, using self-control, keeping a journal and giving your problem up to a higher power. I've written hundreds of pages about my relationship problems and my cooresponding feelings, I keep a journal and I've prayed about this for years and so far it hasn't helped me. It doesn't mean I won't do the assignments she suggests, but I seriously doubt that they alone are going to transform my life. The book further suggests counseling, but doesn't offer suggestions about where to find an expert, and this is not the kind of problem your average therapist is trained to deal with. I know that from 24 years worth of therapy. This book is a wonderful first step, but it's not a do-it-yourself guide to recovery. It doesn't provide you with the tools or the answers beyond the rudimentary situations and questions and it doesn't tell you where to go for more help. (FYI: Melody is on staff at a treatment facility in Arizona, the Meadows, which specializes in treating love addiction, (among other addictions) but she doesn't mention anything about that in the book, including the kind of treatment offered there, which is unfortunate) Still, I would recommend this book to anyone who even thinks they might be a love addict, because after reading it you will know for sure and you will feel more hopeful about your future than you ever have.
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Summary: Consice, understandable, eye-opening, step-by-step guide.
Review: I have been reading self help books for 15 years and this is one of the best! I wish I had found it much sooner! It is written in an easy-to-read format, concise, to-the-point, and includes writing exercises to help the reader make sense of what went wrong in their "failed" relationships, learn how to become more self-assured, and attract mentally healthy people into their lives. I highly recommend it to anyone who has ever had a painful love relationship.
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Summary: BEST BOOK by Far on an Insidious Addiction
Review: I learned that I was a love addict about 12 years ago. However, I did not truly find out what was behind my love addiction - the childhood trauma and abuse until I read 'Facing Love Addiction'. It is the ONLY book that I have read on love addiction that gives the reader necessary information on both sides of this addiction. For me, I needed to know why my former partner was the way he was and this book explains it perfectly. She shares explicitly of her own experiences which helped me immensely and she also adds humor to an addiction that is well beyond 'painful' in it's active state. After reading this book 3 times, I decided that I wanted to have the opportunity to work directly with Pia in her love addiction workshop at The Meadows. That was 4 years ago and it was the best thing I have ever done for myself. This is a complicated, excrutiatingly painful addiction and yet I found that there was hope and I found the light at the end of the tunnel. This is a book that I recommend over and over and over to those people just awakening to the fact that they are most likely love addicts. Pia does not sugarcoat anything and yet at the same time shows the utmost of genuine caring because she has been there herself.....
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Summary: Utter and Complete [Stuff]
Review: I liked this book because it provided a lot of insights into the mind of a codeoendent person. Some things were on the mark, other things didn't match exactly, but overall it was good. I think it stressed focusing too much on the other person and trying to save a relationship rather than focusing on yourself. The exercises were very helpful.
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Summary: This Book Completely Changed My Life
Review: I read this book about four or five years ago, and it helped me understand, in a way that nothing had before, why my relationships were not working. I have read several books on building healthy relationships, and many are good, but this is the one that saved my life. Pia's model explains that while I was searching for love, I was really much more afraid to receive it than I had ever thought. Before I read it, I hadn't been able to sustain any relationship for long, and had never been close to marriage. Now I am happily married, and I still turn to this book for tune-ups in my marriage. Thank you Pia, very much!
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Summary: Thank you, Pia Mellody, for writing this book!
Review: I read this book and thought it was excellent. Mollody did a great job describing her situation in human details.I have authored a self-help book that is differs from this one entitled: Confusing Love with Obsession: When You Can't Stop Controlling Your Partner & the Relationship. John D. Moore
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Summary: One of the most important books I ever read
Review: I read this book concurrently with another book by Pia,
Facing Codependency. For that reason I see them as "one book".
However, the marriage of the two "picked the lock" of a stubborn
problem in my life. They helped me move from a lifelong pattern
of destructive relationships with men and women, to a much
more satisfying way of living. I did the writing exercises
and wept copiously. This book worked me hard, but it helped
me more than any others. Read it with my blessings, love
and compassion for your pain.
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Summary: I just found out yesterday...
Review: That I am a Love Addict. This was quite a surprise for me. I got the book yesterday, and always thought that my partner was the Love Addict. Apparently it was me! I just broke up (again, for the hundredth times) and thought I would need something to "confirm" my decision that I did the right thing. And I found the answers to all my questions in this book. I even thought about all kinds of bad things I could do to my ex. And guess what, even THAT is in the book! The family backgrounds described by Pia fit me and my ex, perfectly! And one of the reviews I read about this book was from someone who is now happily married. That was a hope right there, that I too, could find someone who's healthy as soon as I start getting healthy! Thank you, Pia, you ARE a brilliant author!
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