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Summary: Good concept but way to religious!
Review: I liked Sherrie's first book much better. This book is good for the religious at heart. But for those who are offended by religious jargon, consider the following healing books.For adoptees: Whose Child? by Kasey Hamner
For Birthmothers: The Other Mother by Carol Schaefer
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Summary: Most helpful adoption book I have ever read
Review: I read this book after locating my birthparents. I wish I read it before. It was written in a way that made me feel like I knew the author and she was relating my own personal feelings and thoughts. I probably would have found my family many years earlier had I been given the support and validation and guidance that this book gave to me. This is a book for adoptive parents to read as it helps one understand the feelings that often arent validated by the world but are so real to us. It also can help one to decide when and if a search is right for them. I bought this book for my 2 friends who are adoptive parents and for 3 of my friends who are adopted themselves. I highly recommend it to anyone in the adoption triad.
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Summary: Good underlying theme
Review: I was reluctant to read this book due to the reviews criticizing the religious jargon but was glad I did. The book does have many good underlying messages that touch the core of an adoptees experience and I would recommend it to anyone searching for answers on how adoption plays a key role in developing how we relate to the world. Although I did find the pious God loves you theme a bit annoying and simply skipped over those parts.
Sheree's other book "20 Things Every Adoptee Wishes Their Adoptive Parents Knew" was even more enlightening, offering some valuable information without trying to "save" you.
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Summary: Life transforming choice #1: Read this book!
Review: Just let me start by saying thank you for your outstanding book. I am
37, adopted and searching for my birth relatives. I have never had an
adopted friend, joined a support group or looked into the possibility of
my adoption so profoundly affecting my life. I have a beautiful family,
but my deep wounds have affected my marriage and my professional life in
a very negative way. I had been previously unaware of my feelings. I am reading all I can get my hands on about adoption. This book and the author have touched me so profoundly that giving it 5 stars feels insignificant. After reading many of the books written about adoption, I have noticed some are good, some are great and some not so good. I started this book with a skeptical heart and an untrusting mind. The author won me over very quickly and I read the entire book in two days, (not impressed? Full time job, 3 children, active social calendar) As an adoptee, I can only emphatically state others involved in the adoption triad can not afford to not read this book. It is food for the soul, drink for the heart, a compass for those of us that always seem to be searching . (even if only on the subconscious level.) It is sure to shed at least some light on the darkest parts of your soul, if it doesn't completely illuminate a path to recovery and healing. Mrs. Eldridge candidly shares her own story as only a wounded healer can. I feel a great debt of gratitude to the author and I will repay it by aspiring to become a wounded healer myself.
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Summary: Life transforming choice #1: Read this book!
Review: Just let me start by saying thank you for your outstanding book. I am
37, adopted and searching for my birth relatives. I have never had an
adopted friend, joined a support group or looked into the possibility of
my adoption so profoundly affecting my life. I have a beautiful family,
but my deep wounds have affected my marriage and my professional life in
a very negative way. I had been previously unaware of my feelings. I am reading all I can get my hands on about adoption. This book and the author have touched me so profoundly that giving it 5 stars feels insignificant. After reading many of the books written about adoption, I have noticed some are good, some are great and some not so good. I started this book with a skeptical heart and an untrusting mind. The author won me over very quickly and I read the entire book in two days, (not impressed? Full time job, 3 children, active social calendar) As an adoptee, I can only emphatically state others involved in the adoption triad can not afford to not read this book. It is food for the soul, drink for the heart, a compass for those of us that always seem to be searching . (even if only on the subconscious level.) It is sure to shed at least some light on the darkest parts of your soul, if it doesn't completely illuminate a path to recovery and healing. Mrs. Eldridge candidly shares her own story as only a wounded healer can. I feel a great debt of gratitude to the author and I will repay it by aspiring to become a wounded healer myself.
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Summary: I was helped on SO many levels as an adoptee--Montreal
Review: Sherrie Eldridge's book TWENTY LIFE-TRANSFORMING CHOICES ADOPTEES NEED TO MAKE that I read in 2004, helped me on many levels in my life as an adopted child. Thank you, Sherrie, and God bless you!
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Summary: Self Starter for a New Emotional You
Review: Sherrie Eldridge's new book. "Twenty Life Transforming Coices Adoptees Need to Make" was, indeed, a page turner. It included the emotional backgrounds of many adoptees and the psychological reasons for their distress. It also offered spiritual foundations for their hope along with many choices each could make to continue their road to good mental helth. We, includes all adoptees, have many choices to make, as Sherrie so vividly portrays. When these choices are made and lived out we become "wounded healers" to those around us who are hurting. This book can be read, digested, and shared with all of hurting humanity. It belongs on every reader's shelf.
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Summary: A MUST Read !!
Review: Sherrie uses her own experiences as an adioptee to lead her readers to an understanding of typical adoptee experiences. The book is enlightening to all members of the adoption triad, as well as professionals, family and friends. While not every adoptee may experience all the reactions, it is important to take note of the possibilities. The feeling of loss of control over one's life is a common issue. The question of why birth mom "didn't keep me" to how did I get these adoptive parents both deal with control, or lack of it. The natural reaction is to either feel powerless or to look elsewhere for power. Adotive parents willing to discuss and listen are one of the best supports an adoptee can have and what every adoptee deserves.
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Summary: Twenty Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make
Review: Sherrie uses her own experiences as an adioptee to lead her readers to an understanding of typical adoptee experiences. The book is enlightening to all members of the adoption triad, as well as professionals, family and friends. While not every adoptee may experience all the reactions, it is important to take note of the possibilities. The feeling of loss of control over one's life is a common issue. The question of why birth mom "didn't keep me" to how did I get these adoptive parents both deal with control, or lack of it. The natural reaction is to either feel powerless or to look elsewhere for power. Adotive parents willing to discuss and listen are one of the best supports an adoptee can have and what every adoptee deserves.
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Summary: Honest, courageous, healing
Review: Sherrie's book comforted me in profound ways.
As a birthmother still searching at 57 for my son relinquished at birth, and the adoptive mother of a 26 year old daughter rescued from an orphanage in India, I am stunned by my adoption reading. In my heart and mind scattered pieces of a huge emotional puzzle are being retrieved and put together in a way that makes sense.
Sherrie's honesty, courage, and generosity of heart are a profound healing force for anyone effected by adoption. I found it hard to put this book down and I know it will continue to be a source of strength for my whole family.
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