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Summary: Cannot recommend enough
Review: This book enabled me to not only understand my mother and why she has always acted so poorly, but also to begin to forgive a very bitter past. It has taken years, but now, we have a different, more healthy relationship. I have recommended this book to other family members, and also to friends with borderline mothers. It is essential to understanding and coping with borderline difficulties, and can allow you to grow and find peace and happiness at last.
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Summary: highly recommended
Review: This book has helped me immeasurably in understanding my anxieties and fears. Reading about childhood experiences just like mine in the pages of this book has helped me to feel less alone, and to better understand myself as the natural product of an unusual childhood environment. It is non-clinical, very readable (I found it engrossing) and hugely informative. Tips for dealing with my mother are practical and helpful.
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Summary: A Welcome Find
Review: This book is a lifeline to sanity for any child of a mother who suffers from borderline personality disorder. The first chapters dissect this complex disease more thoroughly than I've read in any other book, and the final section explains how to cope with the volatile relationships that form between mother and child. Every page contains a wealth of information that is simultaneously therapeutic and proactive. The validation that came with being able to relate to the experiences of other children living with this was priceless (as well as being long overdue). I have read dozens of books about borderline personality disorder, but none (until now) addressed the consequences the disease has on children of mothers suffering from the disorder. The book seems to focus on the relationships daughters have with their borderline mothers, but does deal with the impact it has on sons, as well.
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Summary: Validation and good advice
Review: This book is an outstanding description of the many faces of borderline mothers. It validates my experience and explains--even after years of therapy and some success in setting limits--why I still vacillate in my loyalty to and my distancing from a person who changes behaviors based on her own ruminations rather than on provocation. Reading the book is an emotional experience. I kept my journal nearby to jot notes on my reactions and memories that surfaced so as to discuss them with my therapist. The references to concentration camps resonate with me; the information on fathers was helpful; the recommendations for self-protection and maintaining a relationship (if possible) very true to my learned experience. It is crucial for the adult child to have some understanding of the mother's inner turmoil; that understanding curbs retaliation and alleviates the adult child's sense of powerlessness. I will read this book again now more slowly, will recommend it to my siblings, and refer to it in the future.
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Summary: Not Light Reading
Review: This book is intense, especially if you happen to be the child of a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder. The author breaks types of Borderline mothering into categories, recognizing that often times categories overlap. Well described and I would have liked to have seen more suggestions for healing at the end. In any case, approach this with care, it is perhaps best read under the care of a therapist or psychiatrist.
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Summary: A waste of money for those with sons in mind
Review: This book should be retitled "Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her DAUGHTERS Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship". The author passes on sons feeling they will end up in prison or narsistic and marrying someone like their mother to continue the cycle. It was a real let down and after reading the introduction I dind not continue the book.
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Summary: Good book albeit deceptive.
Review: This is a good book for understanding what I call the abusive mother. I have a problem with the pathologising of abusive people nowadays though, including "borderlines."In my personal opinion, after years of study, I think borderline is just another way of saying narcissistic and possibly even antisocial/psychopathic. Don't believe everything you hear and read from the "professionals," by the way, borderline personality disorder was merely invented so that the drug companies can make a fortune off of the "afflicted." Borderline mothers are NOT victims either, and I feel no pity for them, whatsoever. Their only goal is in destroying their children, not helping them. They are not afraid of losing anything, they are selfish, inconsiderate, antisocial narcissists.
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Summary: Great Book for ADULT Children of Borderlines
Review: This is a great book for the ADULT children of borderlines, and one which provides very crystal clear views of borderline mothers. Unfortunately, I bought the book to figure out how to deal with a borderline situation with my soon-to-be-ex-wife and my young children. The general information is very useful. Dr. Lawson should write a book for parents who have children of a younger age as well. I'd buy that too!
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Summary: Good Effort Mistitled
Review: This is a great book, but it should have been subtitled "Helping Her (Adult) Children...." The book makes the presumption that the reader is an adult child of someone with BPD, yet it is useful in profile for people with young children who have borderline parents. Divorce, or a strong parent working with a borderline spouse are not considered in this text, which is a weakness for an otherwise highly informative book.
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Summary: A MUST READ!!! THERE IS A LITTLE BORDERLINE IN MOST OF US!
Review: This is THE BEST book I have ever read on this topic! Because,we all come from various places,every woman who is raising a child,should read this book early on in the child's life. Sometimes,we,as parents,say things to children in an angry moment! WE,forget the incident in a matter of a few minutes.It seems to be so insignificant.But,not to the child! Whatever we said,can,and no doubt will,scar that child for life! I am 60 yrs old, and this book gave me a real awakening! This should be preventive reading for anyone raising children. I guarantee most will recognize themselves in this book somewhere.
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