For Mothers of Difficult Daughters; How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood

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Summary: CHARNEY'S ADVICE WORKS IF YOU FOLLOW IT!
Review: As a mother of a very difficult eighteen year old daughter, I found this book to be direct, honest and very helpful. I felt very alone and upon ready I realized that I was not alone at all. The upset and pain was easier to handle just knowing that other Mother's had been through similar situations. I would strongly recommend this book to anyone who has a daughter.

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Summary: Terrific! It helped me!
Review: As a mother of a very difficult eighteen year old daughter, I found this book to be direct, honest and very helpful. I felt very alone and upon ready I realized that I was not alone at all. The upset and pain was easier to handle just knowing that other Mother's had been through similar situations. I would strongly recommend this book to anyone who has a daughter.

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Summary: Enjoyed the book greatly
Review: For Mothers of Difficult Daughters is especially touching to me for a number of reasons. First, it offers practical analysis on types of mother/daugher relationships that are difficult. Second, it provides guidelines. How should mothers and daughters should act toward one another when their relationship is strained? Thirdly, Dr. Charney Herst is my Aunt and makes reference to experiences and a town in Maine that are near and dear to my heart. I'm proud of her work and found the book non-technical, informative, energetic, to the point, with worthwhile guidance. Whether your relationship with Mom or Mom's relationship with you is wonderful or strained, "For Mothers Of Difficult Daughters" is well worth reading.

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Summary: Enjoyed the book greatly
Review: For Mothers of Difficult Daughters is especially touching to me for a number of reasons. First, it offers practical analysis on types of mother/daugher relationships that are difficult. Second, it provides guidelines. How should mothers and daughters should act toward one another when their relationship is strained? Thirdly, Dr. Charney Herst is my Aunt and makes reference to experiences and a town in Maine that are near and dear to my heart. I'm proud of her work and found the book non-technical, informative, energetic, to the point, with worthwhile guidance. Whether your relationship with Mom or Mom's relationship with you is wonderful or strained, "For Mothers Of Difficult Daughters" is well worth reading.

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Summary: Reading this book repaired our relationship
Review: How could I explain one child that was easy to get along with and another child that was not? They were raised the same way. I made parenting mistakes, but there weren't severe. Our home was loving, our marriage healthy, the children loved. Why was it so hard? This book offers solace to mother's who feel lost and terribly saddened by their difficult relationship with their daughter. It also offers excellent tips for improving your relationship with your daughter, without blaming either party. In my case, it was as simple as learning to hold back on offering advice and learning how to make sympathetic noises instead. Within just a few months, her screaming outbursts had stopped and I was no longer being wounded. One and a half years later, my daughter calls me her best friend. I learned how we all have a "perfect" daughter imagined in our mind and we must let go of those images and learn to love who our daughter is. It sounds simple, but it is not. People are born with different personalities and some people are naturally prickly and irritable. I appreciate the author who helped me see this and helped me see that I did not fail the daughter I love so much.

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Summary: CHARNEY'S ADVICE WORKS IF YOU FOLLOW IT!
Review: I LOVE THE BOOK!I LOVE CHARNEY'S TUESDAY NITE GROUP!I LOVE THE OTHER MOTHERS OF DIFFICULT DAUGHTERS!

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Summary: A good, useful guidebook for those with an open mind
Review: I read the previous negative reviews of this book here, and I decided to read this book from cover to cover. Kudos to Charney Herst! It's about time someone said, "give mom a break" and to quit guilt tripping mothers so much. It's time for these adult daughters to take personal responsibility for their own actions. Things have gotten so out of hand in society today, there that it almost seems like a rite of passage for daughters to "hate" their mother in this day and age. I never could understand why is it people are so quick to blame mom's parenting for everything from drug abuse to international terrorism but if a person is a "success" a mom's influence is totally ignored. When was the last time you heard an Oscar winner thank their mother? While my adult daughter is not a "failure" or bad, she has made some lifestyle choices I'm not too happy about, and have had people say you should be ashamed for "letting" her do things. Thanks to Herst, I know I didn't "fail." I took comfort in the fact that Herst was not a "perfect" mom..only one who did the best she could. Herst never excused truly abusive and bad mothers for horrendous behavior, she only helps ordinary moms get rid of misplaced guilt, so that healing really can take place!

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Summary: excellent
Review: I saw this book on Oprah and rushed out to buy it. It is so comforting to know that I'm not to blame. Thank you Charney Herst. I was up to page 83 before I found out that mothers of daughters with drug and/or alcohol problems needn't buy the book. BUT - it is a very helpful book. I wanted to help a friend whose daughter has a drug problem. I could still get a great deal of benefit from it for my own relationship with my grown daughter

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Summary: It's not your fault!
Review: If a mother really wants to improve her relationship with her daughter, this is wrong book to read. This book was written for mothers who are unwilling to take responsibility for their own actions and need written proof to support their position. The author tells them what they want to hear - It's not your fault!

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Summary: I encourage all mothers and daughters to read this book so t
Review: In interviewing over 200 women I have learned and taught much new information. The most important finding is that we all want approval from our mothers and daughters call it ACCEPTANCE AND MOTHERS CALL IT GAINING RESPECT.The total embodiment of this goal lies in good, basic straightforward communication. The guidelines are in my book and the motivations are in your heart.Getting the love you want so much means giving that love. The process is always reciprocal and egalitarian. We are each other's care-takers. There is no stronger bond between people nor one so filled with emotions. Kepp it going, and NEVER GIVE UP HOPE. Dr. Charney Herst , Encino, California,Author,psychotherapist,mom.