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Summary: Finally...
Review: A book to answer questions some people have no idea about. Unfortuanly for children raised by parents with BPD, they get the wrong impression. Like someone on here, who posted naivly.. It isn't just the kids who suffer, and if you have BPD and you have kids, I highly reccomend this book. Realizing your flaws and denials about yourself can help you out in a lot of ways...
I pity the child who goes through a life truley believing their parent(s) didn't love them. It is a real disease, that can be treated/cure/helped. It is also, abuse, if you have this illness and don't try to get help. Please read this book to understand.I apologize to any children who feel anger and hurt towards their Mother, or Father (in some cases) You still have today though, and you can see what really happend. Only if you can tear yourself away from your self pity long enough to understand.
Again, I am sorry you endured this.
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Summary: Comments to borderline mothers from the author
Review: A sequel to this book is currently underway so that I can clarify the latest and most helpful treatment approaches for borderline mothers (and their children). No mother chooses to have this disorder. It results from a variety of circumstances, all beyond her control or choice. There is no shame in recognizing the nature of a disorder. There can only be shame that one should be blamed for HAVING the disorder. Effective treatment is possible. It is not a question of whether or not a borderline mother LOVES her children. LOVE is inherent in being a mother. No human being loves perfectly. I only wish forgiveness came easier to us all and for us all. (I gave the book 5 stars only because, at the time, it was my best effort and I sincerely regret that the publisher set the price so terribly high). Additional information can be found at: www.borderlinemothers.com.
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Summary: You'll say "Eureka!" and gain real insight into BPD.
Review: A superbly written book that even a layperson can understand. This book was almost too painful for me to read; I believe my mother has BPD (waif/hermit). Thankfully, I did not develop the disorder myself, but my sister(s) have. People with BPD seek therapy for sympathy, not for insight into their behavior. There is no reasoning with someone who cannot "see" reality. However, there are coping mechanisms for adult children, as the author outlines. I long blamed myself for my mother's chronic depression and unhappiness. Now I live in exile from my family, and while it's wrenching, I also concede I cannot reach them. BPD blocks the way. This book was enormously helpful, easy to read, sticks with you. It's also helped me understand our unstable 15-year old niece, who came to live with us after both her parents died three years ago. She comes from a horrific home rife with dysfunction. She's BPD-bound herself. From reading this book, and equipped with new insights, I can handle her erratic, crazy behavior; not take it as personally. As for my own mother, I am lonely for the illusion of her, not for the reality. If you're coping with BPD, please, read this book.
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Summary: Great for children and BPD parents as well.
Review: As a child of a bordeline mother and a borderline mother myself, I found this book invaluable. Determined not to make the same mistakes my mother made, although I have been in therapy for nearly 5 years, and making good progress, I was poorly equipped to understand everything that I was doing, and I was able to see in the mirror, so to speak, by reading this book. I have tried to get my 15 year old daughter to read it without success. Perhaps later when she is more receptive to the fact that her mother is flawed and can accept my apologies for my behaviors she will read it. As soon as I was diagnosed I sent her to therapy, which has been invaluable to her. One of the things I like about this book are the references to Lewis Carrol's "Alice in WOnderland". Carroll (Charles Dodgson) was hypothesized to be a boderline in the book "The Agony of Lewis Carroll", which is an excellent treatment of his work, I believe, although it has been shot down by Caroll scholars. BPD is a terrible illness. I'd rather have anything else, as the self-loathing, rigidity and delusions are so irrational and so difficult to rid oneself of. The AVERAGE length of therapy for BPD for a patient going twice a week used to be four years. Most insurance plans don't support that type of therapy, and many victims don't have insurance. Many give up because they dont have the community networks to support them. BPD replicates itself in families and is growing in numbers. It knows no income level, no race or nationality. It has existed for centuries, and its dimensions are just being understood. Encourage your library to put this book on their shelf as it is a great mental health resource.
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Summary: I wasn't the crazy one after all!
Review: As a person formerly married to an undiagnosed borderline personality disorder, I can attest to the fact that the disorder can have devastating impact on others, especially the children. The book was particularly helpful to me in providing insight into why, and what I went through. By the time I finally got out, I had been questioning my own sanity. The book notes this as a common reaction of those involved with a borderline. Unfortunately, I was not able to rescue my sons. The Virginia court system is heavily biased toward women, and (as mentioned in the book as a common personality characteristic), the BPD mother presents in a way that makes charges against her seem petty and unbelievable. The court gave the boys to her, she turned them against me, and they went from A-students with me, to drop outs and fully dependent on her. The book is written for the general, but educated public. The referencing of clinical studies will be helpful for the more serious student. It is too bad that not enough clinicians understand the dynamics of the disorder, it could have made a big difference in my life.
