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Summary: Father of four children
Review: Cutting Loose is a collection of opinions from the exceedingly small minority of women who have found divorce uplifting. The realty is divorce for the large majority of women is a negative life altering experience. Readers should be cautioned that having a positive divorce experience is similar in odds to becoming an olympic athlete.
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Summary: Very affirming and encouraging
Review: Cutting Loose is not a "how-to" manual for women who are contemplating divorce (although it does have helpful information in it), nor is it a book designed to encourage women to initiate divorce. Rather, it is an extremely well-written commentary on the changing roles of marriage and divorce in our society today. Ms. Applewhite explores, with sensitivity, the issues that have led to divorce for a number of women, and how difficult it is, in almost all cases, for the woman to make the choice to leave. She also explores the many and varied feelings that go along with making that decision, many of which are brought on by the pressure of societal views, and what people still see as "right" or "normal", even in these days of supposed equal rights for women. This book took a very tough subject and explored it in great depth. Although it made me sad at times, overall I found this book very affirming and ultimately uplifting, as I read about others in similar situations as mine. I would recommend this book to anyone, married, unmarried, male or female, who is interested in exploring marriage and gaining some insight into why it doesn't always work. And for those of us who initiated our divorces, it's comforting to know we're not out there alone
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Summary: Very affirming and encouraging
Review: Cutting Loose is not a "how-to" manual for women who are contemplating divorce (although it does have helpful information in it), nor is it a book designed to encourage women to initiate divorce. Rather, it is an extremely well-written commentary on the changing roles of marriage and divorce in our society today. Ms. Applewhite explores, with sensitivity, the issues that have led to divorce for a number of women, and how difficult it is, in almost all cases, for the woman to make the choice to leave. She also explores the many and varied feelings that go along with making that decision, many of which are brought on by the pressure of societal views, and what people still see as "right" or "normal", even in these days of supposed equal rights for women. This book took a very tough subject and explored it in great depth. Although it made me sad at times, overall I found this book very affirming and ultimately uplifting, as I read about others in similar situations as mine. I would recommend this book to anyone, married, unmarried, male or female, who is interested in exploring marriage and gaining some insight into why it doesn't always work. And for those of us who initiated our divorces, it's comforting to know we're not out there alone
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Summary: CUTTING LOOSE is uplifting and honest
Review: CUTTING LOOSE takes a fresh, and certainly controversial, look at divorce, incorporating advice, helpful information, and uplifting and honest narratives from fifty or so women who left their husbands. These women are not weighed down by guilt and regret and rightfully so, because clearly they, like many women who divorce, did not take their decision lightly. Many spent months, even years, weighing the consequences before ending their relationships, often consulting a therapist for guidance (while many of their husbands refused marriage counseling). No wonder that despite the pain, the guilt, and sometimes heavy financial losses, these women are doing so well. Moreover, so are their kids. As Applewhite points out, divorce doesn't devastate children; neglectful and inadequate parenting does, and that can exist in intact families. It's about time women in bad marriages had a book that shows them that divorce can be a positive experience in the long run for them, their children, even their husbands.
What a refreshing, positive view of a difficult subject.--Nancy Darrow, well-adjusted child of divorce!
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Summary: A life saver...
Review: Every woman unhappy in her marriage or contemplating divorce should read this book but so should all married men. The latter may or may not see themselves in the story telling and personal experiences of others that the author uses to delve into relationships gone wrong, but those who do may become aware, perhaps in the nick of time, of behaviors on both sides of the fence that could either foreshadow or lead to an untying of the knot. The book is not a blame game treatise. Nor is it an intellectual exercise of theories and sociological mumbo jumbo. It is a book of real stories from real people, including the author, who are painfully honest about their experiences and feelings. While statistical and historical references provide the reader a dose of reality, the meat comes from those who were willing to bare their souls.
