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Summary: IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW
Review: This book changed my life. I KNEW something was dreadfully wrong but I couldn't put a name to it until I read this book. I felt like I was reading my personal story and finally had the validation and knowledge that I needed to take steps to stop the crazy-making behaviors of my husband. We are not out of the woods yet by any means, and I may still end up leaving, but finally moving in the right direction started with this book.
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Summary: Educating Yourself about Verbal Abuse
Review: This book is a good tool for counselors as well as people in recovery. It identifies verbal abuse in the many forms that it takes. It also gives insight on some of the patterns and dynamics involved as well as how some have turned their lives around.
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Summary: The Spectrum of Abuse
Review: This book is a testimony from hell - the transparent torture chamber that verbal abuse - recurrent, unpredictable, tauntin - often becomes. It is a horror story disguised as passioned observations of victims and perpetrators. Abuse is an integral, inseparable part of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The narcissist idealizes and then DEVALUES and discards the object of his initial idealization. This abrupt, heartless devaluation IS abuse. ALL narcissists idealize and then devalue. This is THE core of pathological narcissism. The narcissist exploits, lies, insults, demeans, ignores (the "silent treatment"), manipulates, controls. All these are forms of abuse. There are a million ways to abuse. To love too much is to abuse. It is tantamount to treating someone as an extension, an object, or an instrument of gratification. To be over-protective, not to respect privacy, to be brutally honest, or consistently tactless - is to abuse. To expect too much, to denigrate, to ignore - are all modes of abuse. There is physical abuse, verbal abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse. The list is long. Narcissists are masters of abusing surreptitiously. They are "stealth abusers". You have to actually live with one in order to witness the abuse. This book is as close as it gets to the real life experience. An eye (rather, ear) opener. Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited".
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Summary: "Excellent book to understand what's going on"
Review: This book is excellent for anyone involves in a emotional abusive relationship. I was with an emotional abuser for 31 years. I read the book. I did it. I left. After a month of reading it finally I could do it. I could understand that I am not the wrong one and I could get what was going on for first time in my life. And knowing that encouraged me to leave. It was the knowledge i was needed to be able to leave so unworth relationship. If you really want to help yourself, go ahead and read this book. I can tell you, i was scared to read it when i read some comments that someone after read it in two weeks left. And I bought the book and waited two weeks to start reading it. Then I read it and when i was reading it I felt worse and i thought it was the wrong thing to do. Now I know it was the best i could do for myself. I recovered my life !
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Summary: you are not alone or crazy!!!! read this book
Review: This book is great for those who are survivors, and those who want to get out of an abusive relationship. I found myself crying tears of joy reading this book, because I realized that I was not crazy and that I was not alone. I recognized myself in its stories. Read it, heal with it, carry it around, and live by it. It can help you change your life and help you heal from this misunderstood and hidden abusive cyle.I also highly reccomend her other books. The reason that so many of these reviews have the same words in them, I am guessing, is that victims of verbal abuse go through the same things, and then feel the same way. It is amazing. Only other survivors can understand.
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Summary: Very Insightful Book
Review: This book was of great help to me. I realized there were other people out there that had experienced the same things that I had. Basically that I wasn't crazy. I was married for 16 plus years and leaving the relationship was one of the hardest things I have ever done, but the best for all involved. My daughters had become a target for his verbal abuse and now they are more aware that relationships are not healthy in that form. Their dad has become more aware of his actions, he has gotten better with time but as far as changing completly, I don't feel in my heart right now that it is possible. I have forgiven but life is to short and it is all about choices.....excellent book. I have read both of Patricia Evans books and several others on this subject.
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