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Summary: Good for self confidence boost
Review: Hi, Just finished reading this book. First, I don't like his writing style. It doesn't seem to 'flow'. But that's besides the point. The book starts out pretty good. It was motivational and reinforced many things I've philosophized about and learned about through experience. For example, I really like the part about dealing with fear. But later on, the book becomes annoying. It gives you lot of theory and is really vague on how to actually put these theories into practice in a real situation. He keeps saying to give all your love bla bla bla... and the most annoying thing he says is, "find your deepest purpose." I'm telling you, if I could find my deepest purpose in life, I wouldn't need to read a book like this. How do we find our true purpose in life? The book doesn't really touch this much, if at all. And it goes to say that everything else depends on finding this true purpose..... u get my point. All in all, I would recommend the book. It can be a motivational read, and I do agree with many of his viewpoints about being the 'superior man.' Just don't expect it elicit an epiphany or anything.
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Summary: Enhance , embrace and love your male self
Review: I am still reading this book and will hate for it to end, as it is very insightful and helpful for me in my relationship. I have read many books that speak to these issues but in mystic, ancient and overly poetic phrases. David cuts to the chase and makes his point to the psyche of the American (but not limited to) male and female. David uses real life situations that we all experience in the life of a relationship. I often find myself pausing and reflecting on the valuable information shared in this book. I highly recommend this book to men who truly love women and want to continuously grow in a new redefined male identity.
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Summary: A major disappointment
Review: I bought this book simply because I saw that Ken Wilber thought highly of it and I consider Mr. Wilber one of the great thinkers of our time. However, what I found in this book was enough to put me off of ever wanting to be in another relationship. Mr. Dieda infers that it is the Masculine that is the healer, the gift-giver etc. However what he is also saying is that the Man does all the work: the man stands like the Rock of Gibralter while his woman rants, raves, and emotionally is all over the map. Men have the responsibility to cut thru, withstand, work with, all that the woman dishes out. And what does the woman provide?: energy? vibrancy? Who's in control here? The man? Is this a balanced, sane relationship that is being described? I don't think so. There is a kind of double-think going on here that is akin to "slavery is freedom". Even if you apply the non-gender specific definition of "masculine" and "feminine" so that those in a same-sex relationship may apply the techniques suggested, there is still something strange going on. There are some vaild and usable points that are brought up, but by and large, any deeper understanding of highly-charged words like 'love', 'spirituality'and even 'gifts' is glossed over in favor of vague New Age generalizations. If you are an independent man or woman, you may want to also read "The Manipulated Man" by Esther Vilar. I provides a good counterpoint to Mr. Deida's spiritual/sexual goulash.
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Summary: Now I know why they invented Happy Hour
Review: I gave this book four stars instead of five because part of me wants to hold back and say "Waitaminute, let's give women some more credit." On one hand, I chuckled because yes, David Deida accurately describes several of the maddening mind games that women play. On the other hand, if I dare agree that Deida is absolutely right, then it means I'm also agreeing that women are irrational, overly-emotional, mind-screwing loons who need extensive psychotherapy. When I read Deida's suggestions, I see he has some good points, but... if women are really THAT high-maintenance, why bother? I'd rather spend an evening with a six-pack, ESPN and my best buddies instead of trying to decipher my wife's saying one thing but meaning something else. I'm conflicted because I want to give women benefit of the doubt -- they can't possibly be this irrational. Or can they? This book may just explain why man invented Happy Hour.
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Summary: Must reading for every man
Review: I have taken 7 seminars from John Gray, The Sterling Weekend and many seminars from David Deida...this is the most useful manual/orientation to life as a male that I have encountered. The material isn't just good to know. It is transformational. Once you read it you can't go on living the way you were. You have to step up the quality of your life. The book makes it clear and compelling how to do so.
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Summary: Helpful insights into personal daily experience
Review: I read Deida's book as a sounding board for my experience as a man and an intimate companion. The insights I have gained have been extremely helpful in promoting balance and truthfulness in my relationships with women, men and the world in general.
