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Summary: For the educated and progressives
Review: A combination of a European upbringing and a California lifestyle made this an intesting book. In combination with knowing a number of well educated, stable, sane, really nice polyamory couples. The fact is, the book is a valuable book for anyone be they single, married or interested in the polyamory lifestyle. The authors are not trying to convince anyone to become polyamory but are simply hoping to educate the curious and help those who have chosen the lifestyle and now find themselves wondering how to make it work, since the positives out weight the negatives. Those who live in the greater San Francisco bay area, and places like Santa Barbara, and Boston, New York and any place where educated, progressive people live will find the book interesting. This is not a lifetsyle of "swinging" or having sex with strangers. It is more like an extended family or as my husband jokes, like having your ex's and your spouse and being one big happy family. Who won't like the book. People who are fundamentalist religious types. Those who are staid and never curious about other lifestyle choices. Just because you read it and become informed doesn't mean you choose this path in life. But it is the best book on the subject of polyamory that I have seen. Oh and polyamory is NOT polygamy. Which is what the Mormons practiced and which I think is sexist since the man can have as many wives as he wants. Polyamory if about having an open and completely honest sexual, mental etc relationship with more than one person.
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Summary: A must read for everyone
Review: A marvelous explination of the lovestyles called Polyamory. A must read to those that embrase and live the life to those that just want a true understanding.
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Summary: What about the children?
Review: As you read the reviews of this sadly misguided book, ask yourself one question---Has anyone mentioned the children? Examine all reviews prior to the date of this one and you will see that the children are far from everyone's mind who revels in this book's ideas. Those advocating this kind of behavior have a "me-first" perspective. Don't be deceived by this shallow book. Be a giver---a giver to the young and defenseless---rather than one who grabs after his or her own pleasure. Exaulting pleasure is a big mistake. Ask someone who is elderly who has wasted his or her life on pleasure-seeking and you may wake up quicker than you think. It takes courage to change.
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Summary: An excellent overview of an alternate lovestyle
Review: author of DREAMING YOUR REAL SELF: A PERSONAL APPROACH TO DREAM INTERPRETATION and DREAM BACK YOUR LIFE Monogamy isn't the only way to be in loving relationships. We don't expect to have exclusive or closed relationships with friends, and many people are able to love more than one person intimately. Responsible non-monogamay doesn't mean you are unable to be in a committed relationship or that you are sleeping around, cheating, or risking STDs. If you have considered polyamory in any form (and there are many ways to be polyamorous) this book will help you examine the pitfalls and promises. The suggestions for honesty, compassionate understanding, and dealing with jealousy in relationships will be informative even for those who decide poly isn't for them. Conscious adults will appreciate being reminded that they can design their relationships as they see fit.
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Summary: Fast Read, Packed w/ Useful Info & Ideas for Non-Monogamy
Review: Couples and Individuals will love this fast read, jam-packed with useful information about responsible non-monogamous relationships. The sections are clearly defined and illustrated, making this book the perfect primer for the practice of Polyamory. This is a concise and easily referenced collection of modern thought / research on the subject & Practice of responsible non-monogamy, without complicated technical jargon or reference to obscure medical journals.... In other words, it is a great, easy to read book that you can share with your friends, Lover(s) and prospective love interests. For those familiar with the basic concepts of non-monogamy / Polyamory--and the work of Richard Sutphen (Radical Spirituality), Wayne Dyer, etc.--"Polyamory : The New Love Without Limits : Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships,"
by Deborah M, Dr. Anapol, will be a perfect addition to your library (if you can get it back from your friends). This book introduces the subject to the beginner with comprehensive, fun and exciting concepts that will peak the interest of nearly anyone. For those who are sick of being bound to ridiculous, antiquated standards of "morality" that lead to Divorce, heartbreak and disputes over children, this book offers a wonderful, Sensible alternative ! However, people with extreme jealous tendencies may not be ready for this New Age philosophy of "Love without Limits" (or, Nearly without limits). These practices Work, in relationships, without question--if all the Love/sexual partners are in agreement. Each type of Multiple relationship is described with detail and diagramed for reference while discussing these issues with your Loved one(s). The Author of this book did a wonderful job collecting information & resources to help those along the path, which are also seeking a more Honest, Sensible, Responsible and Self-fulfilling lifestyle. The flow and ease with-which the author explains these issues (and the occasional cartoons) should help anyone break the ice, if they want to discuss "Opening" their relationship to a higher level of Experience, Love and Trust.
