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Summary: Blown Away!
Review: I recieved my copy of "Understanding The Borderline Mother" 2 days ago and I have almost read the entire book. I began with a highlighter in my hand to highlight things that related to me as a "borderline mother". After just 2 chapters I noticed that the entire pages were almost highlighted! This is the most accurate, and in-depth book I have read on the subject. My realization of what I have put my children through devastated me. Today I had a discussion with my 2 boys, ages 26 and 13. The older son witnessed the majority of my "borderline personality" since I was not diagnosed and medicated until 5 years ago. He described to me that after years of my rages, my inconsistencies, my depression, my impulsive behavior, my lack of concern for him on occasion actually caused him to become "numb" and deeply sad most of his life. My younger son said that he does not know from day to day which mom will pick him up from school, or when I will suddenly fly into a rage. Wow...It was almost as if they both had read this book and were quoting it. I had no idea how I have so drastically affected my sons, while all the time I REALLY believed that I was a good and loving mother. I have been crying ever since our discussion, and feel a very deep sadness. The book is a MUST for mothers who have been diagnosed or think that they may have BPD. And it is not a bad idea to let your older children read it so that they can identify with other children of mothers with this disorder.
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Summary: RISE ABOVE YOUR RAISING - MOOD DISORDERS & ANGER
Review: I strongly recommend this book for anyone seeking to find help with mood disorders, identity issues, self-esteem issues, reoccurring unresolved anger and troubling relationships. Excellent compliments to this book are: The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders: An Interactive Self-Help Guide by Joseph Santoro and Ronald Cohen; Treating Attachment Disorders: From Theory to Therapy by Karl Heinz Brisch and Kenneth Kronenberg; Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man by Scott Wetzler; The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment by Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert Pressman; Emotional Blackmail: When People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward and Donna Frazier; Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown; Toxic Coworkers: How to Deal with Dysfunctional People on the Job by Alan Cavaiola and Neil Lavender. And if you want to pursue the subject even further, you may be interested in reading The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple: A Psychoanalytic Perspective On Marital Treatment.
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Summary: conscientious empathy and the best interests of a child
Review: it is highly unlikely that , (all things being equal), custody of children , (when volatility ala the borderline has shattered the family unit), will be approached with the borderline's medical records and behaviours in mind. I as an ex partner of a borderlne, find this deplorable and inexcusable, given the obvious connection between troubled mothers-their attempts to repeat their childhood environment in their adult homes, and the innocent children who are adversely affected. I personally am going to do my best to assure that I at some point in time, am named the sole custodian of my two year old. My ex already has children in foster care, sexual abuse counselling, respite, child welfare funded daycare etc etc. I say the cycle stops here. And stops here now. I gave this woman and the "family" everything I could for three years and our two year old was born of love and good intentions. After repeated examples of severe self centered and egregiously dysfunctional behaviour, my sympathy, empathy, compassion and respect for my ex has vanished completely. I am now struggling with my own problems of anger and depression, and especially frustration over the limbo situation I find my two year old in. God Bless those of you who persevere in your efforts to understand and help the borderline. What I see is a lot of enabling and a hell of a lot of pain being experienced by these chameleon's self centeredness and inability to follow through with therapeutic regimes. Chos reigns supreme-not for my daughter!!!!! it is particularily disturbing to witness countless people being drawn into the web of deceit, only to be cast into the borderline's shadows when she either has no need for their approval or when they call her on her chaos. Deplorable and unfathomable nonsense. Bloody dangerous stuff is what it is. Do respond.
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Summary: this book helped me
Review: My mother is a very chaotic person, and is constantly creating chaos among my 7 sibs and myself. I could never figure out why she created chaos, until I read this book. Now I know what I am dealing with. Please pray for me that I can extricate myself from this chaos. It is so confusing to me. I think I might be a borderline, too.
Steve
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Summary: The Best Aid I have found to help understand BPD
Review: My recent diagnosis of BPD added a whole new section to my personal library as I researched, and tried to understand this disorder. If I had it to do all over again I would just buy this one book. I purchased this book for my daughter and in reading it myself, found a clear, understandable. comprehensive resource for myself. It is written in such a way as to be easily readable. In doing so it comes through as forthright, non judgemental and full of the information I was so desperately seeking. This is a great book for anyone involved with BPD, in any way.
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Summary: A remarkable, valuable book
Review: Reading this book gave me chills. It helped me understand my childhood (living with a borderline witch) and explained why I seemed to flip in my parent's estimation from all-good to all-bad. It is clear, concise, and well-written. When I read it, it was as though I was reading about my own childhood. My therapist and I use it as a jumping off place to talk about my childhood. It has been invaluable to me. I highly recommend it.
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Summary: This author must have been hiding in our childhood home!
Review: Reading this book made me feel a part of something larger, perhaps much like those survivors of the holocaust: Only they could really know what it was like, no matter how much they tried to explain it to others. This book has let my sister and me know there are others out there who know what it was like for us. Somehow that is refreshing, letting you breathe more easily when talking or thinking about the terrors of your childhood. It was emotionally taxing, but so empowering. I do not feel the need to explore the borderline topic any further- this book says it all. Many thanks to Ms. Lawson for her book.
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Summary: A must for adult children of a BPD mother
Review: The best book on this topic I have ever read. Changed my life.
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Summary: Excellent Introductary Text
Review: This author writes so concisely and clearly about this subject that novices and seasoned mental health professionals will carry away a new or better understanding of the illness. An alternate title might even be "Borderline Personality Disorder for Dummies." The author identifies four separate composites or profiles for the different kinds of borderline mothers; thereby being especially useful in exploding the myth that all borderlines act and sound alike. Many persons suffering from this ailment go undiagnosed because they do not threaten suicide, or engage in otherwise self-destructive behavior. Moreover, although the author deals only with the female parent, as the adult child of a borderline father I felt it was helpful to those struggling in that same situation. The section devoted to advice in dealing with a borderline parent apply to those of us with borderline fathers.
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Summary: Stop Walking on Eggshells; Coping When Someone you Care Abon
Review: This book brought me such hope and comfort. I feel like someone wrote it just for me! I not only have had to survive a BPD parent, but also a BPD, older sibling. Life was real tough, and I didnt go for counseling until I was in my fifties. Am now fifty-eight,and have had a great growing experience from reading this book. It is a must for recovery and growth. I shall read it many times... Gail L
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