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Summary: Buy this Book
Review: As psychotherapist I have many clients who are adult children of borderline mothers. I intend to have each of them read this excellent book. Dr. Lawson's writing is from the heart and flows like poetry while, at the same time, clearly depicting what makes these desperately ill mothers tick and why their children are so injured. I especially liked her section describing the kinds of men that marry borderline women. I know that this book can give hope to women who are borderline mothers as well as to their sons and daughters.
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Summary: Wonderful for those who live and work with persons with BPD
Review: As someone who is and has been both personally and professionally involved with persons with BPD, I highly recommend this book. This is the best material I have ever seen about the family dynamics involved with BPD. Professionals will gain concrete, accurate, and easy insight into what the families of persons with BPD live with day to day. Persons who are personally involved with persons with BPD will find understanding, affirmation, and hope that they are not alone. When one is involved with a person with BPD, often the lonliest feeling is that no one else sees what you see. This book will assure you that others do see and that you can positively interact and cope with the person you love, whether that is your parent, spouse, or child. A wonderful book and a must read.
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Summary: Frighteningly accurate
Review: As the "no good" child of a borderline mother, this book was very helpful as well as frightening. If you are the child of a borderline, I would highly recommend that you read it in the context of therapy. It is clearly written, easily understood and to the point. However, it spends far more time defining and diagnosing than explaining how to transcend BPD challenges. Perhaps this was not the purpose. Regardless, there were a few statements about how often anxiety and depression are lifelong battles for children of borderline mothers. I haven't found this to be true on a personal level and hope others understand that the anxiety or depression felt from growing up with a borderline mother can be controlled and eradicated almost entirely. Overall a very good book, comprehensive and very accurate. I found it very helpful but had to take it in small doses.
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Summary: From another author about BPD
Review: As the author of "Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Back Your Life when Someone You Care About has BPD," I am so pleased that finally we have another book about the effects of BPD behavior on family members. This book is easy to read and packed with information that you need to know if you had a mother with BPD traits. I spoke with the author, and she agreed with me that these effects are not limited to children, so I would recommend the book to anyone in a relationship with a person with BPD. My only wish is that the book could have been organizaed for easy reference in terms of the BP's thoughts, feelings and behaviors and the resulting thoughts, feelings and behaaviors of the non-BP child. I wrote a chart for myself, culling the information from all the different sections, and will put it up on BPDCentral at (www BPDCentral com) for those looking for aan easy chart. A must-have for anyone coping iwth BPD behavior. Finally, Lawson's type of BPs takes much clinical information and makes it easy to access. Adult children will probably find that their parent leans toward one of the four types, but will probably see elements of the three other types in their parent. People interested in this book may also be interested in books for those with mothers who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. These include TRAPPED IN THE MIROR by Elan Golomb and CHILDREN OF THE SELF-ABSORBED by Nina W. Brown. Other must-have books of interest inclide Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward and Toxic Parents.
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Summary: From another author about BPD
Review: As the author of "Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Back Your Life when Someone You Care About has BPD," I am so pleased that finally we have another book about the effects of BPD behavior on family members. This book is easy to read and packed with information that you need to know if you had a mother with BPD traits. I spoke with the author, and she agreed with me that these effects are not limited to children, so I would recommend the book to anyone in a relationship with a person with BPD. My only wish is that the book could have been organizaed for easy reference in terms of the BP's thoughts, feelings and behaviors and the resulting thoughts, feelings and behaaviors of the non-BP child. I wrote a chart for myself, culling the information from all the different sections, and will put it up on BPDCentral at (www BPDCentral com) for those looking for aan easy chart. A must-have for anyone coping iwth BPD behavior. Finally, Lawson's type of BPs takes much clinical information and makes it easy to access. Adult children will probably find that their parent leans toward one of the four types, but will probably see elements of the three other types in their parent. People interested in this book may also be interested in books for those with mothers who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. These include TRAPPED IN THE MIROR by Elan Golomb and CHILDREN OF THE SELF-ABSORBED by Nina W. Brown. Other must-have books of interest inclide Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward and Toxic Parents.
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