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Summary: BE A PERSON - NOT A DOORMAT
Review: I am living with a daughter who has become verbally abusive and most ironically, she is in the medical profession. But she seems unaware of her abusive ways, constant criticizing, refusal to be pleased, temper tantrums. This book by Patricia Evans is right on target. The book needs to be read slowly and maybe in segments to fully appreciate its thoroughness and value to the abused person.
Although most of the writing is about marital situations of abuse, Ms. Evans states that abuse can come from anyone. I also have an abusive older sister. But now I feel I can handle these
difficult people in my life. This book is valuable, and the small
price makes it even more attractive.
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Summary: A must read, about a dark force that kills the spirit.
Review: I am recovering from a 10-year relationship with a man I loved and thought wonderful, who shared with me great world adventures and great times on many levels - but who at the same time was slowly, subtly, making me doubt myself through criticism, public humiliation, tuning out, rude remarks and sudden outbursts of anger. Because this was mixed with fun, adventure and "love", the total effect was confusion and - by the end of it - a complete dismantling of spirit. Patricia Evans' two books have guided me through a long (now 3 years) healing period, which even now is marked with a deep, unidentifiable pain - especially on encountering my ex-husband. The power of Patricia Evans' books lies in their specific outlining of what is actually happening in a relationship where one's deepest self is not honored or cherished. Any woman who is feeling an unidentifiable unrest about her marriage owes it to herself to read these books!
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Summary: A book that is truly an "eye opner"
Review: I have been married for 16 years as a verbally abused wife. For 15 1/2 years I just thought my husband was "mean and evil" until I saw Patricia Evans book in the bookstore "Verbally Abusive Relationship and how to recognize them". This book had my husbands name all over it and finally my eyes were opened to what I had been going through for so long. I am now in the process of getting divorced and am relieved to know that I will be getting my life back and living it as I please. Every woman must read this book.
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Summary: Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out
Review: I HIGHLY recommend this book, to those of you out there who know of someone who is in this situation. I make this particular recommendation because you have the ability to see this form of abuse much easier than the person who's in this pe of situation. If, after giving them this book they still don't get it, then they're just not ready to, may not ever be. In giving this to a verbally abused person you could well be saving their minds, perhaps even their lives.
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Summary: AUTHOR REVIEW
Review: I read Verbal Abuse: Survivors Speak Out and was impressed with the overall message of hope and recovery. Readers will be treated to a variety of stories that will help in the healing process. ---
John D. Moore
Author of Confusing Love with Obsession: When You Can't Stop Controlling Your Partner & the Relationship
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Summary: 25yrs.abuse/book Saved my life and sanity/my second Bible
Review: I've basically said it all in the one line summary. Until I read this book, (like others) I didn't even know what was happening to me...didn't know there were two words for it. It was like discovering the cure for a horrible disease (actually, verbal abuse is a horrible disease), but until you have the knowledge, you are powerless. Thank God and Patricia Evans for that knowlege. If it were in my power, I would have every person on the planet read this (and the sequel)..so people would be educated!--and people that are being abused would be able to figure out what is going on! I consider this book to be my second Bible. Practically every page is clipped, and every line highlighted!
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Summary: Now it Makes Sense, Now I know why I can not please my wife.
Review: If ever some was confused it was me. I tried to be a great husband. But if I said one thing, it was wrong, and if I said the opposite it was wrong. I am a man, and was so surprised when I read this book. My love, my wife, had been helping a friend through abuse, and then I saw a book by Patricia Evans, so I thought "Here is a book for her to use". I picked it up. Wow it was my life. She lied to me. She redefined me. She manipulated me. I took about 3 months to read the book, it hurt so much to see my long term love in this ugly light. Patricia Evans helped me so much and now I am free, to Love me properly.
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Summary: Excellent analysis of this form of abuse
Review: Ms. Evans gives an overview of this form of abuse, which can be every bit as destructive as physical abuse. Survivors give excellent advice on how to heal and most importantly, how to recognize this form of deadly abuse and GET OUT.
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Summary: Just buy all three of Patricia Evan's books on Verbal Abuse!
Review: Pat Evans is the author of three books on verbal abuse (that I know of), including "Controlling People" and "The Verbally Abusive Relationship." I read "The Verbally ABusive Relationship" first, then "Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out" and then "Controlling People." Seemed like a good flow and a good progression for me. "Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out" is a GREAT book and full of that all important validation that survivors crave and need. It's also full of powerful stories. If you've been verbally abused for years (and didn't know it), you'll find this book is difficult and challenging (emotionally) to read, because you'll see yourself on so many pages. However, for that very same reason, it's a comforting book, because the evil that's been lurking in the shadows of your marriage/relationship is revealed, identified, brought to the light, exposed and destroyed. Once evil is dragged out of the subtle shadows, it's 100% easier to destroy it. And it's comforting to read because you realize that you are not alone. Far too many women feel stuck in these terrible relationships and often feel trapped, alone and without hope. This book gives verbally abused women the validation they crave and the hope they need. It also gives them the strength to demand change and/or leave the toxic relationship. If I were queen of the world, I'd pass a law that all young women read each of these books (on Verbal Abuse), before committing to a long term relationship. If you're considering buying this book, stop considering and do it! Hit the "add to cart" button. I originally borrowed this book from the library. After reading the first chapter, I went online and bought it. It's *that* good.
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Summary: Sequel Please!
Review: The Verbally Abusive Relationship is a guiding light, bringing clarity and insight to confusing and oblique patterns as well as useful guidelines for recovery in the context of personal relationships. It would be ENORMOUSLY USEFUL to see a sequel offering ideas about how to handle verbal abuse effectively in the workplace where business rules and organizational structures call for differently tailored strategies.
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