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Summary: THIS TOO SHALL PASS
Review: EXCELLENT BOOK! AS THE MOTHER OF A DAUGHTER WHO HAS HAD INFERTILITY PROBLEMS I FIND THIS BOOK TO BE VERY MEANINGFUL. IT HAS MADE ME UNDERSTAND THE PAIN AND HEARTACHE THAT GOES ALONG WITH INFERTILITY PROBLEMS. I NEVER REALIZED HOW WHAT PEOPLE SAY (WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING IT) COULD BE SO HURTFUL TO INFERTILE COUPLES. I RECOMMEND THIS BOOK TO THE COUPLES EXPERIENCING THESE PROBLEMS, AND TO THEIR FAMILIES AND FRIENDS.
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Summary: A must read for infertile women and couples
Review: First, I want to say the cover and illustrations are beautiful and bring a sense of calm just looking at them. Second, from the very beginning of the book I sobbed. Sobbed in a good way, it was like a release. When you wrote about Sharon's
dream, of course I identified, but when you mentioned the "amputation" scenario demonstrating just how far some of us would go to have a baby, I lost it. That point was SO POWERFUL. That's when I began to cry. You really brought it home there. After a short while my husband came into the room. At that point we were kind of reading it together. He had know choice as I kept nudging him saying, "Look at this. This is exactly what we went through." We identified with page after page. Some of it was so painful, because it reacquainted me with that rough period of my life, but in another way it brought peace in recalling just how hard I've tried to have a baby. I have comfort in knowing *I've tried almost everything.* Also, I agree and like your "twelve step" concept. So easy to understand and implement. As women we've been programmed, since childhood, to a certain way of thinking. Your twelve steps help us to reprogram and help us accept our, unexpected, childfree way of life. I find your suggestions invaluable. Last, but not least, I enjoyed your poetry. It was beautiful! I was especially touched by the poems- * Unmade Memories, Absence Of Bliss, and Love And Prayers,* both my husband and I cried while reading them. Your heart is very beautiful, and I respect and appreciate your vulnerability. I'm sure that wasn't easy. Thank you for exposing yourself to help people like me.
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Summary: A must read for infertile women and couples
Review: First, I want to say the cover and illustrations are beautiful and bring a sense of calm just looking at them. Second, from the very beginning of the book I sobbed. Sobbed in a good way, it was like a release. When you wrote about Sharon's
dream, of course I identified, but when you mentioned the "amputation" scenario demonstrating just how far some of us would go to have a baby, I lost it. That point was SO POWERFUL. That's when I began to cry. You really brought it home there. After a short while my husband came into the room. At that point we were kind of reading it together. He had know choice as I kept nudging him saying, "Look at this. This is exactly what we went through." We identified with page after page. Some of it was so painful, because it reacquainted me with that rough period of my life, but in another way it brought peace in recalling just how hard I've tried to have a baby. I have comfort in knowing *I've tried almost everything.* Also, I agree and like your "twelve step" concept. So easy to understand and implement. As women we've been programmed, since childhood, to a certain way of thinking. Your twelve steps help us to reprogram and help us accept our, unexpected, childfree way of life. I find your suggestions invaluable. Last, but not least, I enjoyed your poetry. It was beautiful! I was especially touched by the poems- * Unmade Memories, Absence Of Bliss, and Love And Prayers,* both my husband and I cried while reading them. Your heart is very beautiful, and I respect and appreciate your vulnerability. I'm sure that wasn't easy. Thank you for exposing yourself to help people like me.
