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Summary: life altering
Review: I have recommended this book to several friends who have all had the same reaction I did, wow. If you can open up to the reality that divorce is never completely one person's fault, then this book will help you on the road to future, healthy relationships. This book was given to me by my therapist. I have never been so completely changed by reading in my life (and I am an english teacher). This book is not preachy, not self helpish, it is an easy read of others experiences with lessons richly imbedded and similarities uncanny to anyone who has gone through a divorce. You'd be a complete [common sense challenged] not to read this book before ever getting into another relationship. In fact, I think it should be a requirement to anyone planning on getting married.
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Summary: This book is a LIFESAVER after divorce!
Review: I read this book about a year after my divorce and it was like watching a bright sun rise over a dark horizon. Abigail Trafford helps you realize that you are NOT crazy about the way you feel (no matter what that is) and that there can be a better "life after divorce".Since reading this book the first time 4 years ago, I have given it to 10 people and have recommended it to many more. It's been helpful to both my male and female friends. The best and most meaningful book on the market to help you live through a painful experience.
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Summary: A must read for anyone in or getting out of a relationship
Review: I really recommend this book. I am in the middle of getting a divorce after 13 years of marriage. Over the past four months, I have been focusing on keeping things on an even keel for my kids. This book helped me to start focusing on myself. I now have an understanding of the emotional process involved in divorcing my spouse. I also know what I need to focus on to come out of this situation as a stronger, wiser person. Frankly, I think anyone who is in a relationship, about to get married or thinking about getting out of a marriage should read this book. It opened my eyes. I am sure that I will be reading it again and again.
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Summary: Flawed by sloppy research
Review: I received this book from a valued friend and found most of the information in it fit well and appeared useful. (The up side of the book is well documented in other reviews.) Then I got to the chapters on sex and love. Ms. Trafford is clearly of the opinion that promiscuity is a post-divorce stage if one chooses to allow it. This raises two questions: Where are all those women eagerly waiting for the chance to jump into my bed? And which other points in the book were superficially researched, researched from a one-sided viewpoint, or not researched at all? For those who are interested, Scott Adams in The Dilbert Zone describes accurately and with considerable sensitivity (and wit!) the socio-sexual stone wall that is faced by the (generally geeky) unpopular male in our society. Unfortunately Ms. Trafford's failure to recognize this problem matters a lot, because it is arguably to some of us the single most important factor in staying within a doomed relationship beyond all common sense and possibly in having entered that relationship in the first place. I wonder how much else in this book only works for the popular females. I'm afraid that I'm deeply suspicious that the book is written to validate, guilt- and judgement-free, as many as possible of the feelings that are popularly associated with the death of a marriage. I suggest that's opium, not food, to a person suffering what really is crazy time. Cheers.
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Summary: great book. A real help to me
Review: I thought this book helped me to realize that my feelings were normal. My anger was normal and in fact a necessary emotion to have in order to get through my "crazy time". It gave me hope that I will make it through a little at a time. I had all the feelings happen to me that were talked about in this book and realize I am going to be ok in time.
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Summary: THE BEST book on divorce
Review: I was tired of coming across all these books about divorce that told you how to deal with children, property, taxes and your ex. I needed something that helped me deal with ME and found it in this book. The chapters are like stages, and I was amazed at how right on they were! I unfotunately found myself going through the stages more than once, but there is a light at the end. This book is excellent to help you focus on YOU and your feelings. I even bought it for my exhusband (as we remain friendly today.)
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Summary: THE BEST book on divorce
Review: I was tired of coming across all these books about divorce that told you how to deal with children, property, taxes and your ex. I needed something that helped me deal with ME and found it in this book. The chapters are like stages, and I was amazed at how right on they were! I unfotunately found myself going through the stages more than once, but there is a light at the end. This book is excellent to help you focus on YOU and your feelings. I even bought it for my exhusband (as we remain friendly today.)
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Summary: great help in understanding what we're going through
Review: I wish I had found this book the day that I accepted that divorce was inevitable for us. It helped explain behavior and thought patterns that I saw in both of us, and it gives me an idea of what will come in the next few years. It takes away the sense of isolation and makes me hopeful that I will come out of the other side sooner, rather than later.
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Summary: Not for young childless divorcees
Review: I'm sure this book could be helpful, but it was not applicable to my situation...a young divorcee with no children and no chaos surrounding my divorce. This book is for people who've been married for quite a while and have kids and lots of "things" tied up in their relationship. If you're experiencing lots of upheaval and chaos in your transition, then this may help, but if you're young and need to know how other young people are coping, don't look to this book for much insight.
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Summary: Wow! Wish I could add a sixth star
Review: I've been separated for six months and just read Crazy Time. I'm stunned how the book covers what I felt, what I'm feeling, and I'd guess, what I'm going to feel. As I've been reading it non-stop for the last three days (nerdily highlighting and writing in the margins), I feel like I've grown enormously.
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