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Summary: Good for those raised in matriarchal families
Review: I was raised in a family in which mom ruled and dad was the weak agent that always said "Yes honey". I didn't have any good role model of what a balanced man-woman relationship should be. Previous relationships failed and in those my girlfriends at some point demanded me to be more "macho" and less nice. They were very well educated and intellectual women, so it was difficult for me to understand this apparent contradiction. When I read Deida I was amazed. Some of the things he says are exactly the ones my girlfriends requested from me. They eventually dumped me because of my lack of masculinity. After reading Deida I decided to make some changes based on what he said. The results were outstanding. I'm much more successful with women (all of them smart, feminist, and intellectual), and things are changing for the better. I admit that some of his chapters didn't convince me much. But all the rest is very useful, especially if you didn't grow up with a masculine role model at home.
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Summary: Doers Love It; Slackers Hate It
Review: I've noticed that the positive reviews of this book all are by people who say they've taken the advice, while the pans all have come from people who put forth a lot of excuses for why the book would never apply to them or contains advice unpalatable to them. I've received this same reaction from people to whom I've suggested the book or to whom I've read passages. Those who refuse to even try the advice in "Way of the Superior Man" truly seem unable to comprehend what richness of life they are missing.Many reviews here have misconstrued the advice to say that the woman should not help with family income or other relationship- or lifestyle- work. Nothing in the book claims any such thing; but the book does offer a fundamental paradigm shift in identity for anyone in a relationship who will simply try the advice for even a single day. This book rocked my world to its very foundation and changed my view of life at the most profound possible level. I was moved to tears (manly ones, though, of course) by the last three chapters. I was amazed at how the book just kept getting better and better and better. Most self-help books run out of steam by the end, or leave a reader feeling: "Yeah, yeah, I get it already, I don't need to see every possible permutation of the patterns you've been describing for page after numbing page," but this book just keeps building and building in intensity until it reaches a mighty crescendo. At the same time, the language simultaneously becomes more earthy and more direct. The building urgency and impact of the message, couched in ever-more human, no-bull, language, turns every sentence into divine poetry. Lines like: "There is nothing to wait for and no one to blame," spoke to me at the very deepest levels. And I was knocked almost out of my chair by the line: "You were born as a sacrifice." It is amazing how those six short words sum up the entire meaning of life. The message for the reader, male or female, seems to be: Get off your ass and start making something special of your life and your relationships. This book identifies the deep truths about the healthiest viewpoints for the two genders to hold about their individual identities, and if thought of on a societal scope, it also points to the reason this nation is saddled with a leviathan government run amok in the Sysyphean task of taking care of all the self-proclaimed victims and professional excuse-makers who leach off this great land of ours. I urge this book upon anyone with even a glimmer of surviving self-respect. If you apply it to your life, you'll never look back.
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Summary: The question remains unaswered: how do you activate a woman
Review: It's a great book. But if I chose to paraphrase the book in a negative way: do everything that needs to be done towards your own goals and your woman will be happy.
But what if you need HER to get off her proverbial bottom and do stuff?
I don't have to be a rocket scientist, nor a woman, to tell you that if you keep doing things for somebody, they'll love you for it. Kind of. For a while...
None of the books I've seen yet are, however, able to answer the question HOW to motivate a woman on the occasions where simple physical, boring labor is required and get her to DO things.
"Cinderella Complex" points out that women naturally turn passive in a relationship and it yields them unhappy. That book does not give any cues to the MAN, as to how to solve that. Only the woman herself can catch it and avoid it.
John Gray and David Deida both provide a similar message about setting the "romantic trap" for a woman by acting manly and doing things in spite of her, for her, doing more than her. But once you "catch" her how do you get her to be 50% of the relationship if she was wooed by your workaholic ways?
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Summary: good book,
Review: the book has very nice ideas, however a lot needs to be developed
and maybe the author has done so, by writing other books "the way of the superior lover" "intimate Communion" which as i beleive makes readers lost, i mean the books supposedly are dealing with the same subject,
why make 3 or books when you can group them into 1 and give the reader the value he is looking for?
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