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Summary: Required Reading for the Married Man
Review: Every woman unhappy in her marriage or contemplating divorce should read this book but so should all married men. The latter may or may not see themselves in the story telling and personal experiences of others that the author uses to delve into relationships gone wrong, but those who do may become aware, perhaps in the nick of time, of behaviors on both sides of the fence that could either foreshadow or lead to an untying of the knot. The book is not a blame game treatise. Nor is it an intellectual exercise of theories and sociological mumbo jumbo. It is a book of real stories from real people, including the author, who are painfully honest about their experiences and feelings. While statistical and historical references provide the reader a dose of reality, the meat comes from those who were willing to bare their souls.
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Summary: Visit www.cuttingloose.com for up-to-date reviews & comments
Review: Excerpts, reviews, and readers comments are available, and welcome, at my website, www.cuttingloose.com. The May issue of Ms. says, "For women frozen with inertia or stalled by dire predictions. . . Cutting Loose provides the rocket fuel to launch new lives." Whether getting out of unhappy marriages or just interested in the state of marriage in America, readers are telling me they find the book helpful, funny, enormously encouraging, and a good read to boot. Thanks for your interest
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Summary: A Real Slam at Men
Review: I am returning this book, thanks to Amazon's excellent return policy. From the little bit I was able to stomach, I found it really one-sided and anti-male. The "doing well," for example, did not apply to my first wife, whom I divorced some thirty-five years ago because she deserted me and the children. She is now lonely, old, lonesome, weeping, poor and in anguish. I still like her and buy her dinner every so often; we see each other on our grown children's birthdays, and we trade stories about our grandkids. But, no, she is NOT better off for having left me those many years ago. Would she have done better had she stayed? Maybe. Who knows? Would I have? Probably not. Anyway, this book doesn't provide the answers.
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Summary: Awesome and insightful
Review: I read this book pre and post divorce. What an utterly fascinating book that cuts across the socio-economic status of women. I felt very empowered after reading this book but more importantly I understood how behavior 'controls' in relationships; how very strong independent, kind-hearted women can fall victim within the confines of their marriage. I recommended it to four other women and passed it on to someone at the airport! I wish I could find a book like this for 'men' so they too could see its merits.
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Summary: The person from Seattle is all wrong (in my h. opinion).
Review: I was not going to write a reader-review of this book, but I find the most recent reviewer so far from my own opinion that I guess it is time to ante up. To me, this book is wise, it is funny, it performs the amazing task of weaving a multitude of histories (which vary wonderfully in terms of class, race, and culture) into a coherent theme-driven narrative, which makes it so much easier for the reader and so much more useful, which is probably more important. The author has done a tremendous amount of research yet wears it so lightly it is practically invisible; it simply informs the work and gives it a strength and legitimacy that it probably has needed to defend itself in this insane world in which we live. There are some beautiful sentences in it. And I am a short sentence fan, so I don't mean Gorgeous-fancy, I mean gorgeous-gorgeous. I might also mention that although I thought of (and have recommended it to) several friends who have been through or who are going through tough divorces, I am currently doing just fine with my marriage. And I really don't understand why the reviewer felt the author hadn't had a good relationship. I thought it was clear that the marriage she left was in many ways, early on, a good thing, and that her current relationship is healthy and moving along well. Here is a personal note, however: So one night when I was about 2/3 of the way through, my husband asks me How's that DIVORCE book you're reading and I found myself saying, Actually, you would probably identify with a lot of these disgruntled women when you think of the marriage YOU left. Because he always says he was least like himself when he was married to his first wife (who remains a good friend to us both). I thought it was yet another measure of the book's wiseness that so many of the central issues, although certainly they applied most often to women, also could apply to men. I couldn't think of anything more the author should have done, anything she should have done less of, or any way to make the book better than it is. It is just wonderful. It is an interesting book and document about American life and it is an invaluable text for women (or men for that matter) who are at some stage in that inevitably painful process of separating from the person they thought they would share everything with, forever. It made me think about marriage and my marriage and the marriages I know, and it helped me think about them constructively and yet with a certain toughness. A good gift, in both sense of the word.
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