Fascinating Womanhood

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Summary: I followed this book thoroughly for two years
Review: This book attracts you if you are having marriage difficulties because it promises you all you would wish for-- to be loved, valued and cherished. I read this book during a time in my life when I was desperate to be noticed and loved again by my husband. I followed it exactly, rereading a chapter every night for two years. I believed what it promised. I consider those two years to be the years in my life where I made the worst choices I've ever made. This book ruined many areas of my life and did not help my marriage in the long run. It brought peace at first since my husband was happy not having to grow and to have me become more and more "fascinating" while he stayed just as unfascinating as ever. The problem with this book is that it's foundations are false. People are responsible for their own behavior and if your husband is irresponsible and isn't loving you it is a problem with him, not with you. He needs to be confronted and change. It doesn't matter how "fascinating" you become. This book could only work if you had a really great husband and it was you that had all the problems, but even then if you followed this book he'd lose respect for you. Please, if you have marriage problems, go and see a marriage counselor, a trained psychologist, so you can base your decisions on accurate foundations. Don't give up your career or stop developing yourself. Don't believe the problem is all with you, that you just aren't "fascinating" enough. Don't dress like an old-fashioned weirdo and be overly self-concious about feminizing all your gestures. This book really will make you confused and waste precious time in your life! The only reason I gave it three stars was because the author is very insightful about what women really desire- it's a pity she doesn't know how they can get it. Read "Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend or if you're single, read "Safe People" by the same authors. Hope I've been able to save someone from "Fascinating Womanhood". Then I'll feel what I've been through is worth it. By the way, the author is not a christian, she's mormon.

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Summary: This book is nothing short of a life changing event
Review: I know alot of the ideas in this book seem to be old and outdated but truly once you have read the book and really put the authors advice to work in your life I can promise you great things can happen. I work with women in domestic violence & rape situations and the last thing I would want to see is a women bowing down to a man. This book teaches women how to improve themselves and by so doing helping to improve others around them (not just their husbands). I'v had this book and Fascinating Girl for about 12 years & it has changed my life for the better. If I had not found these books I probably would have married an Alcholic man and been very unhappy. But instead I have a great husband who is very loving & sensative & a great life. I can't thank Helen enough for the great gift that she gave to me when she wrote this book.

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Summary: Submission doesn't mean you're a doormat!
Review: I failed at one marriage and didn't know what went wrong. A year into my second marriage (that was going well) I read this book. I saw the mistakes I had made before and how to fix them before I ended up down the same road I went down the first time. Also- acting in a way that's pleasing to a man does not mean you're any less an equal to him. After all- you want him to act pleasingly to you! You can't submit to someone who is not your equal. A relationship is about people working together. This book teaches you how to work with your husband and have a joyful marriage to last a lifetime. I highly recommend it to all brides and wives.

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Summary: I HAVE A TWENTY FIVE YEAR TESTIMONY FOR THIS BOOK
Review: I was shocked to read the bad reviews of this book. I first received this book from my sister to help me save a ten year marriage that I nor my husband appreciated. I put it on the shelf for two years saying "YEA RIGHT ! I DON'T THINK SO" I only took it off the shelf after I was ready to learn the tricks of the trade for the next guy. You can't imagine my lack of respect and out right bitterness I had for my husband. There was no other guy I was even tring to see so I decided to use him as my guinea pig. I'M WRITING THIS BECAUSE I KNOW THERE ARE OTHERS OUT THERE JUST LIKE I WAS. Even ones that may have written some of these bad reviews. WHEN I WAS ANGRY WHICH I WAS MANY TIMES I LEARNED TO CHANNEL IT TO THE PROBLEM AND NOT HIM. So Many things to say..One of our daughters is 18YRS old and considering marriage.I'm ordering her a copy now..I just happen to wander here and find these bad reviews. I'm a christian woman now of fifteen years and we cherish our marrige. We both understand it's easier to keep a job than a marrige together. OUTDATED?? THATS WHAT I'VE BEEN TOLD THE BIBLE WAS..GARBAGE?? SEARCH YOURSELF.

