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Summary: Now that you're out, read this!
Review: After you read your "coming out" book, this is the next book you should read. I must say that it has excellent advice on dealing with your inner expectations and ideals - reality checks, etc. The book is an awesome read, serious, and easy to understand. Prince Charming is out there! This book will help you get started. I do agree that this book is more for the beginner, and for those looking for serious relationships.
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Summary: Super book!
Review: "My Guy: A Gay Man's Guide to a Lasting Relationship" is beautifully written, and chock full of useful information and advice on relationships. While specifically geared toward gay male relationships, the book has value for both gay and straight readers alike, and offers practical tips that the reader can utilize right away. Dr. Kantor uses his professional expertise to address practical nitty-gritty of finding and keeping a loving relationship---and does so in a useable, easy-to-read format. A great book!
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Summary: Mother-Wit and Father-Wisdom--For Those Who Can Hear
Review: A worthy book-unflinching but also competent and caring. Kantor affirms that a relationship has many values, then offers a nine-step guide to ready oneself toward gaining it. His candid insider's view of the gay male "scene" (and psyche) incisively presents much "dirty laundry," but only the better to wash it clean.Effective? Well, he does as much as printed words can to help any gay man who is already together enough potentially to be capable of these self-improvements on his own without formal therapy. To such candidates he issues gentle wake-up calls away from general immaturity of self, and ineffectiveness in seeking a man. Become your better self for your hoped-for "better half." (Only hope that the man you seek has also already read this book-or didn't have to...) We have here considerable craftiness-not bad manipulation, just a laser-radar for finding gay men virtually everywhere. We have mature strategy and tactics. We don't have to be doormats to the other person, but we do need to be flexible, and descend from the many "high horses" which human flesh, men especially, and gay men also, are heir to. (Or as he says, balance between being "a shy shrinking violet and an intrusive Venus flytrap.") So Kantor's subtle, complex, both-and view (present in his other books also) counsels balance. He says act happy but not euphoric. Be calm but not withdrawn. Be assertive but not pushy. And more. Oh, and all of it seasoned with frequent (and relevant) fine flashes of the best Jewish-mother wry wit, too. Seasoned wisdom here.
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Summary: Dating 101
Review: Appropriate advice for those just coming out to the gay scene, but much too basic for those with a few years experience under their belt. Common sense pointers such as work-out, dress nice, exude self-confidence and get out as much as possible to network. The author has the annoying habit of using dated terms like "sisters" to describe gay friends and pushes his own monogamous relationship as an "ideal".
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Summary: Finally good sound advice for gay men to follow!
Review: Finally a book that is directed towards gay men written by a gay man who is experienced in helping others find stable, healthy, monogamous relationships. This is what many of us need out here - not another relationship-touting self-help book that goes by stereotypes and pre-conceived notions and leaves you feeling even more hopeless if you are indeed hoping to build a real relationship with someone of the same sex. It is possible and Dr. Kantor gives us a wonderful step-by-step approach. I find myself going back and reading again certain sections and committing it to memory. THANK YOU, Dr. Kantor, for this wonderful guide. It is much needed and much appreciated.
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Summary: Finally good sound advice for gay men to follow!
Review: I had hoped from the title and other reviews that this book might provide some insight on the difficulties gay males might encounter as they forge a relationship outside the stereotypes. I found advice so insipid, that anyone who needs it should probably give up on having a relationship and start with basic life skill courses. This book is for dummies.
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Summary: Too Stupid for words!
Review: I had hoped from the title and other reviews that this book might provide some insight on the difficulties gay males might encounter as they forge a relationship outside the stereotypes. I found advice so insipid, that anyone who needs it should probably give up on having a relationship and start with basic life skill courses. This book is for dummies.
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Summary: My Guy
Review: Martin Kantor's advice has become my new mantra for overcoming
the pitfalls of the meeting-scene. For me, a straight woman with the mating heebie-jeebies, his humor alone is as good a remedy as
anything.
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Summary: Surprisingly Profound Yet Very Simple
Review: Martin Kantor's book, My Guy: A Gay man's Guide to a Lasting Relationship is one of those few books that I would classify as
one of my Bibles. I enjoyed reading this book because it was in-
sightful and highly motivating. It also gives valuable informa-
tion on psychological concepts, etc.
Although the book is geared to a gay clientele, individuals of
other orientations can certainly benefit from reading this book.
Once My Guy is read completely, it can be refered to again to re- fresh one's memory or to consult about certain issues.
In the introduction it stated that many other books on the same subject tend to be superficial and light weight in approach.
I found this to be true as far as another book that I read en-
titled Husband Hunting Made Easy. It had advice such as "Never date
anyone better looking than you; Don't date men who wax; and Never date anyone with the same first name."
In addition, My Guy presents information on how to become Mr. Right for someone else, how to worm one's way into another's heart, and, what I found to be truly helpful, the concept that one needs to network with others in order to meet that special
person.
As a person who has done historical and cultural research, I
find Kantor's advice to not dedicate one's life to becoming famous and/or leaving ones' mark on the world somewhat difficult to follow. However this is one area where perhaps some of us need to work on or modify somewhat in order to fullfill our needs. (This advice that is being referred to is found in Kantor's section on distractions.)
An important message for gay men to hear is what surely is the
main idea of this book, which in summary is, "Being in a relation
ship is better than not being in one. So get into a relationship! Stop looking for that knight in shining armour. If a guy is good enough, then go for it."
Reading Kantor's book with its step by step process will definitely change your life.
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Summary: Here's Another Book that Became My Bible
Review: Martin Kantor's book, My Guy: A Gay man's Guide to a Lasting Relationship is one of those few books that I would classify as
one of my Bibles. I enjoyed reading this book because it was in-
sightful and highly motivating. It also gives valuable informa-
tion on psychological concepts, etc.
Although the book is geared to a gay clientele, individuals of
other orientations can certainly benefit from reading this book.
Once My Guy is read completely, it can be refered to again to re- fresh one's memory or to consult about certain issues.
In the introduction it stated that many other books on the same subject tend to be superficial and light weight in approach.
I found this to be true as far as another book that I read en-
titled Husband Hunting Made Easy. It had advice such as "Never date
anyone better looking than you; Don't date men who wax; and Never date anyone with the same first name."
In addition, My Guy presents information on how to become Mr. Right for someone else, how to worm one's way into another's heart, and, what I found to be truly helpful, the concept that one needs to network with others in order to meet that special
person.
As a person who has done historical and cultural research, I
find Kantor's advice to not dedicate one's life to becoming famous and/or leaving ones' mark on the world somewhat difficult to follow. However this is one area where perhaps some of us need to work on or modify somewhat in order to fullfill our needs. (This advice that is being referred to is found in Kantor's section on distractions.)
An important message for gay men to hear is what surely is the
main idea of this book, which in summary is, "Being in a relation
ship is better than not being in one. So get into a relationship! Stop looking for that knight in shining armour. If a guy is good enough, then go for it."
Reading Kantor's book with its step by step process will definitely change your life.
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