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Summary: Genuine compassion for those struggling with infertility
Review: Greetings! First I'd like to say that I am grateful that amazon.com offers books on the subject of infertility, as it is a rare subject to be had at bookstores. To those customers who have given my book a less then complimentary review, I would like to apologize if the book did not fit your needs. I wrote it with the intent of sincerely helping others. I hope that you can find something that does fit your needs, and that you are blessed in whatever you decide to do with your infertility situation. Perhaps if I better explain what the book is about, others can decide for themselves on whether or not to read it. I wrote this book with two goals in mind. To comfort those struggling with infertility, and to educate society about it. I tell my own personal story of emotions in the book (through poetry), and I share tools in regular text form that helped me to cope while going through infertility myself. The tools I share do mention a 12 step program, which is meant to induce a spiritual way of coping. The reason the book depicts the harsh realities of infertility is to help a "fertile society" to better understand the full scope of the infertility experience. My book presents all options, and does not enforce any one choice to "move on" with. That is up to each individual. Any and all decisions are supported in the book. Mainly it is for those still in the midst of the struggle and decision making, and for their friends and family members. I do not claim to have all the answers, but I do claim to have genuine compassion for those experiencing infertility. I can only hope that my words will somehow comfort you, and make you aware that you are not alone. While at the same time, I hope it shows those who have not experienced infertility how to have compassion towards it. Always remember the difference between "helping" and "healing." One can use the book to help them if they so choose, but healing must be done from within each indivudual. So if you are looking for a spiritual way of coping, and you wish that family members and friends could understand infertility better, then I hope that you find this book helpful for both you and those loved ones. I wish you all a very grand and blessed life.
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Summary: For the whole family
Review: I found the book very helpful! My sister is going through infertility, and this book really helped me to better understand the depth of what she is going through. I liked it so much I bought copies for the rest of my family so they can help her emotionally also. I think it is brave of the author to be so open with her story in order to bring more understanding to the subject.
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Summary: A good resource for the emotions of infertility
Review: I found this book short and easy to read; and very helpful in dealing with the emotional components of infertility. Regardless of what your final outcome is (having a biological child, adopting, remaining childfree)--the situations people face during infertility are all too similar and all too painful. The author, through her poems and writings, really spoke to many of my own feelings. There are lots of books about treatment of infertility and the various options, but this is the only one I have found that deals with the emotional aspect in a specific manner. I recently gave it to a friend who was experiencing secondary infertility and she found it very helpful. Families who have a family member going through infertility can read this and gain a real perspective on what the couple is going through.
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Summary: Unique & needed book for infertile AND their family/friends
Review: I have been searching for a book like this for a long time. Not one that is full of Christianity or medical help or help choosing a path, just one to read so I don't feel so alone, confused, and hopeless. This book let me say "yes-that's EXACTLY how I felt/feel" and get some emotion out as well. It's not the most eloquent or best-edited of books, but it really doesn't matter, because it fills a need in the market that is so lacking. IT IS ESPECIALLY GREAT FOR FAMILY AND FRIENDS. Because, let's face it, they usually just don't get it...the pain of IF is so complex and hard to explain to the fertile world, and this really does it. My appreciation to the author for putting herself out there on this one. I think it will make a lot of IF women/couples feel a lot less crazy and alone.
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Summary: Awesome--the first book to make me cry!
Review: I have read all the technical infertility books out there--and not shed a tear. This book so capably covers the emotions that are buried during infertility, and made the pain finally surface for me. Wonderful poetry and heartfelt emotion make this book a must read. There simply is nothing else out there like it. Bitter? Yes, we who are going through infertility ARE bitter. If you have gone through a few years of it you would understand. That's why Lori's poetry is so powerful. After bitterness comes acceptance. If you don't get the anger up it will eat you and your marriage alive. Great little poem "For The Fertile World" which you can share w/friends and relatives who don't know how to handle this.
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Summary: Infertility is not a 12 step program
Review: I think the author is still struggling with her infertility and seems very bitter about it. Her feelings that Mother's Day & Father's Day are unfair show that she has not moved on in her life. Her 12 step program (similar to Alcoholics Anonymous) does not relate to infertility and did not provide any comfort for me. While infertility and alcoholism are both diseases, I did not choose a life to include infertility. Don't buy this book if you are expecting to feel better afterward. The author does not offer any real suggestions and is still suffering herself.
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Summary: Great book that deals with a painful subject.
Review: I wish I'd had this book when I was going through the pains of infertility! This book can help those going through infertility realize the feelings they are having are normal, and offers ways to cope and hope. Anything that can help you deal with infertility is a blessing. This book is such a blessing. Infertility is very, very painful and can be very lonely, when no one else understands. It helps to read and know the author felt the same things I did! This book can also be helpful to the "fertile" world, to help them understand what those going through infertility are feeling and dealing with. There are suggestions to the fertile world of things to do or say to offer support, and things NOT to say! The book is a quick book to read - and reread. I loved the poems that were sprinkled throughout the book. I'm glad the author is trying to educate the fertile world, and also offer help to those going through infertility.
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