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Summary: Fascinating Womanhood
Review: This book was written 20+ years ago and still has present, everday, practical advice for women wanting to understand their feminity and appreciate the art of being a woman. I liked the way Ms. Andelin tells us how men think. That way, we can better understand how men expect us to be. At times, their ideals are way off the mark (the mark being the Bible as the standard) because men are so influenced by society's view of women. Ms. Andelin puts this all in perspective for you, which makes you feel better about yourself. We can't all look like Pamela Anderson, nor do we have to do everything in the home like Martha Stewart, but we can strive to be our personal best, keeping things like beauty and homemaking in balance. Sometimes we just act on how we were raised, disappointing ourselves and others, and it's good to know that as ladies we can change; refine ourselves and polish up our God-given, womanly attributes. Very insightful. This book can be for marrieds or single ladies. One complaint - there's a fine line between being child-like and acting childish, and the content seems to say that acting childish is OK. Regardless, this is a great book--work it, girls!!

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Summary: This book is insightful as well as a "good read"!
Review: As a seventeen year old with a domineering attitude I always wondered why guys just respected me, but never wanted to "date" me. My mom let me borrow her copy of this book and I was amazed at all of the things that I had done wrong! I am an excellent student who doesn't believe that a man is better than a woman, but through this book, I saw how a man should be treated. Just like women don't want a guy to say, you've got big arms (even though it's a compliment for them) and so we shouldn't tell them things that they don't appreciate! I am all for this book, and after a thourough use of my mom's, I'm buying her a new copy to replace the "used" one.

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Summary: a facinating relic
Review: From the standpoint of a woman 25 years old, this book reads like something out of the far past;similar to Victorian and Edwardian ettiquette manuals. The book is interesting to read, though most of the advice sound outdated and just plain bad. Still, it is a very funny book in some places where it intended no humor.

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Summary: Trash
Review: I wrote a college paper about this book along with "The Rules" and I have no regrets doing so. This book is an outdated piece of trash that is not good enough for my garbage can. It basically says to act like a childish moron and worship your husband as God. I read an original copy from my college library which said that if your husband hits you, its all your fault! Hopefully, that has been changed! I believe that men and women are equally intellegint and we don't have to settle in "traditional" domestic roles to be happy. Wake up, people!

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Summary: Looking for an easy way out?
Review: If you are tired of working at an adult relationship, buy this book. It is full of helpful tips on how to shrink yourself down to the right proportions for an insecure man who can't handle marriage to an intellingent, strong, grown-up woman. There is some good advice (on being loving, admiring, and accepting of your mate) all mixed up with a bunch of sexist, woman-hating (or is it woman-fearing?) nonsense. In the movie Pleasantville, there is a scene in which the mother, who has finally become "real" and is now in color, puts gray make-up on her face to try and fit back into her fake world. This is an excellent metaphor for what the author of this book is trying to get women to do. Please, women, forget this nonsense, and take the challenge to be "real" - a real man will appreciate you more, and take pride in your strength.

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Summary: Fascinating distortion of womanhood!
Review: I read some of this book at my college bookstore. Even Marabel Morgan's THE TOTAL WOMAN is better than this mindless garbage! I believe in the Biblical concept of loving submission to one's husband, but this book twists this concept into mush. As Florence Littauer says, "submission doesn't mean stupidity"! I'm glad that God blessed me with a wonderful husband who appreciates an outspoken career woman like me! Contrary to the author's opinion, NO man is attracted to a wife who immaturely expresses her anger by stomping her foot, throwing childish temper tantrums, and putting all the burden of decision-making on him as this books suggests. And since when is femininity determined by the type of fabrics a woman wears (the author suggesting that women shouldn't wear denim, tweed, etc. because they're not feminine)? I've never heard anything more insulting to one's intelligence. It's books like this that have led to the rise of domestic violence (physical, emotional, and sexual) in the church and society as a whole. I recommend books like WAKE UP, WOMEN! by Florence Littauer and WAKE UP, MEN! by her husband Fred; these books teach husbands and wives how to fulfill their God-given roles with common sense!