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Summary: Fast Read, Packed w/ Useful Info & Ideas for Non-Monogamy
Review: Couples and Individuals will love this fast read, jam-packed with useful information about responsible non-monogamous relationships. The sections are clearly defined and illustrated, making this book the perfect primer for the practice of Polyamory. This is a concise and easily referenced collection of modern thought / research on the subject & Practice of responsible non-monogamy, without complicated technical jargon or reference to obscure medical journals.... In other words, it is a great, easy to read book that you can share with your friends, Lover(s) and prospective love interests. For those familiar with the basic concepts of non-monogamy / Polyamory--and the work of Richard Sutphen (Radical Spirituality), Wayne Dyer, etc.--"Polyamory : The New Love Without Limits : Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships,"
by Deborah M, Dr. Anapol, will be a perfect addition to your library (if you can get it back from your friends). This book introduces the subject to the beginner with comprehensive, fun and exciting concepts that will peak the interest of nearly anyone. For those who are sick of being bound to ridiculous, antiquated standards of "morality" that lead to Divorce, heartbreak and disputes over children, this book offers a wonderful, Sensible alternative ! However, people with extreme jealous tendencies may not be ready for this New Age philosophy of "Love without Limits" (or, Nearly without limits). These practices Work, in relationships, without question--if all the Love/sexual partners are in agreement. Each type of Multiple relationship is described with detail and diagramed for reference while discussing these issues with your Loved one(s). The Author of this book did a wonderful job collecting information & resources to help those along the path, which are also seeking a more Honest, Sensible, Responsible and Self-fulfilling lifestyle. The flow and ease with-which the author explains these issues (and the occasional cartoons) should help anyone break the ice, if they want to discuss "Opening" their relationship to a higher level of Experience, Love and Trust.
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Summary: Dr. Anapol has a Hit
Review: Dr. Anapol does a marvelous job sharing the innerworkings of polyamorous relationships. I especially enjoy how she peppers the insightful work with personal experiences in polyamorous relationships. Dr. Anapol takes you step by step through the unique world of polyamoury and explores both the blissful blessings and pitfalls to avoid. Raziel-Thadeus.
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Summary: POLYAMORIST BIBLE! IMPROVE YOUR ENTIRE LIFE!
Review: I agree this book is a "must read" for those exploring alternate lovestyles. Even if the practice of polyamory never enters into your relationship, it really helped us deal with jealousy, we learned that jealousy is truely a teacher...and an indicator for needing better communication. My husband and I have expanded our communication skills 100 fold since reading this book....we share so much more of an appreciation for each other. I have a very open mind about sex and the possibilities of polyamory, my husband was on the other end of the scale, because of your book....he too is excited, and more understanding that I don't "reject him"....he realizes that just because I love someone else, doesn't mean I love him less. When the ugly head of jealousy arises in him....we bring out the book....its sort of a Polyamorists BIBLE! The book is definately not for those of closed minds or deep religious, monogomous beliefs...I mean really, how could one person possible satisfy our carnal sexual needs forever. Just like you can have more than one freind...you CAN have more than one lover. The book helped me realize that I do appreciate individual uniquness ... in all aspects of life. Indeed this book has made me a better person, communicator, mother....and hopefully lover. Thanks Deborah!
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Summary: Money?
Review: I believe the common metaphor for this type of omission is "the elephant in the living room." It's big, it's there, and it's not mentioned in this book. If I am sharing expenses with another human being, and they spend money, or call in sick to work, in order to seduce or make love to another person, that puts more financial stress on me. This book failed to convice me that polyamory is a viable lovestyle. However, it did present me with options I hadn't thought of before, and for that it does earn its stars.
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Summary: Money?
Review: I believe the common metaphor for this type of omission is "the elephant in the living room." It's big, it's there, and it's not mentioned in this book. If I am sharing expenses with another human being, and they spend money, or call in sick to work, in order to seduce or make love to another person, that puts more financial stress on me. This book failed to convice me that polyamory is a viable lovestyle. However, it did present me with options I hadn't thought of before, and for that it does earn its stars.
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